Dh went to the toilet whilst Dd was in the paddling pool

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I didn’t feel well the other day so went upstairs for a lie down when Dh got back from
work. Dd was asking to go in the pool-large blow up one, deep enough for me to sit in and move around, deep enough for Dd to swim. I said I wasn’t feeling well and was going to go for a lie down when daddy was back and she could go in then with him (he sometimes goes in or with him sat outside watching obviously)
I went upstairs, heard her in the pool chatting away to Dh. After a bit I realised I couldn’t hear her (she’s very chatty) but didn’t think much of it, a while later I heard her calling to Dh and him calling back from the downstairs loo.
Dh had gone to the toilet and left her, when he went to the toilet it wasn’t for a quick wee, but number two and for those he can be in there for up to an hour, no joke.
Aibu to think this is completely irresponsible to leave her in the pool unattended?

The poor child would have to sing the entire first half of Hamilton before her dad had stopped pooing.

Your daughter could have easily walked through the pool to call something to your idiot d h, slip, go under and bang her head on the floor of the pool and not get up thus drown, I don't know how many minutes it takes to drown.

Why do some parents choose to be careless with their children ?

because he did make a choice.

Time to make a doctor appointment for your useless husband who takes an hour to poo anyway

If it was a quick 2 min trip to the bathroom with a six year old I think it’s fine. Any longer then no way especially if the water was that deep.

I just think most six year olds won’t drown when unattended in a padding pool for 2 minutes but I’d feel uneasy leaving at all let alone any longer than a quick run in and out of the bathroom.

Of course they 'shouldnt' , but they do.

If it was a regular paddling pool I would say YABU with a six year old. Having seen the picture I think YANBU . She would probably be fine but I just wouldn’t leave a 6 year old in a pool that deep. Even if she could swim. I don’t blame you for being concerned .

That's not a paddling pool

My ex used to do this kind of thing. Very neglectful
Hope you went off the rails at him.
He hax no idea
Consider carefully here your next move with him. Does he has form for leaving your children when supposedly caring for them ?

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If my DH needed an hour for a poo, I'd pack him off to the GP. Certainly would be looking at his diet and be worried about his bowels.

Not joking, he's either taking the piss or ill.

Have a read of this.
https://thepehub.co.uk/drowning-prevention-week-17th-24th-june-2023/

TBF I thought the same. But in my head a paddling pool is only about half a metre deep!

Please send me some links to stories where healthy neuro typical 6 year old children have drowned in a couple of inches of water!

As she is 6 and not out of her depth i think he was fine to leave her to go to toilet.

@ZippyDenimBear
Have you looked at the picture the op has posted. It's not a paddling pool. The child is up to her shoulders in water.

Yabu to call it a paddling pool!

I'm a lifeguard. All the rescues I have done have been in water that the swimmer can stand up in. For some reason, weak swimmers sometimes don't know how to put their feet down and stand up.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.derbytelegraph.co.uk/news/local-news/final-minutes-toddler-who-drowned-7132652.amp

No, but I have now. She stated paddling pool in her op.

No I wouldn’t leave a 6 yo unattended in a pool like the one op posted. I’d have told them to get out for 5 mins for an ice pop whilst I go to the loo, and when I return they can get right back in. It’s just not worth the risk.

6! No, someone needs to be around. Children can drown easily and silently.

Same as an adult who slips, bangs their head, ends up unconscious and drowns.

You do know you can drown in a puddle if you’re facing down and breath in water don’t you? It’s not unheard of.