I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

[Marooney]

Last night my partner proposed, which was lovely. I often like simple and classic in general but this ring just feels so small and generic, I'm sad. Also I have quite big hands and I think the ring is kind of swamped. He went to choose it after work apparently and went to the shop he knows in town. He said if I didn't like it I could change it, but I've had a look at the shop's website and honestly they don't have anything I like better. I like more vintage styles (lots on Etsy that I like), bigger stone (could be moissanite, I don't mind if it's not valuable) and this shop just has modern looking things, this is the best of the lot. Unfortunately they only do exchanges, not refunds. Not sure what to do :( I guess the AIBU is AIBU for feeling disappointed with this ring, and AIBU for seeing if he minds me using the shop credit for some future birthday and Christmas presents (it was about £360) and looking for a ring elsewhere. Any other suggestions welcome 🙏🏼

Because she has got a credit note for the ring she does not like and is going to choose an engagement ring with her fiance that she does like and she showed a few photos from Etsy and people were making sarcastic comments about cheap stuff on Etsy etc She clearly said it wasn't about the value but the style so have you RTFT up to the point where I posted? Not everyone has the same budget and the important thing is that she likes her ring which she wears with love.

Seriously, stop this. I didn't say any of that. None of it. Learn a bit of reading comprehension. I don't even particularly like diamonds, regardless of their size. Why are you inventing this? What does it do for you? Did you not like your own engagement ring? I think the poster who said you were projecting may be right, sadly. Either that or you haven't RTFT yourself.

Totally agree. Silver daisy sounds lovely (if you wear silver). I wouldn't want to change it in these circumstances either.

What a story, poor you 😅 I should be grateful he didn't have the ring made, I wouldn't be able to do anything in that case!

Its got to be scary asking the woman you love to marry you even though she has made it quite clear, its going to be a YES! Bless him, he tried to make it perfect by choosing the ring but he got it wrong and you have to love him for trying....but if you have found a good compromise and get to choose your own ring, that bodes well for your future relationship as its shows you can discuss difficult matters.

Just pick the ring you like, second hand, new, silver, gold, man made stones or natural - its all irrelevant if you love it.

Had I been in your position I would have asked to change the ring too but in my case he had gone to so much trouble (he listened to the completely wrong person about what to get me because he wanted it to be a surprise) and I just didn't have the heart to tell him the truth. I was devastated (not) when the ring got flattened and never expected a new one....so it all worked out well in the end. Be happy!

Small stone, wide band. Or add gem stones on each side.

Because you said negatively he’d only chosen the 9ct gold (could’ve got 18ct) and smallest diamond a few posts back 🤣

Pretty but comparatively inexpensive stones include amethyst, peridot, garnet and pink and blue topaz. Some nice (I think) vintage rings here https://laurelleantiquejewellery.com/products/suffragette-edwardian-style-cluster-ring-amethyst-peridot-diamond-1 worth searching kite + stone + ring to find the shape you seem to like best. I love this blingy ring which is well within your budget. It is quite expensive for plated silver, however they will replate v inexpensively if/when it starts to wear. https://www.dinnyhall.com/susu-ring-7154?pp=0&epik=dj0yJnU9czN5Q0FhOS14MnotQWdQX3BpR3U4RWtlbEtvRXUteEQmcD0xJm49eUFlN0tiRVJOTGpmaUNUaXdRSUZRUSZ0PUFBQUFBR2JvQmZR

@Marooney

congratulations on the outcome!!

comprehension on MN is at an all time low! The nastiness now is shocking. It all started on the bloody Penis Beaker thread, it brought in all kinds, (including some lovely posters) and has been going downhill ever since, it's really sad, it used to be a place you could come for a chat with 'friends' who were intelligent, had a comprehension lever above. snakes belly & were forthright & robust.

I stay because there are still lots of people who are interesting, informed, helpful & need help. 🤷🏻‍♀️but honestly 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

im glad you've sorted now and I'd love to see what you choose!!

out of all the ones you posted, I like the bottom left of the set you posted. But wouldn't choose it for an engagement ring as I'd choose a more robust centre jewel.

best wishes for your marriage!!

@AncientAndModern1

what a beautiful website ! I have just spent several happy minutes browsing !!!

From one large handed lady to another, brilliant outcome @Marooney 👏🏾 and congratulations.
Glad you managed to get it all resolved. I went with something non conventional too in a 2 carat aquamarine (birthstone) for my engagement ring earlier this year.
Come back and share what you choose.

I've taken from this thread that I should avoid Etsy for the aquamarine and diamond wedding band I've been eying up so thanks for this thread!

You get the ring you like…you have to wear it. My DH gave me a family ring…he had been his great aunties, and it was altered…hinged so it fit round her arthritic knuckles. Nice diamond and simple band. I took it to a jeweller who kept the setting, but put a band around it I liked. It all worked out fine. It will work out fine for you, and congratulations on your engagement. Wishing you every happiness.

I got this ring from an Etsy shop called 1122andCo which sells vintage rings. Think they have an insta page too. You could contact them to see if they get many rings in in that style. It's a US company and I paid around £300 for my yellow and green saphire ring.