Wedding guest dress - it’s cream

[Thehonestbadger]

But it’s covered in polkadots, does this make it acceptable?

love this dress and the lady in the shop described it as the ‘perfect’ wedding guest dress but obviously she wants to sell it. I just keep thinking it’s a lot of cream.

I suspect some of the posters slating the dress might be sat at home in Primark joggers feeling a bit jealous op. There's literally nothing wrong with it, a perfectly nice choice for a wedding, not at all bridal and I like the spots. You have a great figure and it's a classy dress. Go for it!

I suspect some of the posters slating the dress might be sat at home in Primark joggers feeling a bit jealous op

What a weird thing to suspect.

Exactly. As though anyone who has a different opinion is simply jealous. How small minded!

Well it's either that or they're just plain unpleasant 🤷🏻‍♀️

Details? Where's it from?

The irony of this post!

Seriously nothing else to concentrate on, on your wedding day?

It's absolutely fine and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.#

It looks nothing like a wedding dress and is in no way inappropriate.

In real life, nobody cares what you wear to a wedding if you are not the bride, bridesmaids or mums!

That doesn't make sense?! You're saying that in reverse the spots <would> stop it from being a black dress? Therefore the spots also stop it being a cream dress in the reverse?

This has been preying on my mind all day wondering if there were actually people at that wedding all those years ago tutting at an oblivious me and my dreadful faux pas! Sad because I really enjoyed that wedding and loved that dress!

I have genuinely never heard of such a thing despite having organised a wedding of my own where it wouldn't have occurred to me to take offence at someone wearing white/cream, I didn't give any thought to what my guests wore, their presence was the important thing!. I guess I would've been mildly peeved if someone had turned up scruffy or looking like they cba but it certainly wouldn't have ruined my day!

I actually looked back at some photos of various weddings I've been to over the years and it seems this "rule" has eluded many of my circle too. For example, my sister is wearing a cream suit at my cousin's wedding in the 90s. Then, at my sister's wedding, one of her close friends is wearing a short strapless satin white dress with a bit of black stitched detail (looked lovely) and another friend has a white jacket with black piping over a black dress. It was a lovely day not at all ruined by these "ignorant" friends. Had I realised I could've spent the day giving them dirty looks as sister of the bride (I was safely in red that day) 🤣

Only on mumsnet eh?

It’s lovely, it looks great on you, and it is in no way inappropriate for a wedding. Plus, the pp who thought workwear is bonkers. Or works somewhere with a very upmarket, non-office dress code. Don’t go for the blue dress, which is fine but dull.

I love polkadots, it's looks perfect for a wedding

Most people know the rule of not wearing white or cream, I’m surprised some people have never heard of it. I’m sure some people would have made comment to each other, but who cares. As you say the bride and groom are still your friends. It’s definitely not just something from mumsnet - it’s something I’ve known for years

I think it must be a recent thing, since weddings became so ‘big’. In the 80s we invited lots of people, but they weren’t such lavish affairs and didn’t have so many rules about presents/money, what to wear, children/no children, etc.

🙈 glad I've only just realised and haven't spent 25 years cringing 🤣. My mum & sister's MIL never made any comment about her friends choice of outfit (trust me, I would've known about it as neither were slow to speak up if they disapproved of something) so they were clearly oblivious too! Oh, and at my mum's second marriage, her MIL was wearing a (horrible) dress that was blue flowers on a white background. What an uncultured bunch we must be!

That's what I'm thinking. Not been to a wedding for at least 10 years, most of mine were 80s/90s and I never gave a thought to what other guests wore unless outrageous, overly short, sexy etc diverting attention from the bride.

It is definitely not a recent thing. And definitely not a Mumsnet only thing. The etiquette around not wearing white was around in the 90s at least.

Ooo I'm a cool girl too. Couldn't give a flying fuck.

Oh, and this refers to the part where the OP asks for opinions on what guests should wear.

I wouldn't. It has too much white in it. I wouldn't be particularly bothered about what others wore to my wedding (recent bride myself) BUT knowing some people really care about this would make me want to not be 'that person'. My rule is: if you feel the need to check in with a bunch of randoms, or the bride, you know this too.

I don't know why this question always causes such weird Brexit-like, all or nothing responses.

The polka dot dress is fine (and much nicer and flattering than the blue dress)

I wore a similar polka dot dress to a wedding with smaller and more dots. Not only did I get compliments from the bride, she actually asked to borrow it for a wedding she was going to a few months later

Only you know the wedding you are going to so will know what the reaction is. But in my experience of weddings in recent years, brides don’t care about the colour of your outfit. And that’s the only opinion I would care about

I was safely in red that day

@Geminijust, this is the sign of a Scarlet Woman, surely you know that? Also, wearing green is unlucky and black is a no no because of the funeral associations. Female wedding guests must turn up in something exceptionally dull or they will be social outcasts forever more.

Back in the real world, after over 40 years of marriage I can scarcely remember what I was wearing at our wedding, far less anyone else. I haven't looked at the pictures for several decades. I do remember the people who were there and how pleased I was to see them and have them there to celebrate with us. That is surely what matters.

I’ve worn red to two weddings, 30 and 18 years ago. I had a absolutely no idea about the scarlet woman associations until I joined Mumsnet.

Oh god I can't win 🤣 , sure I've done green too and a friend definitely had dark green bridesmaids.

It's beautiful and you look stunning...but not for a wedding. As someone who has done wedding photography, it will make you stand out more than necessary in group photos.

I do love the blue dress (not as much as the white dress, but it's more wedding appropriate!) - the colour is pretty and it suits you a lot!

It's not about upstaging the Bride on the day, or being mistaken for the bride, it's sometimes about colour balance in photos and where the eye is drawn. And the photos will last forever.

The best rule of thumb is...."If you have to ask if a dress is acceptable for a wedding then the answer is no". Why risk it if there's a chance of the bride, groom or their family silently cursing you every time they look at their wedding album because you stick out in the group photo.

It's a lovely dress, you need another event to wear it to where you can feel great in it and your husband can appreciate you looking fab in it. Xx