If you have never had a daughter?

[Justbecauseidid]

I was having a conversation with a neighbour earlier who has 5 sons and no daughter. She often expresses how she would have loved a girl. She then went on to say those who only get to experience the one sex will never get the chance to experience full motherhood. As in they would never know what is it to mother a daughter or vice versa.

It got me thinking...

Those of you with boys, would you like a daughter and those with girls would you like son?

I suppose she has a point about having a full rounded experience of motherhood.
It got me thinking.

3 girls and nope I don't "want" a son

I'm done having babies but if I ever had another child of course I would love a son the same but I don't want one.

I was born to be a girl mum!! I'm very girly and so are my girls.

(If my statement is not politically correct I apologise, just not sure how else to express my feelings).

I have a son and I’m currently pregnant with my second (and last) baby. I could not give one solitary fig what the sex of the baby is. There is nothing about having both boys and girls that makes one more of a mother, just like women with two or more children are not more mothers than those with one child.

People are weird about this. I don’t get it at all. I feel sorry for people who experience gender disappointment but it’s not something I can relate to in the slightest.

I have boys and sometimes wonder what a girl would have been like. But i can't imagine the reality. I'm used to my boys!

I'm a mum of 2 girls, never particularly wanted a boy, would be happy with whatever we had.

A good friend was the opposite. Wanted a girl. Upset each and every time they had a boy (3) to the extent that they considered adopting to have a girl.

I think that's a narrative she's told herself and firmly believes.
But I think your child's personality is the deciding factor on your experience of motherhood so I think it's nonsense myself.
I have one of each, I really don't think my motherhood is affected by the sex of my children except in the guidance I give them on some topics, but my relationship and experience is nothing to do with it imo.

Nope. Boy mum here and have no interest in being a mum to girls.

I’ve got 2 grown up sons and I think your neighbour is talking out of her arse.

I wanted children, not a specific sex. We all have a very close relationship and I’m very close to my daughters-in-law. I’ve not missed out on anything at all, imo

We have a baby grandson now, too. Should he be our only grandchild does that mean we’ve never really experienced being grandparents either? What bollocks.

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I would have liked to have had a daughter, yes. But I cannot imagine life without my two boys and I wouldn't change them for the world. 🤷‍♀️

That's not my experience, but my cousin kept having children until she got her girl - baby number 5.

I do wonder what it would be like to know that you were not 'enough', and that you were only born because they were looking for something that you aren't.

I completely disagree. I have two sons and they are individuals and completely different in terms of their characters. I have had to adapt my parenting as they need different things from me and respond differently to the approaches I employ. I consider myself to have experienced motherhood and have never thought about that in terms of degrees -, full or partial. I have mothered two individuals. That's it.

What she said sounds like utter nonsense to me.

One girl and I definitely don't want a son. If we had another, which we won't, I'd be secretly hoping for another girl. I just feel more comfortable raising a fellow female I suppose!

"Experience full motherhood"?

What twaddle

I think her opinion is utterly ridiculous. I have one DC (therefore only one sex) I am not a lesser mother.

It's not about being "politically correct". As long as you acknowledge the sexism it's fine.

I have 2 boys and I'd love a girl, just because I miss having women in my family. I seem to be constantly surrounded by men! I don't see my Mum and sister as often as I'd like.

5 sons and it still wasn't good enough for her. I'm glad she didn't have a girl because people like that only want a specific type of girl, a pink wearing doll playing one. The pressure people like that put on their children is ridiculous, they dont deserve them. Same with people who desperately want a son so they can go to soccer matches or whatever. Then they have a son with a flair for art and hates soccer and they spend their lives feeling like a disappointment.

My DD has 4 boys. Never had a desire to have a girl.
Possibly because she was 8 years older than her sister and had to look after her while I worked as she got older. I think the experience put her off girls - her, her friends and all the mess and drama!

I have 3 boys and yes I would have liked a daughter but I don’t feel that I have missed out on experiencing full motherhood. My dc are all individuals.

WTF is "full motherhood"? If you have a child, you are experiencing motherhood. It looks different for everyone regardless of the child's sex.
Are women who only have one child not full mothers? Why is it only sex based and not any other criteria? I have 2 DDs, I would say they are more different to parent based on one being NT and one ND, than if they were boy/girl.

No because I adore the two children I had ,both boys ,I'm sure I would have felt the same way if I had two girls or one of each. I only wanted two children.

I have two boys and while I find myself curious to think what it would've been like to have a daughter, I don't feel any disappointment. I don't really think of myself as a "boy mum", just a mum. They drive me bonkers most days but I just feel lucky to have them.

WTF is “full motherhood”?!

I wanted girls and I got girls. I wouldn’t have not wanted a little boy, but I wanted girls because the odds were higher that we would have interests and hobbies in common. And we do.

No. Have all boys and have no issue with it. Just grateful I have a family that are healthy and happy. Love what has happened in my life and I am genuinely happy with the way things are.

I have two daughters, my youngest was born after battling years of secondary infertility. To suggest I haven't experienced full motherhood because I only have children of one sex feels incredibly insulting.