Shrieking child next door ALL DAY LONG! WWYD

[Mydietstartstomorrow]

New neighbours moved in next door a few weeks ago. They have a young boy I’d estimate age 2 to 3. He shrieks virtually all day and evening, not in a crying upset way, more in play and excitement but it’s ALL.THE.TIME!
Theyre out in the garden and he’s shrieking (can’t think of another word for it) or kinda singing to himself in a really high pitched loud tone, and when they’re inside he’s doing the same. We live in small terrace houses and can hear loudish noise through the walls. I work from home 3 days a week and it’s driving me to distraction. We can’t sit out in the garden as it’s constant. I appreciate he may have some additional needs but surely the parents would be aware of the noise and try to reduce this? He is definitely verbal as I hear him chatting to his mum. Apparently the mum doesn’t speak English and the dad leaves for work early and comes back quite late so there’s been no interaction between us since they moved in. WWYD? The noise is driving me insane but I really don’t want to be insensitive

Too young for school unfortunately i could have another couple of years of this yet! And can’t afford to move!

Earplugs.

If you don’t want to go and knock nothings going to ever change or attempt to.

I guess you could always start blasting some Eminem or Juice wrld everytime they go outside till they get the message 😅

Again: she hasn’t even spoken to them!

Hmm that's a no then. I think you'll have to look into sound proofing

I have this with my neighbours - although thankfully not every day. It’s only really bad in summer but they appear to look after pre-school age grandchildren and they seem to think that the conifers that give us privacy are also some sort of soundproofing - they have a young girl who screams, shrieks, cries and whinges almost constantly and quite often I have to close my doors. I’be never said anything because on occasion in the summer we have friends round on an evening and we sit in the garden and have music on (not loud) and are chatting. I work on the basis that if they ever come to complain about the noise then that’s when I’ll tell them why I don’t wish to keep it down. Given the racket they make during the working day 3 times a week they don’t have a leg to stand on. And no, I don’t want to go in to the office or move my desk, I just have to close my door and turn the radio up.

Cue a diagnosis of the shrieker being neuro-whatsit....

Keep a noise record and inform landlord

Could be SEN but could also be a bit spoiled. Yanbu

For all of those saying nothing can be done, suck it up and wear headphones would you be happy to suck it up when you had a newborn, can you imagine a newborn being woken by screeching all day every day?
Why should anyone have to put up with a screaming child hour after hour. I don't know what the solution is but it is really inacceptable to ask anyone to deal with that type of noise.

Practice mindfulness

@Taytoface

I live in a town with "h" I do my upmost hardest to keep my son from not whining and crying all day but unless I physically hold his arms and tell him enough is enough, NOTHING works. I'm at the end of my tether and I cry every single day.

But if you are my neighbour, you will also know I stop said activities and if it gets too much, I move them back inside.

Parents will be annoyed too

You don't say how old your son is, but I hope you are getting some support day to day and also to find the cause of his unhappiness. It sounds exhausting.

I have a child that shrieks, and we've been to the GP. Who are beyond useless. We have a paediatrician. Useless. Community nurse, lovely but she deals with other issues. Specialist HV, who deals with it but sends us on numerous parenting and behaviour courses for Sen children and we've yet to find anything that helps.
We have so much involvement and support but there's nothing that can stop him, he just has to stop himself.
We've spoken to our neighbours and they couldn't care less. No sympathy, just their own thoughts and feelings matter. We even swapped the house so we are no longer next to one of their bedrooms and are downstairs. We're as considerate as were able to be.

Yet nothing will change this issue. Unless he stops doing it with time. There's no simple fix.

@tribalmango he's just turned 3, I have appointments made, luckily the HV seen so much when visiting me last year after having my third and final. And she flagged his behaviour up. We have an appointment finally to get to the bottom of it.

I've had private brain scans just to check if something sinister was happening.

Speak to the parents asap. Yes he’s only a young child but my goodness children’s shrieking cuts right through you. Some parents are just really crap at parenting and think the rest of us should just suck it up. You should be able to enjoy your own garden.

When I was on holiday recently the family next door much have been letting their children somersault over the beds ??. I went over and knocked and asked them to keep it down. It’s common courtesy on holiday to at least attempt to parent your children and should be the same in your own home.

It’s a child in his own home he’s expressing himself in a new environment it’s likely he will settle when he goes to nursery or pre school but expect it to continue through the holidays as a mother of a young child there’s little space in public I can allow my child to be free there’s no way I’m restricting them at home too

So ultimately you think your child is allowed to cause disruption to everybody else and make them resent paying their mortgage 😬

What can they do? Shove something in his mouth ? No
Hard to get 2 and 3 year olds to be quiet at the best of times
some kids are noisier than others

Yep I think there's far more "they can do what they like in their home to express themselves" parents causing this (ie my neighbours) than those with SEN to be honest.

Its quite different if parents have tried and/or they scream all day.

They can make whatever noise they want until 9pm. If you can’t handle it then work in the office.

I can only wonder what my neighbours think. My son screams bloody murder when I'm creaming him or brushing his hair in the morning. He also makes happy shrieks or talks really loudly sometimes when he is playing but I do correct when it gets out of hand. it hurts my ears I'm sure more then it hurts the neighbours. I really need to get a pair of noise cancelling earphones for myself. Either they just don't care or like me are trying to keep the noise down to a minimum but short of duct taping his mouth shut it's really a work in progress 🤣 Written as child makes very loud fire engine siren noises in the background 🫠

This is exactly my neighbours attitude I think 🙄

So if somebody moved in next to you and played thumping music from 8am-9pm every day, would you shrug your shoulders and say the same thing?

One of my children is neurodiverse, I didn't allow them to screech endlessly. I parented them, and helped them express themselves in other ways that were not distressing for everyone else.

The fuck is this nonsense? No. Everyone has a right to live undisturbed by screeching, kids can play and laugh and express themselves without making loud noises. No, @Mydietstartstomorrow, you do not need to go into the office, move your desk to another room or buy noise cancelling headphones, ask your neighbours to reduce the noise, maybe give them some info on local parenting/play groups where they can access support if the boy has SEN, but for the love of all things, don't just put up with it.

To quote Jenna Ortega, No, you don't have to.