Does your dh let you choose decor?

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From bed covers to wall paint, furniture, curtains, cushions dh will choose the lot and with no pink or anything remotely feminine everything is blue or very male looking.
I grew up with my mum mainly choosing the home furnishings but then my dad had no interest in anything like that so was happy to leave her to it and wouldn't have noticed anything different anyway.
I do think it's nice he takes an interest but I'd like some input, every room in our house is blue and masculine looking and as a woman I'd like some of my own touches.
Is this a bit unusual?

Is he like this in other aspects of your relationship or is he just very picky about interiors?

We decide together.

I wouldn't like our marriage to have one partner who dismisses the other's opinion.

So does the house feel like your home at all?
My DH doesn't have strong opinions about our decor so I do it and love doing it. But if he did have strong feelings we'd talk about it and compromise.
It is your home as well as his, he shouldn't be feeling he can dictate every colour and detail.

I lead on decorating, but we discuss options and generally go with my suggestions. However, if something is a definite no, then it is dropped off the list. Has to be something we both love and can live with and he trusts my choices, just because I can visualise the finished effect and he struggles with this. Everyday items I just go for it, big decoration issues we discuss and agree.

No we moved into our house together and had a family.
He was like this with the pram too that he's never pushed but had to choose.

OP your husband sounds very controlling.

If this isn't a reverse I'll eat my kilim cushions.

It’s a problem if he picks everything but actually you would like some input and don’t necessarily like his choices. His opinion shouldn’t count for more than yours.

DH and I choose together. We’re actually chill about most other things, like I bought the family car with no input from him whatsoever, but interiors are a thing for both of us so it’s 2 yeses one no in our house! As it happens we both like pink so that’s good, we actually have a pink bathroom. Florals he can’t stand so we don’t have any. We’re both very happy with the house and feel it reflects both of us.

why is he so focused on things being 100% masculine? Is he afraid if he has a pink cushion he will be propositioned by a man?

He's never pushed the pram?? Of his own child??
So he controls the decor and completely ignores your opinion even though you live there too; and he's a useless parent.
Does he have any good points? 🤔

Op your tone is very odd. @MrTwatchester may be right about a reverse.

No it doesn't feel like home, partly because it doesn't look like a woman lives there.
I'd like some sort of feminine energy to it.

Let’s say you buy an ornament and put it on a shelf. What does he do, throw it in the bin?

If this is true OP, you are an unusually passive person. That wouldn’t suit me at all, I care about how my house looks but if you’re happy to go along with his control freakery then it’s no one else’s business but the two of yours is it? It is odd though.

What is odd is that you must surely know that this level of domineering control over the home environment is unusual. You haven’t really come here to ask if it’s normal, it’s a cry for help.

We tend to do it together. What that means is In reality is I whittle options down to 5 or or 6 I like and then he chooses the one he like out of those 9/10 times luckily he chooses the one I really like 😄

how do you feel now OP after reading all these replies?

he doesn't sound a nice partner at all, why does he think he's in charge of you and all of the decor

We choose together. He puts more thought into kitchen and bathroom things I suppose, I probably make more choices in the garden but we’d still chat it over. There is nothing in my life that he ‘let’s’ me do, not a single thing. We make compromises if there’s something he wants to have/do that’s not my thing and vice versa.

He sounds like a fucking arse hole

"let me"? Our relationship is equal, he doesn't let me do anything, there would be a huge explosion if he tried to control me that way. We discuss the décor and paint colours and agree together.

Controlling sexist arse hole

Succinct and to the point @llamajohn. Yup.

If one person does not want to have input, this is an ok approach. But it does not work for you - he needs to work on compromising with you to find something you both like.

We decide together.
We look at things until we find stuff we both like.

I wouldn’t be with someone who believed he had to give me permission to do what I like with my money in my home.