Boyfriend won't let me have alcohol?

[WitchyPoos]

So story is, me and my boyfriend sometimes work opposite shifts and don't see each other some days at home like passing ships. I do a ten hour shift and have a few gins when home and he's at work he doesn't like it. If I'm on a day off and go out to see a friend in the pub he doesn't like it. Or have a few in the evening on a day off he doesn't like it. Youd think I was 16. I'm 35 🤦🏻‍♀️. I don't harm anyone I'm in my own home and in my own time but it makes me feel that way. I don't drink and ignore normal life he thinks i do. Who is BU in this situation cos I think could be me but why

Not sure why so many people are acting like a couple of double gins is so much and problematic! Your partner is being completely unreasonable and hypocritical here OP. If you were getting black out drunk or unpleasant to be around, I would understand, but unwinding with a couple of drinks before going to bed after a long day at work and being a mum... Not too sure how he could even be mad at that?

Where have you made up six doubles from? Nobody said that at all, maybe go back and read the posts - have you been on the gin already?

Obviously you live together OP, is it you place or jointly owned/rented?
I would be suggesting he find his own gaff.

Your bf is controlling.
Get rid.
And drink in peace.

What reason does he give for not wanting you to drink OP?

That's a hell of a lot to be drinking and definitely not a good example to your DS.

But if he drinks every night then he can't really talk, can he?

People on here are a so melodramatic about alcohol, I don’t think that’s loads at all and I certainly wouldn’t be pissed, unable to act normally or hungover the next day after three double G&Ts,

His reaction is weird & controlling, why do you even have to report to him what/how much you’re drinking? If I come in from work and have a drink when DH isn’t here I don’t even think I’d bother mentioning it, why do you feel you have to?

Hold up, he drinks in the morning after nightshift? A former colleague of my Dh did that, but he was an ex pub landlord! Very weird, imo and a whole lot worse than having a couple of gins-very normal-in the evening. Why is he cross at you drinking when he also drinks similar amounts? Are you not allowed to drink when he’s not there? I’d be telling him to fuck right off! What are his reasons for not liking you drinking?

He sounds delightful. Have you asked him why you shouldn't get pissed?

It's not loads, I would not be drunk after three doubles.

Ditch the boyfriend and go and get more gin.

Wouldn't be staying with anyone who 'goes mad' at me tbh.

That being said, 2 or 3 doubles twice a week is a bit like a night out with six drinks twice a week. Which is a lot when you think of it like that. 6 drinks would get me pretty drunk. Even if it doesn't, it can't be good for your liver.

I wouldn't want to be with a man who drank that much so...

But it is your life. If he doesn't like it, he should leave. Not try to micromanage you. Or bully you.

It doesn't sound like he's a very nice person.

Two or three doubles when you’re at home alone with a child isn’t great. You’re well over the limit, intoxicated actually.

Why is this turning into a lecture on how much she drinks? Two to three doubles a couple times a week is hardly shocking.

Your partner is controlling

I thought she was having 2 or 3 double most nights.

Are you actually serious? Two or three drinks for a grown adult in an evening is perfectly normal, it’s not anything that needs reining in.

Honestly the sanctimonious ‘only have half a sherry at Christmas’ type posts around alcohol in here are madness.

OP, your partner sounds like he drinks a lot (as in every day) and you have mentioned that there are other issues. I am also a shift worker, and I don't think it's normal to come home and drink 4 cans of booze at all.

I suspect you having a G&T a couple of times per week isn't the biggest problem here...

You can't talk about having more than a thimble full at Xmas without being called an alcoholic on here so ignore all that.

As long as you're not getting shit faced and abusive towards your partner then I can only assume it's because he is jealous because he can't drink when you are. This is quite controlling and quite frankly, a massive red flag especially when he is drinking so much!

@WitchyPoos Aside from the alcohol, are there are other things, does he criticise or comment on things you do in a negative way, call you names, put you down? Has this been getting worse over time?

@WitchyPoos

There are 🦇 💩 posts on your thread!

He's in no position to 'have a go' at anyone else's drinking!

but you've said several things I don't like hearing about him. The nagging about drinking isn't the worst of it. He generally makes you feel bad.in the wrong.

do you own/have the tenancy? Is you do, tell him to go. Tomorrow,

if you don't, work out where you & DS can go, and do it.

he's not nice, you & DS are worth more than this controlling, alcoholic dicksplash!!

No I'm far from 2/3 doubles every night. It's once a week maybe 2 nights spread apart say one week out of 3. His idea of me not drinking is he can't control it. I control myself so was see if anyone else's boyfriend or husband does that

Her child is 16, not 6.

1. He sounds controlling.
2. He hasn't a leg to stand on if he is drinking every night.
3. I don't actually think it sounds like you're drinking a lot as some have made out, and I very rarely drink.
4. It's not a crime to drink at home and alone. Those that are acting as if it's frowned upon.. give your heads a wobble.
5. Tell him to get a grip of his alcohol consumption before telling you what you can and can't do.

@WitchyPoos sorry, I meant six singles / 3 doubles.

@Changingplace it was a simple mistake.

Do you know what the poster meant? I suspect you do. Very crass to point out people's spelling mistakes.

Tell him it’s over. He has no right to tell you what to do.