Would you assume that your toddler was invited?

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I’m not yet a parent so I’m curious to know if parents would assume their 18 month old was invited.

I’m neither party in this scenario btw but one of the attendees.

The host arranged an afternoon in a restaurant which serves themed cocktails(or mocktails)with a tasting menu.

One guest brought her 18 month old son. It’s not a child free venue as such but neither is it at all child friendly and there are no children’s menus. it was 5pm and she wasn’t asked about the baby but assumed that he was welcome as the host didn’t state that he was.

So I’m curious to know if you assume if your children are invited if it isn’t specified that they are or if it’s the host’s responsibility to make it clear?

TIA

NO i wouldnt take an 18 month old to that kind of do.

To a cocktail and tasting menu? Hell no! Keep your child at home.

Absolutely not! I wouldn't go if they were!

I definitely wouldn’t take a child to that kind of thing! If I couldn’t hate childcare I would decline the invite!

I'd definitely assume it was a child free event

No - not a suitable venue for any child. It’s adult time - the cocktails and tasting menu makes it obvious.

In my opinion, no. Totally changes the vibe.

I would assume the person issuing the invites didn't say "no kids" because they assumed no-one would!

Lol - no!

I don’t have children but would be very surprised if a friend turned up for a girls night with a child in tow. It’s really not fair to the dynamic of the night or to the poor child.

I would never assume an invitation was extended to my child for any event unless they were specifically invited.
In the above scenario she was absolutely in the wrong to bring an 18m to an event like that.

No way!

Agree that the host wouldn't have specified because it's so obviously an event for adults, likely to be at a venue that isn't set up to accommodate children at all.

No, because I'm not mental

Yeah, of course I would think the child was invited. And if she didn't mention my granny, I would take her too 🙃

Hell no. If my childcare fell through then I'd have cancelled, I don't think that's a good excuse for bringing a toddler.

No way would I bring my child to that without confirming they were welcome. To be honest I'd be suspicious that she guessed the answer would be no so intentionally didn't ask could plead ignorance (possibly unfair, but I would be wondering).

5pm? No way. No fun for me, no fun for the child, no fun for any of the guests.

If you're neither party do you know that a discussion hadn't taken place between the host and the person who brought the toddler? Was the child a surprise to the host? I've read your OP again in case I missed it but it's not clear.

It would depend on the other guests for me.

As I never saw a 5pm without being responsible for the kids, I may just not have thought it through.

Evening, obviously not.
5pm with extended family? Possibly

Gosh what a piss taker! 😬

I'm surprised she didn't bring her DH, her dog and her MIL along too.

Yeah but surely a quick text to check?

I'm guessing she knew the answer would be no, and that's why she didn't ask.

She's either a loony or a CF.

No one with any comment sense takes a toddler to a cocktail tasting session in a restaurant, She must have known he wouldn't be welcome.

I would think no, but sounds like she really wanted to go!
Otherwise, sadly, she would have to self-exclude if there was no childcare option.
Sometimes, as a parent, you make a decision and have to go with it, whether it was a good idea or not in hindsight.

I wouldn't take my baby, I would also hate to go off someone brought theirs.