Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

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Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

I always lift my glasses when first introduced to a new person to say nice to meet you but then slide them back down again for the remainder of the time.

I couldn't get myself worked up if someone kept theirs on though because as you can see from other peoples responses theres a lot of very valid reasons to keep them on.

Why did not seeing her eyes make you feel uncomfortable?

I use tacrolimus cream for eczema around my eyes. It makes my skin v sensitive to the sun and it's recommended that you use sunscreen and wear sunglasses even on a cloudy day.

Is this a serious post? If it's sunny, I have my sunglasses on.

What an odd thing to be taught on many occasions. How did that keep coming up?

Im all for good manners and in my book that means not expecting someone whose eyes dont deal well with sun and brightness to squint on my account

I wear both prescription glasses and sunglasses and I still do this to say hello to someone new. Looking someone in the eye as you meet and introduce yourself is common human behaviour, displays confidence and respect. However equally its
not a hill I’m going to die on if I don’t/can’t do it for whatever reason.
Similarly i also wear my prescription sunglasses inside eg in shops if needs be or more likely I forgot to bring my glasses. I’m not going to walk around blind for the sake of other people’s perceptions.

Sama here.

I suffer from migraine with aura (visual disturbances) and it can be triggered by bright sunlight.

Sunglasses really help, and there is no way in this world I would remove them and risk triggering a migraine.
I wouldn't care if anyone thought I was rude/ wanted to see my eyes.

I am another with prescription sunglasses and I would def have kept my sunglasses on the whole time. Otherwise I am blind as a bat.

It's a very odd thing for you to be bothered about. I'm not sure if I would notice either way tbh.

If I took my glasses off to say hello I wouldn't be able to see the person I was talking to - and they wouldn't see my eyes anyway as they screw up badly when exposed suddenly to bright light !

So rude to expect people to hurt themselves and experience pain to meet your preferences

I, like the vast majority of people I know, always wear sunglasses in direct sunlight. It's bad for long term eye health to not protect you eyes from sun, it's also really uncomfortable to squint AND I get migraines from spending time in bright sunlight without sunglasses so yep YABU.

Well I was brought up properly but broke my normal glasses on the final day of our holiday so had to wear my prescription sunglasses both indoors and outdoors.

My sight is so bad I can't see further than the first letter of the eye test in one eye without glasses. So I'm afraid I was extremely rude to everyone on that final day. I'm sure they'll survive.

Never assume - you know the old saying 'assume - making an "ass" of "u" and "me" '

I'd lift mine if I ran into someone on the street, but if I was sitting outside in the sunshine I wouldn't. Especially since they're prescription.

I have reactions lenses, I don't even tend to be ware if they have gone dark.

And here we have yet another One-Post-Wonder thread for our delectation and entertainment.

If I took off my sunglasses then I wouldn’t be able to see your face never mind your eyes. Is that ruder than you not seeing my eyes?

I'm more surprised that you yourself weren't wearing sunglasses! How on earth can you sit outside in the sun without sunglasses on? I can't think of many things more uncomfortable.

You are being ridiculous even questioning it.

Gosh OP. I’d have slapped them right off her face. That’ll show her.

Surely this is a joke 🤣

You sat outside… it was sunny… why do you think there’s something wrong with her keeping them on? It’s literally what they’re made for!

I too would’ve kept mine on the whole time, as I always do when I’m sat out in the sun. I’ve never worried before that the people I’m with would be sad about not seeing my eyes!

My eyes water, A LOT, so I keep them on the majority of the time I am outside, even if not massively sunny…

Why the fuck would anyone care about this at all? Very strange indeed!!

My main pair of glasses, which I have to wear all the time, are transitions lenses, and bifocal. So for distance and for reading. I can see very little without them.

Being transitions lenses, they darken whenever I am outside at all. So I am wearing prescription sunglasses permanently. I don't think it is rude at all and if other people do then that's their problem, not mine. I couldn't give a single shit.

Maybe she has eye trouble or sensitive eyes or has headaches that are aggravated by bright sunlight.. Maybe they are prescription and she can't see properly without them. I might think it a bit odd if someone wore sunglasses for two hours indoors (even there, I would probably suspect an eye condition rather than rudeness); but not outdoors on a sunny day: that's what they're for.

Did you want to gaze adoringly into them?

I can't bear the sun in my eyes, so I would have kept them on the whole time. I do often lift them up if I'm saying hello to someone, but they're always on if it's sunny and I'm outside. I wouldn't be able to see otherwise.

Absolutely this. It’s an animal thing, really. Actually no one ever TOLD me you should take your sunglasses off when first meeting someone, but I always do. I also take them off when I’m in a shop. Would I think any less of someone who didn’t? Not from the perspective of being well or badly brought up, no. From the perspective of whether I’d instinctively trust them? Yes.

If you saw me outside on a sunny day, you would think me terribly rude because my glasses automatically go dark in the sun and stay that way. If I took them off, you might feel happier for being able to see my eyes, but I would be deeply unhappy because all I would only be able to see a very fuzzy version of you.