To think this is too early for a house guest to get up?

[morningbbrew]

My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

I’m an early riser so it wouldn’t affect me. But the whole thing is rude and not something I’d do with guests round or as a guest.

Or asking him to make it before bed and put it in the fridge.

Sorry to all those who would do similar to bil, but someone who makes a smoothie at 5:30 ahead of their run at 6 sounds a total bore🤷🏻‍♀️

Honestly I doubt the blender will wake you up. My and my flatmate used to have breakfast smoothies A LOT at various times of the morning and it was never a problem even in a small flat. You’re more likely to be disturbed by someone walking around/up and down stairs at 5.30am.

Anyway do I think getting up at someone else’s house at 5.30am is a bit off - yes. But I’d say it’s less rude than a guest sleeping in til 10.30am/11am.

I think it's incredibly rude to do anything that will disturb your hosts before 8 am at the very earliest. If he can get in and out of the house earlier without waking you, that's fine, but I can't imagine anyone being able to get out of my house without waking me up.

I wouldn't put the blender on before everyone was up. Hide it, leave a note saying you'll aim to be up at 9am as need a lie in after a busy time. He should get the hint!

I have a friend staying from NZ . She is up at 530…I get up about 930 . She is great,coffee in bed ,washing on line,dishwasher empty…perfect!

Going for an early morning run quietly letting yourself in and out-reasonable
Making a smoothie/showering next to where other people are sleeping-very fucking unreasonable.

Leave a note asking him to keep the noise down/no early morning shower…and hide the blender!

Wouldn't be a problem here provided he brought me a cup of tea on his way out, BUT this is why we avoid staying with people, I can be up at 5 am if I can't sleep (health issue) and DP always opens his bowels between 5:45 and 6am.

I'm another hide the blender

I bet he's brought his own blender

This really

IMHO your BIL should have better manners. Bringing his own food! Going to bed at 9pm on a Saturday night when he’s staying with people for the weekend? What would he have done if you’d gone out for dinner or to the pub? And as for going for a run at 6am on a Sunday WTF! Has he stayed with you before? If it were me, I’d be making sure my DH has a word with his sister. Unless he’s got some serious health reason for needing a dawn run every single morning, then he should leave his habits at home or they don’t get invited again.

I'm over invested in this situation

Take the blender to bed with you and leave a note telling him he'd better not wake you up! What a twat.

Sounds like the type who would knock, walk into OP's room, shake her awake and whisper "don't get up, just can't find the blender..."

Shared with a friend many moons ago who got up at 5am for her shift, even at weekends.
Bungalow with open plan living....
She'd turn all the lights on, kettle/coffee grinder, sing in the shower, slam cupboards etc.
I remember waking up in a panic once with the feeling I was in a disco.
Thing is, she's a deep sleeper and had never considered it would be an issue.
She did try to stop after that, but she's naturally heavy footed, so I was always woken up.

Hope he has some sense and realises he's being rude.

Being awake and using toilet cannot possiy be compared to making a drink in a blender 5 am.

I had guests snoring, vomiting, shiting, pregnant and eating,all in the middle of the night.
No problem.

But yeah, I had issues with my FIL frying bacon and eggs and leaving kitchen in a mess bcs he had breakfast at 4am to catch 8am flight.

"Oh, just to let you know, I'm afraid our blender is a noisy one, so using it in the morning when everyone's sleeping isn't going to work. Can you make the smoothie the night before and put it in the fridge? If that's not possible, I'm afraid you'll have to wait till you get back, otherwise we'll all be woken up. Also, as we'll all be asleep, obviously you'll have to be pretty quiet letting yourself out. Come with me and I'll show you how to do it as quietly as possible."

Me too. Please can you update in the morning OP

Smoothie is a no but getting up at 6 is ok?
Absolutely not.

In your own house fine, but you don’t go to someone else’s as a guest and potentially wake them up on what is their weekend too at 6am. I’d be livid

Does he make his smoothie before his run?

When does he drink it? Before or after his run?

He sounds insufferable, bringing his own food, going to bed at 9, having to make a smoothie at silly o’clock in the morning and then going for a run. If I was the sister I would have left him at home

I'm often dealing with jetlag when visiting family (currently, where I live is either 12 or 13 hours ahead of home and I used to live where it was 6 hours ahead of home), so I'm often up early and, like your BIL will go for a run. However, I work hard to be super quiet (can be a problem at my cousin's house because the door alarm beeps but I go out the door furthest from the bedrooms - and they have a massive house, so it is pretty far). Actually, my cousin made use of my jetlag when the boys were small because they (the boys) figured out that I was up early and would come to my room to see if I was awake and ready to play - meaning my cousin and her husband could sleep in a bit. When I stay with my dad and his wife, the place is much smaller but they are both hard of hearing, so I can get out without waking them (and make a quiet breakfast and watch TV in the den, also without waking them - but I keep the TV low and use closed captioning).

So, getting up early (and even going for a run) I don't see as problematic but doing something like make a smoothie and waking up others, is a problem.

I guess he's getting up about now! I do hope he's quiet! I'd be inclined to get pretty grumpy if he does put the blender in ... sounds a bit like my BIL - doesn't really consider others needs

I'm incapable of sleeping in but if I am at someone else's house I'm very careful not to wake anyone else.

Waking others is the problem not the time he gets up.

Hide the blender.

Or bang on his door and wake him up when you go to bed to tell him not to use it.