Can't be bothered to cook for son

[palmtreesands]

We only have limited fridge and freezer space so him buying his own shopping is not an option.
Dh eats at work and I like to take a massive salad to work among other things and pick so don't eat again in the evening.
Ds comes home from work expecting a home cooked dinner and I find it such a headache, if I haven't cooked or we've eaten I out as we sometimes do he expects their to be ingredients to make himself something to eat.... their often isn't and I am racing up the shop to buy him something to make but as I said food has to be included in his monthly contribution otherwise he'll come back with shopping that we don't have room for.
Aibu to let this stress me out so much, I'm hot and bothered and don't want the headache of feeding him but he pays £400 a month to live here so expects there to be food to eat and I can't be bothered with the hassle of always making sure there's something in when we don't have family meals.

He won't be happy with just a microwave meal. I'm absolutely knackered when I get home and the last thing I want to think about is his stomach.

Can’t you take less keep money and make him buy/cook his own meals?

I take it he’s an adult… if so then he can cook for himself

Surely he can buy himself a small freezer for himself?

Get a bigger fridge?

He is willing to buy his own food but you aren't willing to provide him the space for it.

Either there needs to be food for him to cook or he needs to be able to buy his own food. Do you expect him not to eat?

I have adult children living at home and they add the food that they want eg snacks to my shopping list so they don’t have to go to the shops themselves. (This is in response to having to go to the shops)

If you haven’t got space then you or your h need to go to the supermarket more frequently 🤷‍♀️ or your son needs to eat at the same time as you and your h rather than when he gets straight in from work (I assume it’s earlier )

So if you don’t want to cook for him (fair), don’t want to make sure there’s food in for him to cook (fair), and won’t let him buy his own food… what is he meant to do, exactly?

So he can't buy his own food as you have no space for him to do so, you don't want to buy food for him and you won't cook for him. What a way to treat your own son.

I don't understand, do you not have a fridge? Is your fridge filled up with all your massive salads? Why don't you have a small salad at lunch and then make a meal for everyone in the evening? Or let him make a meal for everyone in the evening?

You're not really giving him an option, what do you suggest he does?

If he’s paying £400 per month, you really need to be supplying food for him to eat/cook, even if you can’t be bothered to cook it.

Can’t you buy a bigger fridge/freezer?🤷‍♀️

But she’s said he’s not allowed to store food in the house as the fridge and freezer are for her and her partner. Who don’t eat dinner apparently. I wouldn’t expect a working adult to go shopping for his tea every single day of the week, as he’s banned from using the fridge/freezer at the house he’s contributing towards

Just let him shop and cook for himself OP.

This…your poor son !

So he can't buy his own food as you have no space for him to do so, you don't want to buy food for him and you won't cook for him. What a way to treat your own son.

And he has to pay £400 per month

Reread the thread. It’s not that he’s said he won’t cook for himself. The op will not allow him to use the fridge or freezer in his own house. Where do you expect him to eat op? Or is he expected to survive off pot noodles?