She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

YES!

I agree.

I certainly wouldn't be asking a friend permission to buy a coat with my own money.

I love coats and jackets. I have c.30.

If you don't want to put the link, which would be ideal, do you want to describe it or at least say the brand name.

What is there to see?
It's a coat, not a red carpet dress.

Its been 6 years next month for me. You'll get there. I would say that the first couple of years were surviving and then I started to grow again. Took me another couple of years to feel utterly comfortable in my skin again, and now I am.

Which is why I would be questioning who she is and why she acts this way. Depending on the answers I came up with, I would question the friendship and why I stick with it OR coming up with ways to help her find her own style and confidence.

I understand @imgonnadowild.
I think I'd be concerned we'd look daft, if me and a friend were "twinning" in matching coats.

Me too.

I would be gobsmacked if a friend did this to me!

I agree with you OP, I don’t want to be “twinning” anyone in my adulthood! If you are together often and in the same coat, particularly coloured, it just looks silly imo. Not the end of the world but why when there are so many other coats out there.

Who said it’s all she’s worried about? Just because she’s annoyed about this one small thing doesn’t mean she doesn’t also have plenty of much bigger and more important worries.

I’ve a copycat —frenemy— friend. She bought the same coat as me. She admired my coat, and I said ‘thanks, I love it!’ I didn’t expect her to appear the very next day wearing a identikit charcoal wrap coat on the school run! Buying copycat clothes isn’t the same as liking the same film or enjoying the same book. Clothes choices reflect our personal sense of identity, and it feels a bit hijacked to have someone adopt your look.

On the rare occasion I've loved a friend's clothing so much that I buy it for myself, I at least ask if they mind, and promise not to wear it when we're together.

Yanbu, I’d be annoyed too.
Lesson learnt, next time this friend asks it’s either “can’t remember” or a lighthearted “not telling you in case you buy the same one, haha”.

Have we not had this thread before? Like a few weeks ago?

I still struggle to see what is an offence about two afults wearing the same mass produced item?

It's sold in thousands.There are women all around the world walking around in the same stupid coat.

This type of thread has been around for donkeys years. Copy Cats were ever thus.....

I'd take it as a compliment but I can see why you'd be miffed

In other news, I once bought a coat and then both of my brothers bought the exact same one for both of their girlfriends.

We're all friends who spend a lot of time together 😂

We just laughed at how dim (and tight since they both worked at the shop that I bought it from and used their discount to buy theirs!) they were

Why’s it “ideal”? What it looks like has nothing to do with this. I stated a perfectly good reason of why I’m not posting it.

Yes, that’s an odd thing to do! I’d expect some kind of discussion if it was identical and as you say, something you wear all the time. I would probably be fine with it but it’s nice to be asked.

my friend and I have the same style Seasalt coat but different colours and sizes - we had a little chat about it as I bought mine first and absolutely didn’t mind if she bought the same colour. As it was she chose a different colour but we still have a giggle when we wear them at the same time.

its not like I have a particularly unique style - I mostly shop at M and S! - but I can understand that others feel differently and feel odd wearing the same as a friend.

I think this is an important point

Are you ok? No happy/content person speaks the way that you do. My DMs are always open if you have no one to talk to about why you feel the need to be like this.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

Purpuse is to point out idiotic pattern of behaviour.
Same way I would consonsider two men arguing bcs they got different footbal shirts idiotic.

Did she did anything else to copy you? Stories like this fascinate me 😂

I want to see the coat too please x

Are you always this passive aggressive when someone calls you out on being utterly mad about something silly?