Boyfriend won't let me have alcohol?

[WitchyPoos]

So story is, me and my boyfriend sometimes work opposite shifts and don't see each other some days at home like passing ships. I do a ten hour shift and have a few gins when home and he's at work he doesn't like it. If I'm on a day off and go out to see a friend in the pub he doesn't like it. Or have a few in the evening on a day off he doesn't like it. Youd think I was 16. I'm 35 🤦🏻‍♀️. I don't harm anyone I'm in my own home and in my own time but it makes me feel that way. I don't drink and ignore normal life he thinks i do. Who is BU in this situation cos I think could be me but why

I think you're drinking a lot but he's in no position to comment if he drinks every night.

What reason does he give for not wanting you to drink? And how much is HE drinking?

@cookiebee
Sorry 🤦🏻‍♀️ I just feel guilty and trying to see reason on if I have done something wrong. My bad for the drip feed

Tiresum? Really???

A few drinks once a week is too much, And at home? And the next week could drink nothing as have work and on call, are you sure 😂

You haven’t done anything wrong at all, it’s just if we had known that he drinks every day, then we would have been more on your side from the off. At first I thought, well maybe he doesn’t like alcohol or the effect it can have, now I just think he is a hypocrite, anyway get rid of him!

A double is 50ml, 3 doubles in 150ml, twice a week is 300ml. For perspective, a liter of gin would last over 3 weeks.

Aside from this, when you are in your own home, causing no trouble to anyone, a working adult, paying your way and raising your son, how fucking dare your boyfriend even dare to mention this!

You sound totally belittled and second guessing. If you have no alcohol problem then you have a partner problem. Does the boyfriend have a problem with alcohol by any chance, you said he drinks EVERY night!

Blimey the hysteria on here about alcohol. We see it time and time again, it is so so weird, and removed from real life.

op you’re doing nothing wrong, I don’t understand it, but there is some posters who have significant issues with alcohol and repeatedly post telling people they are drinking too much if they have any alcohol at all. Who knows what’s going on with them.

look your boyfriend is being a controlling twat, tell him to stop now ,and if he tries to control you again, end it.

And clearly you’ve issues with alcohol so at least be honest about your own position; ie I don’t like alcohol and am a tee totaller so my views are skewed

Why are you letting him 'not let you'?

He's not your keeper, is he?

Yes he does! He came in from night shift this morning drank four cans. Demanded i popped to my work for more for when he gets up. I did do, got myself some gin and lemonade whilst there. He comes down goes mad when he sees the gin. I'm thinking did I actually do something wrong. It's my day off today so I've cleaned the house while he slept, done laundry etc and thought could have a gin before bed tonight as in work early tomorrow and he goes mad

3 double G&Ts when you have a child in your sole care is a lot, let alone on a regular basis.

Think about it like this: for each single, you're looking at 1 unit of alcohol, and 2 1/2 hours before you should drive. If you have 3 G&Ts in the evening, that's 9 1/2 hours before you should drive: so you shouldn't be driving to work or your child to school the next morning. If you were having 1 glass of something, he would likely undoubtably be the AH, but I can understand his concerns.

Ffs some of the responses on here are absurd.

OP, it's none of his business. And you aren't a bloody alcoholic either.

I enjoy a few gins on my night off. DP Is at work late and I'm on my own. I'm not going to sit there drinking a glass of squash. I'm a fully functioning adult and drinking alone while reading or watching a film is not a sign of being alcohol dependent.

Me? I don't have "issues" with alcohol or other people enjoying it. Nor am I the only person on this thread who thinks the OP sounds like she drinks quite a lot.

Not as much as her partner though, who according to the OP, drinks every night.

It’s like some of them are gagging for prohibition..

"3 double G&Ts when you have a child in your sole care is a lot, let alone on a regular basis."

The 16 year old could probably carry her to bed if needs be. He's 16 years, not months ffs.

The answer of well others are as extreme as me doesn’t help your case. And you clearly do, your on line attacking a woman who drinks a couple of times a week.

Are you going to answer the question or just keep posting 😂faces?

On the face of it, he sounds like a controlling hypocrite, given the amount he drinks What's his reasoning for not wanting YOU to drink?

I don't know what you're talking about. I didn't 'attack' her - are you always this hyperbolic?

I don't have a license. My son is 16. My work is at the end of my street. In an emergency I have people to call upon to take me or son to A&E. Not that I drink that much anyway to not know what I'm doing if you RTFT

Whether or not you "drink too much" is irrelevant. Your boyfriend has no right to tell you what to do. It is absolutely wrong for him to let you do something (or not). I'd be turning him into an ex-boyfriend.

What are his actual reasons for not wanting you to drink considering he drinks himself?

@Butchyrestingface
Any reason to be so nasty for using emojis? He doesn't want me to drink cos he thinks I'll get pissed. I don't. And he's not my son's father he's only been in my life 4 years so it's not his concern.

The relationship sounds unhealthy - he drinks after night shift ie. This morning?

You don't.

Yeah. Feels like he's projecting on to me his issues. But from responses here I shouldn't drink at all?