To think this is asking a lot?!

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Person A works 10 hours a day and drives.

Person B works 2 hours a day but doesn’t not drive.

B would like A to come and collect them after work several times a week, visit a family member and then drop them home.

This will be a 40 mile round trip for A in the evening after work when they’re tired (not to mention the extra time and petrol costs).

A said they can’t do this several times a week after work due to the time/cost etc

B is not happy about this. Due to the countryside location, B’s only other option is a taxi which they cannot afford. B says they cannot work more due to their mental health but because they’re self employed what they can claim via universal credit is very limited.

YABU: A should do the 40 mile round trip for B a few times a week

YANBU: B needs to fit in with when A feels able to do the 40 mile round trip or make their own arrangements to see family member.

No is a complete sentence. You don’t have to justify your reasons.
Look I’ve had a variety of mental health problems and I’ve had to continue to work, drive, look after my kids and get help. I didn’t have a choice.
You need to establish some boundaries and say no, it doesn’t work for me.

OP, are you reading and taking in this?

i have mh issues i still learnt to drive beause i didnt want to beome a burden

tell them to jog on

B is extremely cheeky and needs to sort their act out.

Cheeky fuckers will remain cheeky fuckers as long as there are dumbass people out there allowing them to be cheeky fuckers.

Say no.

Obviously it is asking too much. But if person A agrees to do it, that's their own fault. Say no!

AcrossThePond has nailed it really. There is no reasoning with unreasonable people. They cannot conceive of a situation in which they are not the most important factor.
why does Person B think their mental health is more important than Person A’s health? Becoming chronically overtired and resentful is not a recipe for good mental health. Person B is asking far too much. They don’t understand this because they take steps to ensure they don’t do more than they can manage. It is completely reasonable for Person A to protect themselves in the same way. Just because you can manage more, doesn’t mean you can manage everything. You are aallowed a threshold for what you can do.

Person A is unreasonable for writing all this A & B nonsense instead of just saying ‘my brother’ and ‘my parents’

Sounds like Person B has a lot of free time, perhaps they can walk

Why can't B move in with parents?

Tell B to fuck off.

A needs to stop enabling B and tell them to learn to drive and get over themselves

B is VERY unreasonable. A is not a taxi and that volume of chauffeuring on top of long days of work would not be ok!

I would do this once a week for my sister to support her and help improve her mental health.
I would not do this for my brother who is a spoilt brat, always expecting lifts to family events and mum still does his washing and ironing!!

Tell your brother to get to fuck. He is a CF manchild and needs to take responsibility for his life. His problem is not yours to solve

Eh?

B is a CF.
If they cant get on a bus or train like most people would, then they need to find a new job

I would be interested to know what mental health condition limits you (one) to working 2h a day.

I believe in this case it might be idlelayaboutitis.

How far away is the parent they want to see?
Does the parent need the help or company?
Why can't your brother cycle?
Why can't the parent visit your brother instead?
What is the parent's expectation?

Ah missed the social rather than work
You need to tell him No chance,. Or " on your bike" literally!

I'd stop engaging with B until they stopped making ridiculous requests.

Hard no, OP. Tell B to do one.

OP is your brother threatening suicide if you don’t do as he says? I just don’t understand otherwise why you haven’t told him to do one.

Impossible to say without the wider context. I'm assuming the person to visit is an elderly/unwell parent. You obviously think your sibling is in some way exaggerating their mental health problems, but if they can't travel to see them any other way then you need to compromise. Maybe just go together on weekends. If your sibling is unreasonable, explain that your long shifts are impacting on your mental health too.

Even if he is, still not A’s problem. He can go and live with family if that important.

B is a CF who needs to learn to drive and pay for an Uber until then. Get real.