While it's nice when people try, I don't think it's entirely possible to fully understand the emotions of another person - that's why saying 'I understand how you feel' often comes across as patronising or a platitude with no substance. I also don't think it helps anything to make sweeping statements that one half of the population feels or acts one way and the other half another.
I'm as wary of women, especially those I don't know, as I am of unknown men. My experience is all the violence I've dealt with in life has been at the hands of women including violent sexual assault. I don't expect others to understand how I feel on that, like many don't understand why I prefer to walk home at night rather than take a taxi if out after the buses stop here. Being locked in a car at night is far more scary to me than a nervous walk home. Statistically, I know more violent crimes are committed by men and they could do more damage barehanded, but like everyone my feelings and perceptions are based on my experiences, not stats and not these days of people telling me what I should be scared of.
Last time I marshalled at a Moonlight Walk charity event, no one at the event entirely organised by women had any concerns about how I was getting home, was not asked once, not that I expected anyone to ask. Plenty of women were on the own in a not well lit part of the city for most of the 10k and many of us marshals were left on our own for extended periods when issues came up that meant the other marshal had to leave. I was way more nervous at the after event with many drunk women celebrating than standing under a dim street lamp in a hi vi for 3 hours or walking on my own in the dark. I called my husband on my out near 11pm when he was about to head to work, his request was to 'text when you get back and please don't walk home'. I caught the next to last bus.
On work nights out, my husband has repeatedly ended up out of pocket for getting taxis for women colleagues who spend the last of their money on drinks and then panic on how they're going to get home and never pay him back. He has repeatedly ended up being put between a drunk woman colleague and some drunk guy they chose to have a go at, putting my husband in danger for their choices. He has had signs smashed over him, had alcohol thrown on him and threatened to be set on fire (thankfully another man stepped in to help the situation).
I'm not offended by him doing so, but I am frustrated how many just expect him to do so because he's a big guy. He is very aware of the dangers to others compared to himself and tries his best, but I always fume, especially when the women who put him in danger talk about it like it's just a cute drunk thing they did. They treat him and the other men like they're disposable props in the story, not people.
And yes, he and my older son do plan things for their safety on nights out, they've discussed how they manage their alcohol to remain alert and plans for getting home, how they handle sexual harassment by drunk women, and their limits on protecting others. I'm in a city with a major 'walk away' campaign because one punch can kill and the guys in my life are very aware of it.