Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

[coxesorangepippin]

Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

A lot of communication is through the eyes. I would remove my sunglasses when being first introduced to others.
I also used to think it was rude not to do that for a short period of time, but people explained to me about prescription sunglasses.

If she'd pulled a Bono and insisted on wearing them indoors I might have agreed, unless there was a good reason.

But sunglasses are meant to be worn in the sun. The clue's in the name.

YABU.

This is me too. On the subject of mothers, mine had macular degeneration, one of the causes of which is uv damage. People with pale eyes should wear sunglasses whenever it’s bright enough to turn transition lenses, which is why I have them.
Your odd hang up doesn’t trump my risk of going blind @coxesorangepippin

I have glasses that change in the sun so if sunny are likely to look like sunglasses and I am not going to remove them because I could not see

I have an eye condition that means I should wear sunglasses outside ALL the time- not just really sunny weather!

Haha. OP I know where you are coming from.

If I were meeting someone new and I had sunglasses on. I would instinctively lift them up - smile and say hello etc..for the initial connection. Then put them on again.

Isn’t it basic manners?

I was never taught that, but I kind of instinctively understood it because communication is so much better when you can see each other's eyes.
I agree it's fine to put them back on afterwards.

You wouldn't like me then. 🤣🤣

Though mine are transitions so will lighten over a five to ten minutes once I am indoors and out of direct sunlight. I'm clearly not to be trusted at all. 🤣🤣

Bono has glaucoma making his eyes sensitive to light- hence the glasses!

I get migraines in the summer. I keep my sunglasses on a lot as it numbs the pain a bit.

The sun makes me sneeze uncontrollably and I have quite photosensitive eyes. I also wear prescription sunglasses. I have never heard that it's rude to wear sunglasses in company and thing that it's quite bonkers.

You might think seeing the eyes aids communication but the effect wil be incredibly small - or we would have no trouble spotting sex offenders and thieves

I think she was rude to not at least take them off briefly when you were introduced to her, yeah, it is rude. Of course she can put them back on but just a brief nice smile and greeting without them so you can properly see each other.

Oh, I'm not sure about that. I find one can communicate quite a lot with one's eyes. For example, when I read the OP I went 🙄

I have been told to always wear sun glasses whilst outdoors in bright weather as I'm developing a cataract and this will help slow down a bit (not keen on the idea of cataract surgery!!). Maybe your friend's sister has a similar issue. YABU.

"You might think seeing the eyes aids communication but the effect wil be incredibly small "

Well, I'm not so sure. Communication when we can see each other is much more effective than over the telephone, for example.

Yes communication is easier if you see someone - but it's the whole body that we focus on - the head tilt , the arms folding , the smile that doesn't reach the eyes as even with sunglasses on you will detect the muscles around the eyes move ( or not in that case)

The eyes themselves don't tell much of anything

And anyway - it's still rude to expect people to expose themselves to harm for a minimal communication improvement

You must've been taught by the hard of thinking 😳

If you're sat outside in bright sunshine, it's fine to wear sunglasses.

The clue is in the name...

It's basic manners to take them off, even if it's just momentarily, so you can make eye contact with the person you're spending time with. It's about developing trust. It won't kill anyone to take them off for 5 seconds to say hello.

I’ve had my both my cataracts done recently. The new lenses let in a LOT more light so I have to wear sunglasses whenever I’m outside. Even on a cloudy day they are essential.

Be careful what you wish for - maybe your friend’s sister had an eye condition like conjunctivitis or a large stye which are not pretty to look at!

I'd find that a bit annoying too,but I still think YABU.

Yes yabu.

I have extremely sensitive eyes when it comes to the sun. I have to wear sun glasses or I literally can’t see.

After having eye surgery a few years ago, my eyes are very sensitive to light & I was warned by the surgeon to always wear sunglasses unless it’s really cloudy as I’m now higher risk for cancer in that eye & a host of other conditions.

For those posters getting worked up into a frenzy about manners - your sense of self-importance doesn’t override my desire to not go blind!

There are many like this. Behind those sunglasses her eyes are yellow with black vertical lines through the centre.

Be careful out there - they are multiplying.

Soon more will come and we will be outnumbered.

You are lucky she didn’t remove those glasses.

One glance from those naked yellow eyes and it’s goodnight.

YABU - some people have to protect their eyes at all times OP, I do understand where you’re coming from though