FGS.
I was responding to what you said
No idea what she’s going to do when the baby gets here - well put it this way, if she’s not feeding the baby properly and there’s no room in the fridge due to excessive amounts of beer taking up all the room then social services will most likely end up getting involved somehow. Then she will HAVE to do something.
I meant they are unlikely to come to the attention of attention services due to not feeding the baby properly so they're not likely to be trying to find out why.......therefore they won't know that the fridge is full of beer. I mentioned baby jars because if she's not cooking then presumably it will be baby jars, or else maybe 'picky foods' like the OP eats. You're the one saying that they're most likely going to come to the attention of social services. I said that they're not.
Also if you dont recognise that taking money off someone every month, claiming that payment includes food, then doesn’t make sure the food is provided (financial abuse).
Once again ignoring the fact that she actually goes out and buys the food and cooks it!
And tells him when he comes home from work that there are no ingredients in the fridge for him to cook his own food, then tells him there’s no room in the fridge for him to store any food if he wants to buy his own, then unfortunately that is quite emotionally abusive.
Oh right so in your mind every single day she's telling him no there's no ingredients, no there's no room for your food. No you can't buy your own. blah blah blah, yet she's always rushing out to buy ingredients and cook for him...which you keep ignoring.
Not only that comes on here to make a thread to tell everyone she can’t be arsed to cook for him either and that she ends up having to go to the shop herself (which sounds like she is also moaning about that too) then it seems you may not recognise those (albeit very subtle) red flags but they are there and either you have never gone through emotional abuse and financial abuse yourself or are unable to see it!!
She's moaning on a thread. Not at him.
No I can recognize abuse, I just don't believe that this is abuse. You're not the authority on this so you should try getting over yourself 😃
As I said in the post you quoted I think the way the OP wrote the thread got peoples backs up, but if she had posted that her son filled the fridge with beer but then complained that there was no room for food meaning she had to go out every evening to buy fresh ingredients then I think almost everyone would have told her that the son was taking the absolute piss.
But in your mind she's beating him down every day saying no you can't buy food, no you can't store food in the fridge, no you're not allowed to eat
And again conveniently ignoring that she does in fact go out and buy ingredients and then cook the food.