Would you assume that your toddler was invited?

[NotCamping]

I’m not yet a parent so I’m curious to know if parents would assume their 18 month old was invited.

I’m neither party in this scenario btw but one of the attendees.

The host arranged an afternoon in a restaurant which serves themed cocktails(or mocktails)with a tasting menu.

One guest brought her 18 month old son. It’s not a child free venue as such but neither is it at all child friendly and there are no children’s menus. it was 5pm and she wasn’t asked about the baby but assumed that he was welcome as the host didn’t state that he was.

So I’m curious to know if you assume if your children are invited if it isn’t specified that they are or if it’s the host’s responsibility to make it clear?

TIA

of course not and I would be gutted if someone else brought their baby

No, the very nature of the event screams "child free".

I also think that having kids at events like these ruins it and so it's thoughtless towards the other attendees

I'd assume something like this was child free unless explicitly stated otherwise.

Would I fuck bring my baby, let me loose on the cocktails baby free. I say this as a parent of an 18 month old.

It's not the type of event that I would personally consider taking an 18 month old. To be honest, as a parent you need to use some common sense. A cocktail tasting session, isn't particularly child friendly. If I was in a position that I didn't have childcare, then I would have explained to the host and declined the invitation. In fairness, you wouldn't expect the host to have to advise those with children that it was a child-free event, it should be obvious. My moto is 'if in doubt, ask'. My husband and I were invited to a event a couple of years ago, our son's name wasn't on the invitation (he was 11 at the time). I assumed he wasn't invited, but my husband asked his friend who was the host and my assumptions were correct, he wasn't invited.

Well it depends. With my group of friends I have been assuming that my child is invited then I get annoyed when it's not child friendly. I think they should explicitly state either way because my default would be to bring him as we come as a package now.

No. It wouldn't even occur to me that children would he invited and, as a parent, I used to get really annoyed if people brought their little darling along to obviously adult only events. And, finally, I wouldn't go to one that children were invited to.

Thanks all.

I appreciate the responses.

The toddler definitely wasn’t explicitly invited and it wasn’t discussed before she accepted the invitation.

She does have a husband who helps with the baby.

The toddler mostly sat in his buggy but understandably got bored and fed up and wanted to walk around(which is fair enough)

I tend to be asked to be the organiser, though I wasn’t on this occasion, and it’s making me think that to be fair to all parties that I should make it explicitly clear if kids are invited.

Sometimes an event away from the kiddos is needed !

Also We felt rushed out of there and I think that’s because the restaurant staff really didn’t want the toddler there. They were obviously taken aback by his presence.

I would assume a child wasn’t invited to a cocktail session.

Oh my god a toddler in a cocktail class with all the hazards involved. Glasses, alcohol, busy environment and no space to play or child friendly activities? Of course not

LOL! I wouldn’t ever assume a toddler was invited to a cocktail event. That sounds very girls night/hen do. Maybe it was an excuse to get away early… I don’t know the thinking here.

Plus drunken adults. I hope mum was on the mocktails at the very least.

You'd really need someone to explicitly state your toddler wasn't invited to a cocktail evening? Surely you would think it an inappropriate environment for your child and therefore not bring them.

I’d have sent the CF home again, or asked her to rejoin us when she’d given her toddler to her husband.

There is no way at all an 18 month old is invited to a tasting menu and cocktails. Anyone who thinks it’s ok to bring their child to something like that off their trolley.

The poor organiser!

No!

She did have a choice. She could have done what anyone else would have done in those circumstances, and cancelled.

Absolutely not and be pissed off at someone else bringing theirs.

Umm no, I can’t believe anyone is that oblivious to think you’d bring a toddler to an evening cocktail party.

You have to be joking! (Please gods, be joking)

Of course you aren’t a package. The world doesn’t have to be child friendly just because you had a kid. Your child isn’t invited unless you’ve checked he is invited.

Bloody hell 😬

What did he think of the tasting menu?

To the park, maybe. But to a cocktail tasting evening? Why?

No - adult only event