She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

What are actually struggling to see is The Point.

It has been explained several times so I am not going to waste my time attempting to do so again.

Oh forgot to say yabu

Do you want to look like a dick going out with your friend wearing the same coat?

Good for you if you do. I don't want to!

WTF does it have to do with men???

YES!! Changed her holiday to go the same dates and resort as another family … took a business idea I was mulling over (not particularly, original or ground-breaking, just a skill set I had) and started pitching for work … has also ‘shopped’ other friends’ looks … retrained in a career when she heard another friend did (and quit it) … I think she has chronic FOMO, and I find it a bit bizarre that she takes random elements of other people’s chaotic lives rather than figure out her own path in life.

But would you copy a coat a friend had? That's quite sad!

I like to choose my own!

Utterly mad. Hmm do you always exaggerate and ultimately lie just to make yourself feel superior?

At no point has anyone been “utterly mad” and this is quite a jump from me saying I’m “a bit annoyed”.

Plenty of people have pointed out they would also have the same reaction. And for the people that haven’t I can also take their point onboard that it’s not something I’m going to stay annoyed about and I just won’t say where I get certain items I really like from.

Then there’s just your class of people that desperately hang around a thread just trying to be nasty for kicks because they are utterly miserable. If I read a thread and thought it was “something silly” then I wouldn’t continue hanging around like a honking fowl odour, I’d move on and post on something I thought was worthy of my time. The fact you’re so gripped by this and will be here until the bitter end is deeply pathetic.

It's just a coat. I think it's sad (and childish) to be so bothered about a friend 'copying' you.

Especially considering it is likely mass produced and it's worn by many, many people.

OP you’re my new hero 🧥

I say it means you have great taste. Next time I'd say oh I don't know it was a gift.

I was just thinking about this thread again and realized, in the winter, every single one of my friends and I wear the exact same coat. It's normally always North Face, it looks like a long sleeping bag and worn with hat, gloves and boots because here it's like -10 and colder and bloody freezing!

These sly put downs are so hilarious.

Sorry do you have a personal farm of silkworms, personal threader and seamstress?

Just a perfect example of why I won’t post or describe the cost, I’ve literally said nothing beyond you can buy it on a website. And it’s being slated as “stupid” and “mass produced” because people really do get enjoyment from just being nasty.

It would annoy me too OP. Also: I'm loving your witty and patient replies.

Of course you aren’t being unreasonable.
She probably wasn’t thinking, but I hear you all the way back to when I was 12.
My cousin and I were 9 months apart and we lived in a small town.
Our mothers (sisters) - behind our backs - bought identical coats for us and then denied it & called it a coincidence.
We were in middle school for God’s sake and saw each other every day.

I don’t know what you can do other than avoid her, but bless her heart, I think she probably meant well - but the execution was completely and totally and unnecessarily off base.

Somebody needs to tell her that you just don’t do that no matter how much you like that coat, that plaid dress, that green shirt, those white jeans.
Don’t you do it!!

Oh look. Just think it's a bit weird. Some people copy to the nth degree
don't listen to the nay sayers and chill

I just won’t say where I get certain items I really like from.

She'll just keep pushing. Your answer - every time (unless it's true) is John Lewis. And when she can't find it on the website, what a shame they must have sold out.

i would return mine.only your sister(that lives REALLY far away AND is 2 sizes up-is permitted to pull shite like tht.(*your sister/no mine,ok)

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery

@Ohwelljusttoday is it?thats very very cunty?of all the coats in all the world or whatever bon jovi said....

I was beside myself about the warming of the globals but THEN THE COAT HAPPENED

LOL

I understand the point. But only as much as I know that's how people think I'm a way I don't get. I am terrible I would buy the coat and think it's fine, unless told not to buy it. If I saw 5 women all wearing the same coat that would mean nothing to me, but I try to understand everyone has different views so want to respect that but unless told I'm oblivious

I do get it. It's just irksome when it's something you have bought that you have put effort into, and then a friend decides to get it, too.

I spent ages faffing about and trying on perfumes before I settled on a new one that I was thinking of making a sort of signature scent. And two friends were, 'oh, that's lovely; what are you wearing?' and then they were both wearing it the next time we met up.

It's not a long term annoyance but it's definitely a short term one.

I can see why you're irked OP and unfortunately mumsnet js a place where people relish in competing to be the most non-plussed about everything (ironic given so many of the unbothered use terms like 'shocked'..) If it makes you feel any better though I know someone who wore a beautiful and fairly distinctive deep red dress for her wedding dress, 2 weeks later they went out for a family meal where her MIL turned up in exactly the same dress complete with identical accessories, all except the veil!

I get it OP. I once worked with someone who really admired my clothes. She wanted to go shopping with me so we did, what she wanted as to go round and buy everything I'd already bought. I found it quite creepy tbh.

Proper lol at the people who don't realised you're being sarcastic about the 20 figure salary 😂