To think this is asking a lot?!

[Foodfrezy]

Person A works 10 hours a day and drives.

Person B works 2 hours a day but doesn’t not drive.

B would like A to come and collect them after work several times a week, visit a family member and then drop them home.

This will be a 40 mile round trip for A in the evening after work when they’re tired (not to mention the extra time and petrol costs).

A said they can’t do this several times a week after work due to the time/cost etc

B is not happy about this. Due to the countryside location, B’s only other option is a taxi which they cannot afford. B says they cannot work more due to their mental health but because they’re self employed what they can claim via universal credit is very limited.

YABU: A should do the 40 mile round trip for B a few times a week

YANBU: B needs to fit in with when A feels able to do the 40 mile round trip or make their own arrangements to see family member.

Sorry but I find these types of posts so annoying and pedantic.

Why can’t you post in a straight forward manner.

My sister doesn’t drive and only works 2 hours a day. She wants me to pick her up to visit our parents etc etc.

But of course person B is being unreasonable.

Can the person your sibling wants to see do the travelling?

They don't work somewhere else and need lifts or taxis, they work 2 hours at home.

What does B do that's self employed but only 2 hours a day?

Eh just no. Maybe once or twice a month at most but if they’re that entitled then no. Why are they so rural if they don’t drive?

@Foodfrezy

more info would be helpful.

is the relative one of your parents?

Do you visit them or are you nc?

Dors your sibling live with you?

what does your sibling do to help you out?

Do you agree they have MH issues that prevent them working more or are they just lazy fuckers who have learnt to use the right words so you can't confront them?

Is there reason your sib can't live with or near the relative

Oh I thought they worked in the countryside place

Tell CF your own mental health will be shot if you even attempt that.

B sounds like an entitled twat!

If I was A I would be distancing myself from B.

B should try and move closer to this family member if they need to see them so often.

It would have been much simpler for all our respective mental health for the OP to read:

"I want a relative to take me on a 40 mile round trip, for free, several times a week. AIBU?"

Because that's all that was needed.

Just keep saying no OP.

Look up the bus timetable and forward it on.

How does B get to work? Whatever means they use to get there they can use to get home, can’t they?
And if they want to see another relative or friend then use bus, train, cycle, meet half way etc.,.

Exercise is great for MH issues, perhaps they could walk/cycle, you could be generous and gift them a pair of skates for Christmas?

B needs to learn that they cease to be the golden child when the parents are no longer around to facilitate it. A doesn't have to 'carry on the tradition' and is entitled to tell B and anyone else hassling her (or him) to GTF.

A is also entitled to go LC/NC if this is affecting his/her mental health or wellbeing.

Can family member not travel to B if they want to see each other?

Person A does not need to facilitate these visits. Only exception would be if someone was ill and in hospital and as a one off visit might be reasonable.

Once a week MAYBE aid A actually wanted to spend the time with B, a set day. That’s it.

we have a name in Ireland for B, it’s a ‘Me feiner’ it means they think only about themselves and don’t care about anyone else.

Don’t be bullied.

40 miles is - well miles! Even on a motorway that’s a decent trip. In a rural area how long is that time wise?

Does B have comprehension difficulties generally?

A + B / C = D where X = 3 and Y = 4

Just state who A and B are!

😂

Where b=cf and distance = 40m

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No none! He is just a CF 😂

Answer = no

If B is only working 2 hours a day, why can't s/he work from 8 am - 10 am and then take public transport? It would presumably be a lengthy journey but s/he clearly has a lot of free time each day.

Even if B worked 12 hours a day, it's still a huge ask of anyone.