Mums of sons. (Hard hat on for this)

[Daniagainagainagainagain]

Apologies for the grabby title. I've NC'd for this as I have a few running threads currently with very outing and personal details on.

Anyway back to the point.
I see SO many threads on here where the topic about the thread is about a guy. It's not even necessarily bad about the bloke in question, but so many many posters just seem to hate men. Not give them the benefit of the doubt. Tear them a new arsehole for merely posting on MN asking for advice. There was a thread recently about a woman seeing a really nice guy, a gentlemen as she described him where he had been separated for literally YEARS but wasn't divorced. Turns out there were cultural differences meaning divorce in that country is very rare. People kept saying 'throw him back in the sea' 'he's a liar' one poster called him a wanker.. there was no evidence that he was a wanker and the OP seemed happy with the guy. Just more people clutching for their moment to berate men. It's always the guys fault on here no matter what.

It's always the same posters more often than not berating men, shooting them down, and just hating them. I wonder, do these women posters have sons? If so, do you think your sons are exempt from such awful insults because 'my boy would never'? I can't imagine these posters talking about their sons like that. So do you pick and choose, is it one rule for your sons and one for all other men?

Before it labelled being 'cool' I have just got out of a 10 year abusive relationship where ex cheated multiple times to the point of police involvement. I am not naive to think some of these guys deserve what they get.

AIBU? To think there's huge double standards? To call strangers with no reason to, wankers, but to also think the son shines out of your son's arses?

I know I'll probably ruffle some feathers but I'd genuinely like to know. And yes I have DC.

@Fluufer

I absolutely will prove my point, when I was accused of being a liar, and piled on by many people. Why wouldn't I?
There were posters saying 'we'll wait for mumsnet to confirm' (probably being sarcastic not believing me) but still. I'm going to clear my name when so many of you piled on me and threw accusations.

It's a week later. Move on. Stuff like this is why most posters don't constantly name change. It saves the There's no name to clear, its an anonymous forum and as we all know, you constantly name change. Don't give it further headspace.

Dude. It’s an anonymous forum. There’s no name to clear.

Firstly, I'm not a dude. Secondly, I was accused of lying about cancer. Something i am living with everyday and will ultimately end my life at some point. That was because of the accidental name change.

Being told I'm lying about that is not something I can move on from easily. I guess you wouldn't know, if you're not going through it.

Everyone is a Dude. It’s the nature of Dudeness. Haven’t you seen Finding Nemo?

Not sure it was really worth @MNHQ dragging this up so long after posts had stopped.

Feels like an attempt at igniting the drama again. Not particularly helpful to Op, who can name change. Names don’t need clearing.

People lie on the internet all the time. People are justifiably dubious. Don't take it so personally. Name change again, and move on.

Completely agree and as a mum of 3 sons well done for calling this out 👏

@Fluufer I will move on, now I've managed to prove I'm not lying. But it's a pretty shit thing to be accused of, lying about my cancer, when it's the reality of my life.

If people want to call me a liar about the name change that's one thing, but to tell me I'm lying about my diagnosis is a step too far and not so easy to move past. That was never needed. See also me being told I'm lying about my sick child, and my abusive relationship.

I won't be making any further comments on this thread. I've cleared my name, even if that was the wrong thing to do.

I know many decent men including my husband and most of my friends partners and my own brothers. I know 2 real dickheads and have met in passing some real dickheads. Also met nice men in passing (well what seem to be nice men)