Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

[LivingInStrangeTimes]

I was scrolling through tiktok and came across a video of a woman showing a jumpsuit outfit which she is reccomending people buy.

The strange part to me is that the video begins with her standing there in tiny knickers and a bra then she gets dressed into the jumpsuit.

I perhaps shouldn't have said anything at all but left the following comment

"You look lovely. I'm not being unkind but why has it become so normalised to upload videos of ourselves in our underwear? You don't have to expose yourself like that to show the garment x"

Cue a pile on and her getting pissed off because apparently I'm only saying it because of her body type - which had absolutely nothing to do with it for me. We actually look quite similar in the buff!

I'm seeing more and more of these videos and it has become the new normal and done thing on social media for people who want to show clothes, to stand their in their pants beforehand and have you watch them get dressed.

Was I being unreasonable to say what I said and am I unreasonable for thinking its fucking weird and unnecessary?

"I want to show you this dress, but first here's my knickers!"

Edited to add - I mention women specifically because I'm not seeing any of these videos from men.. and nor do I want to 😐

It's not something I'd do, or particularly want to watch, but it's beyond me why you'd comment like that. What was it supposed to achieve?

you sound like a very unkind and deeply unpleasant person

Lol, she didn’t send a death threat!

If it's anything like the ones I've seen, it's probably less than a second of a woman in her sensible underwear, then a series of quick edits as she puts on every item, then the final full outfit is the long shot.

It's not sexual at all.

True! Hardly did anyone any harm did it, this is no different I guess!

If you were brought up seeing your parents nude ( I mean you almost see folk naked swimming, I do aqua fit), it’s not such a big deal.
To a certain extent it’s healthy, to see others as they are
Tho if out and about dress appropriately, , my view

You frequent mumsnet yet think what I said was unkind, give over 😂

There are many women who model very revealing clothing these days. Not sure is it anything anymore apart from the ones who are into old fashioned morality and yes, I agree, your voices are being mocked and drowned. It should not be the case, just as it with pro life

Sounds weird to me, but I don't particularly care to see random people's clothing choices at all, really, so none of it is for me. That said, I'd know enough to assume nothing good would come of commenting about it on someone's specific video of themself in their underwear. That's never going to end well.

I’m assuming the OP isn’t a young person?

However, if she is being negatively impacted by the content she is seeing on social media then perhaps she can join the wider conversations and campaign for a safer online world for everyone.

But if it’s not that deep for her, then surely she’s mature enough to just ignore content she doesn’t like.

😆

Your Sainsbury’s analogy isn’t relevant. If you walked around the supermarket in your bikini you would probably be asked to leave. But it’s fine on the beach. Context is everything.

But that is her point - she is innocently trying to look at a jumpsuit but has to see a woman in her bra and knickers first. She did not sign up for that.

Bit jealous eh @LivingInStrangeTimes ???

And if someone is against wearing revealing clothes then they don’t have to wear them. They can turn their face away, shut their eyes, or click away from the video if they see something they don’t like.

Not quite sure what pro life has to do with this, but the same applies - if a woman doesn’t want to have an abortion she doesn’t have to have one.

I tend to think we shouldn’t police other women’s choices about their own bodies, regardless of whether we personally agree with their choice.

@HolyPeaches a wider conversation obviously means outside of this thread 😆
I work with young people & there are definitely a lot issues with SM, I don’t think the solution is just to tell them to campaign for better online safety. You can disagree though.

I'm 30.

Oh dear.

I agree, I find it totally cringe. I also think these women pretend they are doing it for empowerment but really it’s attention.
They want the likes and for people tosay how good they look in the underwear. It’s such a strange grab for attention.

I’m sure we can all image what can happen to screen grabs of women in their bra and pants, I mean if you’re a billboard model and you’re getting paid a decent whack and modelling is your career then great, but if you’re flogging some cheap-o clothes on tik tok for a few pennies I’m not sure I’d take the risk.

Oh well, at least you put a ridiculous kiss after your judgemental comment.

That must've softened the blow 🙄

Weird comment. If someone puts this on TikTok, they've made it everyone's business.

I'm taking this original discussion into a wider context - appreciate that.

I spend alot of time on YouTube watching podcasts I love - every celeb and their mate on Only Fans has come up in the various podcasts I've seen. This I imagine is feeding my personal algorithms.

The issue for OP and myself I'd say - beyond just the look at me in my pants - it's the onslaught of annoying attention seeking behaviour online in multiple guises. I include young annoying Tiktok men in this. I wonder if OP feels the same about that if she's seeing that?

I'm on FB and love watching crappy reels. Mundane and ridiculous mostly which I like, but no shortage of this look at me videos, and yes, I think alot of them are sexualised, ridiculously attention seeking and irritating beyond words. OP is probably thinking 'just stop will you'. She's taken that further and commented. Fair enough, why not.

I'm quite taken by the fabulous magazine pictures I think you posted above. I'll be sure my son never ever sees such abominable filth!

If it's "Getting dressed with me" logically they should start off naked.

Edit: no, I'm definitely NOT saying anyone actually should do this.

Eh? What has this got to do with being pro-life anti-abortion?

Exactly.
These people need views / clicks / comments like the rest of us need oxygen.
If your comment got the comments section going… you’re pouring fuel on the fire.
So expect more videos like it, on these sites controversy + comments = revenue.

Me too. 93’ baby.

We’re young. But we aren’t the “young people” that people are worried about being exposed to content on social media, I was thinking more teenagers, and children.