Dh went to the toilet whilst Dd was in the paddling pool

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I didn’t feel well the other day so went upstairs for a lie down when Dh got back from
work. Dd was asking to go in the pool-large blow up one, deep enough for me to sit in and move around, deep enough for Dd to swim. I said I wasn’t feeling well and was going to go for a lie down when daddy was back and she could go in then with him (he sometimes goes in or with him sat outside watching obviously)
I went upstairs, heard her in the pool chatting away to Dh. After a bit I realised I couldn’t hear her (she’s very chatty) but didn’t think much of it, a while later I heard her calling to Dh and him calling back from the downstairs loo.
Dh had gone to the toilet and left her, when he went to the toilet it wasn’t for a quick wee, but number two and for those he can be in there for up to an hour, no joke.
Aibu to think this is completely irresponsible to leave her in the pool unattended?

Depends how old she is and if she can swim.

YANBU OP, I’m not sure how old your DD is but I would not leave any of my DC unattended in water, not even in the bath.

If she’s a toddler or small preschooler then yes. Send him an article about how kids can drown in inches of water.

How old is your DD?

Kind of missing the key detail here- her age?!

Sorry-just turned 6. She can sort of swim but not properly yet

Depends on her age and also whether he can see/hear her from the downstairs loo.

Why do so many people miss the age off their OPs? Happens so often. Like they assume everyone knows their age because they do…? Mystery.

Umm still to young in my opinion. He should have got her out to sit and wait.

How deep? Presumably she can easily stand up.

I'm trying to imagine the depth of the water...I think that's the main thing

They probably just forget because, you know, they're human?

At 6 I would say fine to leave alone for a poo if a shallow paddling pool of a fre inches tbh

Not until they're about 8 I'd say and even then it depends on the child

On this occasion it could have been a quick emergency poo. I think a six year old would be fine.

Unless special needs what 6 year old would just lay there with their head underwater and drown and not, you know, stand up?

6? I thought you were going to say 2!!

6year old - paddling pool - fine - proper swimming pool not fine
Depends how deep water is and if she can swim.
I thought you were going to be talking about a toddler.

Yes of course you can leave a 6yr old paddling for the time it takes to have a wee.

Like pp I thought you were going to say she was 2.

I think 6 is fine.

I’d be pissed and I’m as easy going as be damned. She is too young to be left in a deep paddling pool alone.

Jesus f Christ that's neglect. Even an 8yr old could bloody drown in a paddling pool (& many have) as unlikely as it may sound to some. Especially in a deep one like you describe yours as being. Many kids randomly have a fit for the very first time under the age of 10. It doesn't bear thinking about..

Are you serious? Is that really how you think child drownings happen?!

Unless she has special needs / physical disability,6 is old enough to be left unattended.