Children wearing tails?

[ShepherdMoons]

Dd's friend at drama club has recently started wearing a tail.She sometimes wears ears.It looks quite cute but I also find it a bit odd (they are 11).Dd hasn't asked to wear a tail (yet) but wondering if this might be her next question.I appreciate there's a bit of a trend for this at the moment and seems relatively harmless but I do find it odd.AIBU?

Young girls- tails and ears.

-yes it sounds like innocent imaginative play of the past .

• but some of the stuff mentioned here does put it more in the context of 'bunny girls' from the past's 'adults only' clubs.

You said that a parent saying:
"‘Don’t be ridiculous’ ‘you look ridiculous take it off’ is judgy, unkind and shaming"

All your own words 🙄

It is. I wasn’t shaming anyone. I was just giving an example of setting a boundary in a ‘judgy’ way and a non ‘judgy’ way. The post suggested that parents need to be more judgy but that’s not the case. Boundaries can be put in place without doing that. Parents can do what they want but my first example is judgemental and shaming. It’s just fact. I didn’t give an opinion on what I think about that.

That's not a bad comparison actually.

One of my daughters went through a punk phase at about 13, and I had to ban some of the jewelry she wanted because it was referencing bondage gear.

She did not realize this, and when I said so her various arguments were: a) you are too old and past it, b) it doesn't mean that any more, c) not everything is sexual; d) it's just fashion, and e) you are really really too old to get it.

The idea that her old mother might just know what something was about when she was too naive just was too embarrassing for her to contemplate - but the thing is it was true.

I knew a lady who let her young teen go to pole dancing classes with similar reasoning. Apparently it's not sexual, just good exercise. It's so bizarre.

yeah it is weird its not the kids who find it weird it's the adults and you know exactly what I mean.

So 'who made you morality judge' then yo ugo on to say 'you're a weird' and you hope I don't have kids? Ok why, Becuase I wouldn't let them dress up for people like you? Take a look at yourself and how you talk to others after going on about 'morality judging' before wishing someone you don't know on the internet doesn't have kids for not approving of adults weirdo sex fetishes involving kids.

Yes you are right, people are only too happy to turn a blind eye to the real background of this. It's like those influencer child accounts where they are all toddlers in bikinis but it's just 'cute'....the people looking at and saving the pics are not thinking it's cute...wake up people!

Yes, me too. I can also remember being desperate for glasses with the play boy bunny logo on and being told "no" (I was 10). But that's different to having parents who openly allow or even encourage their teens to go out with their school skirt rolled up super short, or are proud of how grown up they are/think it's funny they want to dress like Brittany spears in the hit me baby video or wear the play boy logo. Kids with those parents usually had a rocky adolescence. As a child/teen it's good to have the adults around you setting boundaries even if you break them sometimes. It makes the dodgy adults that really think your short skirt seems super hot, stand out more.

(I thought it meant Eton boys etc in real tails as in tail coats.... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toffs_and_Toughs )

There was once girl in my class from about age 12 who had a mum like that. At one point we were all jealous of her freedoms. But by the time we were 16 or so, I think we all saw that it was not a good, positive, or caring thing. And my classmate, who was an extremely intelligent girl, had really serious problems around promiscuity and risky behaviours.

furries are just role playing. It’s really no different to other clubs where people role play - like medieval clubs where everyone dresses up and pretends to be knights and stuff. Or dungeons and dragons clubs. Adults get dressed up and role play all kinds of things. Most of what people are saying here is perceptions about furries and not actually what it is. They don’t wear the suits all the time.

i don’t see why kids can’t dress up and pretend to be whatever they like. They are using their imagination and being creative.

This is insane

Kids dressing up as animals?
There are men dressing up as women and pretending they are women. Some even want everyone else to accept them as women.

Probably to the children it is a bit of fun.
Probably to most men, it is children playing.
Having worked with sex offenders there are those who will not see children playing ,but will see an opportunity.
Having heard a man describe a girl who was dressed in skimpy clothes as "asking for it" I would not be surprised at anything. The girl in skimpy clothes was 15 . She had severe learning difficulties and was very trusting . He was her close relative. I know this is ,thankfully,rare. But it only takes one.

Nah, adults doing historical costuming aren’t plugging jester hats into their bottoms tho.

I don’t see any tween girls walking down the high street wearing a replica suit of armour but maybe they should. Far less likely to attract horny males.