DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

OK, I haven't seen any on the thread I go on but yeah I agree, if you need to lie then you shouldn't be taking it.

I'm 9 weeks in and have lost 27 lbs, 12 of that was in the first 2 weeks though, and I'm about to go us to 7.5mg as the suppression is non existent now

I start 7.5mg this week. It's a very slow journey up to 15mg and the promise of improvement in symptoms!

I know people who have stayed on 2.5 for months, but it didn't work for me and lots of other people, the 5 was brilliant for the first 2-3 weeks but then was wearing off after a couple of days. Hoping the 7.5 works!

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My sister is on ozempic and has been for a year. She has lost 25kg and looks great. No ozempic face or other loose skin. I think she should stop now but she is determined to loose 13kg more. It seems that these weight loose jab people have unrealistic goals and end up having loose skin.

I'd have loose skin regardless of how I lose weight, I've been overweight since a teen and I'm now 50...no amount of exercise is going to make everything ping back

@onfiree Read the threads. They are lying to claim a bmi of 30 to get the injections, otherwise they wouldn't get them. You're the one with the weird attitude if you think these injections should be used by people who aren't severely obese, and those who lie to claim they are, who can lose weight by other means.

Sorry, I had misinterpreted what was said. After it was explained like that it did actually make much more sense.

I'm taking Mounjaro and although DH is supportive he also has made it subtly clear he doesn't want to hear about it much, and that suits me. This is the same for any time I have tried to lose weight.

I actually like NOT talking about weight loss to people in 'real life'. I have support/opportunity to talk about it online and with one close friend (who is also taking MJ), although as the weeks go on the amount we talk about it has reduced - they are more interesting things to talk about! Other than this one friend no one other than DH knows I am taking it - the main reason being I just don't want to talk about it, just do it.

Your DH has made it clear that he doesn't want to talk about it. Take power from NOT talking about it with him and enjoying your milestones yourself. I think you were rude suggesting it to him multiple times, and I dare say he feels judged and defensive. Leave him be. You may well inspire him a year or so down the line when you've lost the weight you want to lose and are happily maintaining.

Good luck for your continued success!

I think this is the thing I have issue with - phrases like 'earnt the weight loss'

It shows how much is tied up with moral value and weight.

I have lost weight, its not an 'achievement' that I want a medal for, or consider I 'earned' something, its huge relief that my health, my mobility, my future, my organs, my hormones, my fitness is worlds apart from what it was 10 stone ago.

All these people saying it stops the food noise…. That food noise will just return once you stop taking it. What happens then? The weight will creep back on unless you tackle the root cause and your relationship to food. The drug is only ever a sticking plaster.

Absolutely. But for me it gives me the peace in my head to tackle it in readiness for coming off it.

But you can’t tackle it if it’s not there? I don’t think as a long term plan it is helpful.

For the cynics, if losing weight while on a jab “doesn’t count” then does improving your mental health while on antidepressants “count”? If you have a headache, is it “cheating” to take a paracetamol? You could just focus and put the effort in..

Not necessarily true. It's shown to a significant degree to reverse insulin resistance. Insulin resistance gives you cravings and food noise especially for sugar and carbs.

There's a lot of evidence that shows people who stay on a maintenance plan for 2 years have really good outcomes with GLP-1S and GLP-2s are coming up as even better with their benefits.

So once you've got to a healthy BMI and you've reversed your insulin resistance you're not guaranteed to get the same food noise back. Youre better in tune at listening to your body.

Also 1 to 2 years is a long time for people who will be making active healthy choices and to form new habits and forget old habits. Don't underestimate the power of building new habits.

I'm sure there's more than one way to skin a cat and reverse insulin resistance but I just wanted to point out that this is more effective than yo-yo dieting, and there's a risk of weight regain with every method of weight loss so that shouldn't be used as a deterrent for someone to start and make the change.

I don't think it's appropriate to expect someone to join you in taking any medication for any reason, it's his body his choice. Certainly not reasonable to expect him to take it so you've got someone to talk to!

That said, it's not appropriate for him to be disparaging and unsupportive of your weight loss - but as he is, turn to your online communities for support.

It's disturbing how cult-y these weight loss drugs are getting.

It’s funny you rarely see threads full of people expressing concerns about the use of other new drugs. It seems like people just don’t like that there’s help available for the fatties.
Yes there are potential risks involved. Most drugs do have rare but serious health risks. It’s for the patient to weigh up the risks of obesity versus the potential risks of the drug. Yes many people will put the weight back on, but people who lose weight the traditional way are also likely to put the weight back on. Statistically that’s true. For many people this drug is literally life changing- even life saving.

We get it, you don't agree with it but please stop now. It's working for a lot of people, let us deal with what happens when we come off it, it's not your problem.

Someone just said on here they stopped it and the ‘noise’ came back so they started it again.

i actually agree with you and I am on Wegovy myself! I have lost three stone nearly since January and whilst I’m delighted, I can’t say I feel proud of myself. I will feel proud if I can stay at this weight long term when I wean myself off the jabs. It has been life changing but “proud”…no!

Tell me you didn't read what I wrote without telling me that you didn't read what I wrote.

I wouldn't be proud of someone who lost weight via injections of drugs. Just as I wouldn't be proud of someone who got the painters in to paint a nice mural in their living room. Would I offer compliments on how they looked or their mural looked? Sure.

Would I be interested in the process of either or want updates? No.

Now if someone was actively working out and making gains in the gym, cycling or running more miles, and cooking amazing recipes? Absolutely, I'd like to hear about it. Same as I'd like to hear about them painting a cool mural.

I also don't blame anyone for not wanting to inject themselves with chemicals to achieve weightloss. I kind of understand it for people who are dangerously overweight, but people who are using it as a quick fix to take away "food noise" is just odd to me. It'll all pile back on. Changing your lifestyle and mindset is what's needed, not drugs.

@GiddyRobin nobody should be prescribed the injections for a "quick fix" because that's not how they work. It isn't quick. You have to be in a calorie deficit to lose any weight. I will expect to be on the injections for around a year minimum. Tell me what's quick about that?

The "food noise" has gone, that is part of the effect of the medication. It enables me to maintain a calorie deficit, amongst other aspects of the medication. I am very well aware that when I'm at a healthy weight and I stop taking the injections that the food noise might come back, and I will be taking action to address it. It's not going to come as a surprise! Clearly people think that it's impossible to maintain a weight loss after using these injections, I wonder why people feel so strongly about that? Especially when it's the same as any other diet or weight loss treatment.

Rest assured the only other person who will know is my partner, and if anyone mentions the weight loss I'll blame it on something that's not praise worthy so I don't get any undue and unjust positive comments!

I got bored.

If the drug only takes away food noise and you still have to work on diet and exercise, then why not get therapy instead, whilst working out and eating properly? That would be far more useful surely - getting to the source of the issue behind the overeating, and actively putting things in place to prevent it?

The way weight gain is being spoken of here sounds like ED territory. Those with restrictive ED's (who also suffer from food noise of a different kind) treat their disorder with therapy, time, support and patience. In order to overcome that mindset, they have to understand it and change it. The same stands for those with issues with overeating.

You can't treat a mental health problem with a year of injections and hope it will never return. Eating disorders are often life-long issues that need to be constantly worked on. Plus no one has any idea of the long term effects of these drugs.