Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

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Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

Wow. Are people really this uptight.

I wore a hat once, and it wasn't raining. 😳

Outside in the sun? That's completely normal.

She doesn't need a reason, but she could be prone to headaches, they could be prescription sunglasses and she doesn't see the point of switching back to her normal ones since she's still outside, she could have sensitive eyes.

Or she could just not want the sun in her eyes.

Who cares......?

You should share your eyes - it prevents damage

Shade ! Not share - that would be wierd

This is a joke isn't it? I have pale skin and blue eyes and can't tolerate the sun at all. If I was with someone in a sunny garden I would keep my sunglasses on the whole time.

Yep, sunglasses with adequate UV protection do prevent damage and reduce cataract risk.

Surely it’s pretty rude to expect someone to squint in bright sunlight when they could wear sunglasses against the glare, just so you can see their eyes?

Why rude?

I wear reactalites and if I remove my glasses then I can't see.

Yabu. What if, like me, she had on prescription transitions? I wouldn’t know my own mother across the table were I not wearing my glasses. I have no reason to remove them and render myself unable to see, plus I have no choice on how dark they get.

I think this is just one of those things that's a "you" issue - you were outside, in the sun - perfectly appropriate conditions to wear sunglasses 😎

Time for a hobby OP.

My sunglasses are prescription varifocals - I can't see without them. I wear them more often than my ordinary glasses - they are far more relaxing for my eyes.

And if someone thought that it was rude, I would think that they were ignorant.

Or whoever told you that was wrong.

I do take mine off briefly, because not seeing each other's eyes does change communication. But my eyes are light sensitive and they are prescription, so I leave them on as much as possible.

I was always taught to take sunglasses off when saying hello to people, and that keeping them on is rude although it’s okay to put them back on again after you’ve said hello.

Maybe you should have been brought up to understand that if someone is wearing sunglasses in company there is probably a physical reason and it would be unkind to judge.

Autistic here too. I wear wraparound sunglasses all the time outdoors, and a lot of the time indoors too (eg coffee shops, supermarkets etc). It's absolutely necessary for me so that I can reduce the sensory input far enough that I can actually concentrate on the conversation.

Even if your friend isn't like me...she's obviously wearing them for comfort. Your hangups about eye contact are your problem, and not a good enough reason for her to make herself uncomfortable.

@BrigadierEtienneGerard

in what way does 'being in company' stop the sun being so bright & damaging one's eyes?

Mine are prescription and I wouldn't bother swapping sunglasses for normal glasses if I needed the sunglasses as was outside in the sun. You're weird.

If meeting someone new I always take my sunglasses off to say hello, nice to meet you etc, and then put them back on. I think it’s rude for me not to do that for that 10 second interaction, I feel people haven’t “seen” you properly otherwise!

The nerve of her.

At least tell me she stood up when you entered/left the table and did a bow?

I wear sunglasses as soon as I step outside, even in winter! My eyes are very sensitive to light.

It’s not rude.

I always say 'It may not be sunny but it's still bright!'

Course they are, it's MN!!!