Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

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Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

You have embarrassed yourself enough... everyone can see that not only did you make an offensive statement which you where called out on by multiple people but you then went on to attack the very disabled people who called you out on saying something ablest.

We have heard it all before, these backhand ways to call us stupid, idiots, imbeciles, retarded, dunces etc... you are not the first but don't dare insults us that you didn't mean EXACTLY what you said.

'pop them up then back down' (who cares if they are a medical tool right?) & 'its like no one is home' (a straight up offensive term to mean someone is stupid) & 'because so much of convocation is eye contact' (so clearly that must mean you can't communicate with people who can't make eye contact right?) Its in black and white.

Everyone sees who you, but clearly you are someone who can't admit what you are and wont ever change so just stop.

To be fair, sometimes people who don't experience something themselves can unintentionally make an ablist remark.
I've been guilty of doing the same myself in the past (pre peeled boiled eggs?! Just do it yourself FFS and save pounds, bit lazy) .
Til it was pointed out to me that actually that's a good thing for people who physically can't do that.
Me never thought of it that way.
It's not what you say, it's how you react when you're told you're wrong /being prejudiced that's important imo.

You arw 1000% unreasonable

Like many other PP, I wear prescription sunglasses. It wouldn't even occur to me to remove them. My being able to see is more important than you, or anyone else, being able to see my eyes.

Do you expect someone to remove their normal clear glasses at any time? I would hope not, so prescription sunglasses is no different.

I would have done the same. If I don't wear my sunglasses outside (or when driving) from March-October I'm Ms. Squinty McSquint from Squintingbull Lane, Squintshire. And all that squinting gives me a headache. I asked an optician about it once and she said I had unusually large pupils which is the cause of it. Your friends sister may have the same.

YABU. Her need to protect her eyes from sun damage beats your need to look at her eyes

Mine are prescription too and I often don't take them off there i walk inside as I can see clearly with them on

It wouldn't even occur to me to take off my sunglasses if outside. I really rather not be squinting at people.

I have an autoimmune condition which makes my eyes unnaturally sensitive to light. If I had to take them off I’d have to sit with eyes closed

You were outside in the sun, nothing wrong with having sun glasses on in that setting: j probably would too

Oh thank goodness - I thought I was the only one who wore my prescription sunglasses in the supermarket! Thankfully no-one has ever commented on it.

Why do you think people wear sunglasses OP? What's the point of taking them off when you are outside just because you are with other people? YABVU.

I thought that sunglasses were supposed to be worn on the top of the head, even when it’s sunny.
😉😁😁.

Glasses, tinted or otherwise, are a disability aid for many people and you've just met a person you almost certainly will not know whether or not that's the case.

And nobody's home is just offensive.

The fact you're continuing to argue this proves you've no idea how unpleasantly ableist your comment was.

Mine are prescription and I can see better with. I don't remove even if I go indoors.

I did it yesterday. Car park was busy so parked quite a long way from the door, didn't fancy squinting across the car park and also didn't fancy carrying both sets of glasses into the store - I don't take a handbag into the supermarket just phone and wallet in pocket.

I can see inside with my sunglasses on....

This must be some Advanced Grade Manners that I missed because it seems a little nuts.

What do you think my sunglasses are for? They're so I can see you.

"Basic manners", it is not.

I would feel like a loon, and if anyone else "raised their sunglasses" to me, I would think they were a loon. Where would they put them?

I'd be interested to know how old you are, where you are from and which social class you feel you being to, because I have never heard of this before or seen anyone do it.

Working class background ( no one had sunglasses then ) and middle aged and middle class now , northern but spent decades in the south

Never see anyone wiggle their glasses up to make momentary eye contact

Absolutely fascinated by this 'manners' thing.

Says who? Why? When did this become a thing? Which absolute bore has deemed it must be so? Do you understand the difference between a rule and just...your preference?

I say this with all politeness, but if you think my choices are any of your business, you can absolutely get fucked.

No, not advanced grade manners, just an awareness that it might make someone else feel comfortable engaging with you. You know, considering others. It only takes a moment to quickly lift them up.

https://www.whowhatwear.com/sunglasses-etiquette

Many more examples like this online. Unless you have a medical reason to keep sunglasses on all the time - obviously - I find it weird and pretentious if folks leave them on when speaking with someone.

But I must be a little nuts 😂

It's very common for people to wear them for medical reasons

• protection of eyes ( sone eye colours are very sensitive to damage )
• ability to see
• avoiding migraines

Since it's so common and the only reason given to remove glasses is "manners" then it's about time the "what's considered rude" gets updated

Manners that require someone else to feel uncomfortable so you don't feel uncomfortable are pretty daft

I think many forget that sunglasses can also be prescription glasses. And also reading some of the posts, some posters don't get that visually impaired doesn't automatically mean blind.

I wear strong glasses. And yes sunglasses. I wouldn't think to take them off when meeting someone/talking to someone as it would mean I can't see their face why is their desire to see my (very unfocused eyes) more important than my actual ability to see?

If someone was offended by me not removing my sunglasses, they are welcome to never speak to me. Saves me a job of having to weed out the arseholes myself.

The opposite of true manners, in fact.