She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

A work friend copied me but many years ago. Online shopping wasn’t what it is today. I would go to work for example in an orange blouse and she would wear the same within a day. I was no fashion trend setter or particularly attractive, wearing cheaper, generic clothes (on a low salary!) but she would ask constantly where I got this or that and copy my look including my hair (getting bangs and layers like me).

We never spoke about it but it did wear me down, I have no idea why this woman was like this.

OP, I would be annoyed too. I think it’s fine to compliment an item but it seems off-putting when she ordered it in front of you.

I mean princess margaret don't i

i'm quite tired

You don't sound very mature either. Do you want to go out dressed the same as your friend??

Fucking hell you are getting a hard time on here. Also, you are dealing with it with aplomb.

Fuck 'em all OP, fuck 'em all.

I was just thinking, I don’t think I’d notice if two women were wearing the same coat?! Plus unless you’re spending a lot of time outdoors, you’d be taking it off quite quickly and (hopefully!) not wearing the same tops too! 🤣

None so blind that will not see.

And???

What's the clear bulbs you got OP?

Coat would annoy me unless it's my BFF.

How often are you around this friend?
If you're around her all the time and both wearing the same coat then I can see why you might be a tiny bit annoyed.
If you only see her occasionally then I don't get why you'd be annoyed at all.

It's just a coat. Not something I could get worked up about.

I want to see the coat

Ahahah are you serious?
Being rude for wearing the same mass produced clothing item?

No wonder some men find women quite childish when it comes to fashion.

Do what I do , tell people I got everything in the charity shop. Then they can't buy it because they have no idea where its from

No. Being rude for whipping her phone out at the table and ordering it without a word.

Not a "Do you mind if I get the same, I have been looking for one like that for ages". She could have easily at least waited until she got home to buy it.

THATS what makes it rude and if you dont get that then maybe you are THAT "friend". Worth a thought.

@imgonnadowild You know, the more I think about it, the more I think that the buying it at the table was deliberate and not just thoughtless.

"Oh you have something nice. But look, I can have it too, see?!"

Whether that is jealousy about your look/s or trying to pull you down a peg or two so you dont out do her, only you know best.

Friend is out of order.
It’s YOUR coat.

That’s a very strange take - surely the more likely explanation is that she liked her friend’s coat and wanted to order one for herself? I don’t think anyone would be bothered about this in the real world?

Yeah that is weird!

What's the purpose of that comment?

Are women supposed to think "oh no men find this behaviour childish and I don't want a man to think I'm childish, I better adjust my behaviour?" 🤔

Which men think this anyway? Are they the same ones that wear the football jerseys with their favourite players name on the back? 😅

Thankfully I don’t care what men think of women.

Strange that she ordered it straight away whilst you were sitting at the table!

Two friends and I have all got the same winter coat as it’s excellent and ticks all the right boxes! It’s black and long so quite generic really and we are all different sizes so maybe that makes a difference but none of us are bothered!

Well I wouldn’t like it. It’s bloody annoying. There are thousands of coats out there. Why end up looking like twins.

Did you mean to be so rude? 😀

You are so very wrong about me. I don't follow fashion at all. I just buy things I like the look of. I won't see 60 again and don't care if someone admires something of mine enough to copy me.

I am a different colouring and build to all of my friends, and I genuinely don't get the annoyance that some of the posters on here have when this happens.

Sorry you experienced similar - but obviously on a much larger scale. It’s really reassuring to hear you got though it, sometimes feels like it’s taken this long and can I ever get back to how I used to it.

This thread proves you wrong.

It just seems odd to me, to not at least wait until later to do it.