Shrieking child next door ALL DAY LONG! WWYD

[Mydietstartstomorrow]

New neighbours moved in next door a few weeks ago. They have a young boy I’d estimate age 2 to 3. He shrieks virtually all day and evening, not in a crying upset way, more in play and excitement but it’s ALL.THE.TIME!
Theyre out in the garden and he’s shrieking (can’t think of another word for it) or kinda singing to himself in a really high pitched loud tone, and when they’re inside he’s doing the same. We live in small terrace houses and can hear loudish noise through the walls. I work from home 3 days a week and it’s driving me to distraction. We can’t sit out in the garden as it’s constant. I appreciate he may have some additional needs but surely the parents would be aware of the noise and try to reduce this? He is definitely verbal as I hear him chatting to his mum. Apparently the mum doesn’t speak English and the dad leaves for work early and comes back quite late so there’s been no interaction between us since they moved in. WWYD? The noise is driving me insane but I really don’t want to be insensitive

Then don’t work from home then. Personally I’m fed up of people moaning about children playing in their gardens because they apparently need quiet to work. If you choose to work from home then you don’t get to impose silence control on others in THEIR own homes. The little boy next door to me has been squealing high pitched for the past two days but he has additional needs and up until recently was non verbal so it’s great to hear him enjoying himself. Yes, the noise does occasionally go through me but I just suck it up because I don’t expect the world to revolve around me.

This validates selfishness on the part of the screaming child’s parents. Perhaps there is a problem that needs the police/social services to check up on? No person should be outside screaming for hours on end.

Then I suggest you move somewhere remote then.

I live in a town beginning with H and I nearly screamed at that kid to stfu ... all bastard day it is now .

Well then they should parent properly. Why should OP have to weat headphones in her own home ffs

"Whatever you did, didn't change it"

SEN aside, I fail to believe this. Children can learn not to behave that doesn't impact all the other people around them.

I don't see why the OP has to adapt her surroundings around screaming kid! Surely she is entitled to a quiet environment in her own house?!
Whilst I get we all have to accommodate around the SEN it surely doesn't trump her need for a peaceful home?!
Also, who said screaming kid was an SEN anyway?? Might just be annoying nt kid for all we know!

Op said the child is verbal, so they clearly have communication and therefore understanding. No reason to believe they have SEN, unless the mum informs her otherwise.

Some parents do just let their kids scream. I can bare it- especially as my working life with kids is noisy. My two learned early that we need to be considerate if others when we live in a cul de sac. Dd tried some screaming when she started primary, but we nipped it in the bud.

What I'd really like is for next door to teach their fucking dogs to stop barking.

Do you work?

She can request but doesn’t mean they have to comply especially if the child does have ASD then she doesn’t have a leg to stand on.

In more recent months other neighbours arrived and their 2 year old shrieks non stop as well. What’s most irritating is that the dreadful child is being encouraged or further animated instead of being calmed down. I try to ignore it but went over when the shrieking and non stop shrieking in the garden started at 7am on a Sunday, and had not stopped by 8am. The parents apologised and the child was takes inside but it’s been pretty much unchanged since.
I suspect that they simply don’t care about others as they also decided to schedule noisy works to commence at 8am on a bank holiday. It takes a special kind of selfishness to put your own needs over everyone else around you.

Why is everyone assuming he has ASD? This is getting out of control now. It’s reached the point now we just assume everyone involved has autism unless proved otherwise.

Why does your need for quiet trump the child’s need for play?

And police/social services? For a playing child? I’ve heard it all now 🙄

Some children <eyes DS(3)> are liable to get louder and louder the more you tell them to cut it out. My own DS regularly shrieks a ‘wah wah wah wah’ noise (he’s being a fire engine.) Telling him to be less noisy doesn’t work; it actually exacerbates the situation and makes him louder. He doesn’t do it all day though.

I do think it’s one of those ‘living next door to people’ things: barking dogs and children shrieking is a pain but it happens. I think wfh all you like but it isn’t an office and others shouldn’t be expected to treat it as such 🤷‍♀️

Because you can play without endless shrieking and screaming? Op isn’t suggesting he is locked up is she? Just to keep the noise down a bit.

There are noise regulations and the parents have to comply with noise only in certain hours. It’s one of the reasons you can’t do building work overnight. As soon as the parents step outside of the noise hours then the op can report them.

OP actually hasn’t suggested anything. I don’t get the impression that she has even spoken to the neighbours. So all of this talk of “selfishness” is based on assumption.

Yup I think my neighbours are sadly of the "it's just kids!!" and "some are louder than others!" mentality.

My kids knew if they shrieked they came in so we taught them it wasn't okay. Some parents aren't teaching them that....

If the child is ND and stims that way there is absolutely nothing the parents can do.

But it’s not just when I’m working it’s all the time! My evenings and weekends too! I can’t sit out in the garden I’ve spent time and money on!

@Mydietstartstomorrow have you actually tried talking to them about it?

Because people are a lot more aware of ASD and different way it can present. And many more kids actually have ASD than you'd think/like to know. The amount of adults I know that only got the diagnosis as adults but were labelled as lazy/loud/disorganised/antisocial etc when young is pretty amazing.

It's hugely annoying. I hate the sound of children yowling and keening in public places. I can't understand why their parents don't tell them to shut up. For what its worth, I do have two non-neurotypical sons and, if they had ever carried on like this, I would have taken them inside or explained to them that it was unpleasant for other people.

Get some headphones. You can't ask someone to make their toddler be quiet,

So people just have to live with it and their lives be miserable?

No, they don't.