Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

[LivingInStrangeTimes]

I was scrolling through tiktok and came across a video of a woman showing a jumpsuit outfit which she is reccomending people buy.

The strange part to me is that the video begins with her standing there in tiny knickers and a bra then she gets dressed into the jumpsuit.

I perhaps shouldn't have said anything at all but left the following comment

"You look lovely. I'm not being unkind but why has it become so normalised to upload videos of ourselves in our underwear? You don't have to expose yourself like that to show the garment x"

Cue a pile on and her getting pissed off because apparently I'm only saying it because of her body type - which had absolutely nothing to do with it for me. We actually look quite similar in the buff!

I'm seeing more and more of these videos and it has become the new normal and done thing on social media for people who want to show clothes, to stand their in their pants beforehand and have you watch them get dressed.

Was I being unreasonable to say what I said and am I unreasonable for thinking its fucking weird and unnecessary?

"I want to show you this dress, but first here's my knickers!"

Edited to add - I mention women specifically because I'm not seeing any of these videos from men.. and nor do I want to 😐

@Lwrenn love that 🤣

@PresidentBarklett

They can still be in shape wear

It's edited isnt it. They do a little jump and then cut to a shot of them fully dresses

@Pantaloons99 - My mind is going to a place regards other videos I've seen so much of.

Well, okay, but what are you watching?? I never see TikToks of women "being sexy" so we must have very different viewing preferences 👀

As for flashing the gash - good god! Your mind is DEFINITELY going places that have nothing to do with trying on Primark's autumn wear.

Why shouldn’t 13 yo boys have an understanding that female bodies look different at different ages?

as for changing rooms meh I walk round in my undies at the gym.

if she’s not bothered you shouldn’t be either. If maybe suggest staying off tik Tol though if u thi k that’s offensive….

I had the most amazing experience of my life when I went to Rio. It was completely normalised to go to the shop in your bikini and a pair of flip flops. Every type of body - it made no difference to anyone. No one looked or cared.

It was so relaxing and freeing. And it did no harm to anyone. So morally, I don't think there's anything wrong with being in Sainsbury's in your underwear. It's just a human body! It's not essential to get your knickers in a twist over seeing one.

Also, those adverts are that way so you can see whether the outfit would flatter you.

I hope you get over the shock you've experienced in time...

Men probably w2nk at the underwear vids so they get more followers.

It’s her TikTok, she can do what she wants. I agree with the other poster, it was incredibly patronising to say anything about it.

This. It’s supposed to be useful - I have a noticeable tummy (even though I’m slim) and enormous tits when in my underwear but both are hugely minimised with the right clothing. It’s not sexualised at all - it’s about helping women understand how to dress for their body type. And I’m hugely anti porn and anti sexualisation of women in most situations. I don’t think this is one of them (disclaimer that I didn’t see the content so maybe it was sexualised. But I’ve see a lot of “get dressed” content and it’s really not very sexual at all).

Your Sainsbury’s analogy isn’t relevant. If you walked around the supermarket in your bikini you would probably be asked to leave. But it’s fine on the beach. Context is everything.

Pretty unconvincing reason if you've heard of video editing!

Some, totally do! But I'm on about the ones you see where women laboriously climb into jump suits all in one shot. Must say I prefer those as it makes me feel I'm seeing something closer to what I might get if I bought it. Not that I've ever bought anything on the strength of a tiktok review, mind.

I think 13 year old boys have seen a lot more on the internet than women in bra and parnts 🤣

I'm glad someone enjoyed it! I was mortified for ages! It was when Facebook started to take off for people interacting outside of status updates about cups of tea and bad weather.
My notifications blew up, just women calling me a snotty bitch 😂😂
I still can't cope with Facebook, at least people telling me off here couldn't pick me out of a line up 😂

Sex sells, more skin more views. Same old same old.

It's attention seeking behaviour due to low self esteem - demonstrated by how badly she reacted to your comment.
Why on earth do people spend time watching other people get dressed? The internet just get weirder and weirder with the banal shit people will watch.

If you post vidoes on tik tok you need to accept good and bad feedback. That's a given. I don't think op was trying to be patronising because in the context of the issue op genuinely doesn't understand the point of the creator being in her underwear first. Neither do I...we don't try clothes on in shops in full view of the rest of the customers in our underwear, so why are ppl (usually women) being utterly ridiculous? And as op pointed men don't really make stupid vidoes like this.. they wouldn't lower themselves.

I don't squirm at women in bikinis no, but I would probably think "what the fuck" if I walked past one on the school run in the middle of the day, no beach, pool or sun in sight.

Lingerie/swimwear ads are completely different to what I have described and you know that.

If you were looking at a top on vinted and you were scrolling through the images looking for the label and suddenly right before your eyes appeared an arse in all its glory.. you'd think it quite strange.

As would vinted I'm sure.

It's better for engagement. She's making money.

Finally I’ve found someone who is thinking the same thing as me!! Yes you could scroll on but with the different algorithms it may just pop up on your screen! They should just say hi I want more followers so I’m going to take my clothes off , girls have no respect for themselves anymore I’m 25 and I’m seeing the horrible effects it’s having (It’s different if you are a model as you are only going to be for a certain product ) I wouldn’t click online to look at a dress and see a few pics of the model naked and then with the dress on would I?

This made me laugh 😂

You sound ace 😊

How else will they get clicks?!

Yes, what you said was unkind and unnecessary. But you don't seem to think so, so not quite sure why you've bothered to ask us 🤷🏻‍♀️

If a video like that makes you uncomfortable then just scroll past and don’t give it another thought.

Is there not a wider conversation about this stuff on social media & the impact on young people? Or is better to just ignore it?

I will, of your pearls.