to honestley wonder, why have children if you WANT to work fulltime and are not prepared to make ANY sacrifices?

[milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk]

i don't mean parents that HAVE to work to provide.

i mean the ones that choose to for no other reason, other than they enjoy their job so much.
if you enjoy your job so much, thats great.
but what i really do not understand is why have children?
no one makes any of these parents have children, you can go though life without having children.

this is 100% genuine question, i just do not get it.

why can't they be good parents if they work and don't make sacrifices? i don't understand.

aha a popcorn thread

It is possible to enjoy your job, enjoy your children, and at the same time be a great parent.

and who exactly do you know who doesn't have to work, btw? this is a very niche thread.

oh dear

oh dear oh dear oh dear

hey goddess, hope you're prepared to defend your position

Because they enjoy their work? Is that not a good enough reason? Must we all be subjected to a life of selflessness and misery because we choose to procreate? And I assume you aren't only talking about women?

and no i do not expect it to be the woman that has to make all the scarifices either.

just reading about babies that are a few months old and both parents work full time as thats what THEY want.

truely makes my heart sink

and genuinely wonder why they wanted a baby in th first place.

Is this a question aimed at only women?!

Not at men?

what is wrong with doing something you enjoy when you are a parent?

i don't buy into this parenthood as matyrdom business

Can I just check - are you saying you're ok with parents who work because they "HAVE to work to provide"? But you don't understand why anyone would work if they didn't HAVE to?

And does your 100% genuine question apply to men as well as women?

Oh darling.
As my very sensible mother in law said, "I didn't have children to have babies, I had children to have people."

If you can understand that, that's your answer.

Because children are a part of your life
not your whole life
IMO

HC: it's just a jump to the

left

and then a step to the

ri-i-i-i-i-ight

with your hands on your hips

you bend your knees in time

But it's the pelvic thru-u-u-u-u-st that really drives you insa-a-a-a-a--ane

oh yes Xenia

I had forgotten

Because they enjoy their work.
fine, great,
but no one holds a gun to their heads and makes them have babies do they?

I like the way you put it, CD.

I will ask dh when he gets back from his full time job

bink - i like that!

And can you clarify what 'providing' means too please?

Do you mean bringing in enough money to pay for bills and food? What about a decent house? Are school fees included? Holidays?

Oh stop talking guff@the OP. I know MN has been a bit dull this afternoon, but there's no need for this nonsense...

well, I don't remember anyone holding a gun to my head, no. And your point is?

I still don't really understnad your 100% genuine question.