Can't be bothered to cook for son

[palmtreesands]

We only have limited fridge and freezer space so him buying his own shopping is not an option.
Dh eats at work and I like to take a massive salad to work among other things and pick so don't eat again in the evening.
Ds comes home from work expecting a home cooked dinner and I find it such a headache, if I haven't cooked or we've eaten I out as we sometimes do he expects their to be ingredients to make himself something to eat.... their often isn't and I am racing up the shop to buy him something to make but as I said food has to be included in his monthly contribution otherwise he'll come back with shopping that we don't have room for.
Aibu to let this stress me out so much, I'm hot and bothered and don't want the headache of feeding him but he pays £400 a month to live here so expects there to be food to eat and I can't be bothered with the hassle of always making sure there's something in when we don't have family meals.

What did you do in the winter? Or did you eat in the evening then - how did you fit food in the fridge?

When are you due OP, you're heavily pregnant and still working?

Coincidentally, @palmtreesands , there is a thread running currently which might solve your problem?
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5152559-hello-fresh-why

That seems incredibly sad to me. I can't imagine living as a family but always eating and preparing food separately.

Poor lad. What do you expect him to do? Buy his own food every day, but he can't store any ingredients or leftovers, as there's no space in the fridge for his food?

No, you can’t consider him your son if you aren’t prepared to cook for him. Lol this isn’t even something a parent would have any problem with. Why is his dad not being asked to cook too?

Exactly. I find it hard to believe one fridge can’t have enough space for 3 peoples food.

A couple of posters have suggested that you are pregnant. So what are you going to do when the baby gets to the solid food stage? You're going to have to find room for food, and cook it at least some of the time.

So do that now.

Just tell them they can't use more than 1/2 to 1 shelf with beer & snacks and have real food in the rest of it. You don't want to be living in a pub. Give your son a shelf too so that he can cook food for himself. Problem solved. If they disagree, then they need to go to alcoholics detox program.

I've managed to successfully divide an under counter fridge between DH and 2 tenants without having stupid arguments over it.

OP makes stepmums look so, so bad. I can’t imagine ever saying no to cooking for dsd.

Baby’s hers. The ‘son’ is DPs. I imagine she’ll be more than happy to cook for the fruit of her loins lol

Let him buy some food and use the fridge freezer and he makes his own food.
But you won't been let him use the fridge freezer.
You do not have to cook for him though.

Well, I can, but I can't imagine saying 'No, I'm not going to cook for you and by the way, you can't store anything in the fridge. Go and have a packet of crisps or a chocolate bar for dinner or something!' 😂

You need to read the post. She won't let him store any food in the fridge or freezer as she says there is no room so he can't shop abs and cook for hinself

He would but apparently no ingredients

It all sounds a little strange to me.
Why is the family prioritising keeping beer in the fridge and not meat/food?
The weather is cooling now, so keep the beers outside and get some proper food in the fridge.
Get things like fajita kits- there’s instructions on the packet and you just need to add peppers, onions and chicken. The veg can be kept in a fruit bowl so the only thing that needs to go in the fridge is the chicken.
If you don’t want to cook, and he’s happy to do it, all you need to do is give him some fridge space.

£400 rent doesn’t include food in any universe. He is an adult who is working. He needs to start fending for himself.

I hope you don’t do his laundry too as pet of the £400 a month rent? Id either stop doing his laundry too, or charge a separate fee that you keep (not thrown into the main pot!).

but definitely stop food shopping for him and cooking for him.

Absolutely and what's the deal with mentioning how hot it is? If OP is in the UK, it's been the world's shittest summer - a couple of weeks (odd days) of sun does not make a hot summer!

Use Hello Fresh 😂theres a new thread about it

I very seldom cook for DS, but I make sure there are things for him to cook, if there isn't enough room in the fridge because of beer, take some of the beer out and put food in there.

There's not ANY space apparently

I suppose I have a lot to learn but I don't feel like cooking in this heat and didn't think many people ate hot meals through the summer I know I didn't growing up and dh doesn't fancy it just ds does.

Where do you live that you are finding it too hot to cook, it's only been around 20C most of August! Even in hot countries it's completely normal to eat a hot meal, really hoping this thread is a wind up. You all sound a bit pathetic tbh! I dread to think what your health is like!

This thread is bonkers

And so is the way they carry on!