Wedding guest dress - it’s cream

[Thehonestbadger]

But it’s covered in polkadots, does this make it acceptable?

love this dress and the lady in the shop described it as the ‘perfect’ wedding guest dress but obviously she wants to sell it. I just keep thinking it’s a lot of cream.

It’s nice that you’re the cool girl and everything, but what part of this is about you not caring what guests would wear?

It’s absolutely fine. But I was never a diva bride. There are some egotistical types (bride and guests) who might bizarrely think you are competing and get huffy. But if the bride is a decent sort then go for it.
It was important to me that my guests were happy. I couldn’t care less what they wore.

If you have to ask then no, it's not suitable.

As have PP said, it's not about looking bridal but about standing out in photos and at the event. There are so many other colours to choose from - pick one of them instead.

It’s not about competing. I think the photographer who posted that the colour draws the eye to it in photos is correct. If you think about average, large group wedding shots, female guests are in various colours, male guests usually in blue or grey suits and the bride in white stands out.

Yes... it's a bit 'daywear' in style though probably not in fabric. Depends maybe on the type of wedding. It'd probably look ok accessorised but it's a bit pale and bland.

I'm afraid I agree OP. My mother wore a dress with jacket that was the same off white material as my wedding dress. Granted there was a small black trim and she wore a hat rather than a veil but in wedding photos it was obviously too close in colour.

We've always had a difficult relationship and even the shop manager gently told her that it wasn't the best colour for a wedding. But she wanted it so that was that!

Agree with pps saying if you have any doubt, don’t.

DP talked me out of my doubts over wearing a cream dress to a wedding when I was a wedding newbie, and I spent the whole event self-consciously swathed in a black pashmina hoping I’d got away with it. To my horror, the dress appeared as a wedding dress in a soap! Nearly twenty years later, and threads like this bring me out in a cold sweat as it all comes back.

If you’re going to worry, it really isn’t worth it. Pick something safer and enjoy the day.

Re any criticisms of dresses etc - I'd ignore all this, everyone has different styles and you need to wear something you like.You asked about appropriateness which is the thing to look at sentiments about here.

Personally I think it's fine but if you are not totally sure you may feel more comfortable on the day in the blue as it won't even be a 'thing' to remotely worry about. Both are fab x

Wedding etiquette is bonkers if people think you'd upstage the bride or ruin photos. It's lovely and you look great in it. Are we not allowed to look good at a wedding? In the big group photos everyone but the couple are just crammed in anyway.
Shuffles off muttering mad cat lady style 😂

But somebody somewhere will think it's a bad choice so best choose something else to avoid any drama

You look lovely and it's perfect for a wedding.

Unfortunately there are some new people on MN (maybe they are men) who like nothing more than be nasty to every poster like it's their job.

Ignore them, enjoy the wedding!

I think it’s a gorgeous dress, however, of alllllllllllll the dresses in the world, why not pick one that doesn’t make you worry about how the bride (or guests) might feel?

I dunno, does every photo have to be about the bride? Half the fun after the event is looking at the guests. 'Spotting' who's who, if you will. Back in my day....😂......weddings were about people who loved the couple coming together to celebrate the wedding.
Madness 😂

I think both dresses are beautiful. You could probably get away with the cream one but I just wouldn’t for a wedding, yes it’s probably fine but why skate close to the line when there are so many lovely dresses that aren’t borderline. The blue dress is lovely, go with that if you can get it.

I think you look amazing in the polka dot dress, it's not at all bridal and I can't see that it would stand out in photographs, especially with a black jacket or wrap. Not keen on the blue one.

It’s a lovely dress and no one will mistake you for the bride.

Workwear 😂😂😂😂

Neither of these dresses is particularly feminine, sexy or fun. To me they both scream lack of confidence as if the wearer is trying to cover up and hide or prudishness. The second dress looks positively laced-up and Victorian. Unleash your frivolity, enjoy the opportunity to dress up and don’t downplay your wonderful figure.

Since when should wedding guest attire be 'sexy'? ... that's about the one think you might get 'judged' for!

It’s fine. Not remotely bridal.

Much prefer OP's blue dress, in a smaller size it would look amazing

Mumsnet invariably has insanely dated and rigid views on what people should wear to weddings.

OP, the dress is absolutely fine and you look great in it.

Maybe put a smart back jacket over the top? End of problem. Unless you are in the bridal party, you are unlikely to be in the same formal photos.

Ffs so you can’t have cream or white anywhere on your clothing? Is there a reason why? Do you think someone will mistake this polka dot dress for a bridal gown?

Just saw the blue dress OP. Wear the polka dot! It looks lovely on you. The pale blue looks dowdy and unflattering.

Only Kate Middleton wears those kinds of dresses surely??? I mean they aren't awful or anything but idk they are very staid in my opinion. Which means nothing so crack on 🤣