The difference is that those women didn't want the vote just because men had it, they wanted the vote because they wanted political power for women, political power from which men were excluding them.
And they didn't want to be allowed in men-only clubs and jobs because they wamted to be men or wanted men's company, they wanted to be there because the men who were there had power and were making networks and decisions that affected women's lives without women's involvement.
In both instances, it's not about women wanting access to men, it's about women wanting access to power.
But women-only spaces and rights are not seats of power. They exist only to be refuges from the power of men.
So unlike the historical women who challenged men-only spaces, jobs and rights, the men who want acccess to women-only spaces and rights are not doing so because women are somehow using these spaces to make political and social decisions that impact men, they are doing so because they want to be physically or virtually where women are and other men are not. For them, it is about having access to women, or to things that are supposed to be resricted to women, as an end in itself. And this applies to men who claim a female identify as any other man.