fantastic
let's follow your logic
it is ok for a woman to have children if a) she doesn't have to work or b) if she is working only because her chidren will starve otherwise
but utterly selfish for a woman who wants to alleviate some of the financial pressure off her husband, provide a better future for her children, to have intellectual stimulation to have children?!? Do you think staying at home is the only way to be a good parent?
I grew up in a third world country, with not much money, with only the generosity of better off relatives that have put me through school. I worked hard, got a company to sponsor my masters degree here in London and paid off all my loans. Now, with a Master's degree in Finance and a lot of hard work, I find myself in a well paid job in the City. I marry a man who also works in the City, so no, we wouldn't starve if i quit work. BUT GOODNESS ME, we decide to have kids, we have 1, i return to work (shock horror), we have another 1 (double shock). You are essentially telling me that because i choose to work, i shouldn't also want to have children?
Now my DH was recently diagnosed with MS with the possibility in the future that he won't be able to work. But there is no need to completely fret, because if we find ourselves in that situation, I can FULLY SUPPORT our family -- and so whilst he worries about six million things about his health, at least he doesn't have to worry about that. SO in your clearly very judgemental eyes, is it ok for me to work now? Or for me to have children? Or is it the enjoyment bit? Should i only work either if we're on the breadline or if i hate it?
It may come as a shock to you, that some of who work full time, who love our jobs, may also love and enjoy our children. But if it makes you feel better to pretend we don't exist, be my guest.