Family holiday drama

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So we are due to go on holiday next year with family. We invited my parents, they booked their own room - they then invited my nephew (who is 17). My brother didn't pay for my nephew or even offer to pay for their place.

I found out I was pregnant recently and can't book the baby's space until they are born. Also there will be no spaces as, the baby is due 4 months before the holiday. Anyone we trust with our child will be on that holiday. We need to take my nephew off the booking and change it to the baby when they are born.

AIBU to take my nephew off the booking (I have spoken to my parents about this and they understand) but I know my brother won't be happy and it will cause drama. Or should just not go and lose thousands 😣

Need an outside perspective pleaseeee

I don't understand why you think your nephew can be bumped off the holiday? Your parents paid for themselves and your nephew. It's not your holiday they're joining- they've paid to be an equal part of the holiday.

I think you're forgetting OP that you're not the main character in everyone's life and of course they can do the holiday they have paid for.

Need an extra room or one of DC in with the other grandparents.

Just add another room. You or your husband can sleep there with the baby.

Curious to know how your baby is due four months before the cruise but will be six months old at the time of the cruise.....

No the silly part was getting pregnant when you already have plans made that will now cost you lots of extra money.

To be helpful, which cruise line is it? That might off more tailored advice. Did you book direct or via an agent?

Mental gymnastic session this evening.

You're just using this to get the nephew off the holiday... it's clear as day

Christ. This is hard work.

Will the baby be cruising at 6 months or just crawling do you think?

It might be that she doesn't know the baby's sex. I chose not to know mine until he was born.

the baby is due 4 months before the holiday

Can you travel with a 4m old? I though they had to be 6m

Sorry the baby will be 6 months at the time of the holiday

😃

And yeah why can’t one of your kids sleep with your in-laws?

you have plenty of solutions that don’t involve kicking your nephew off. You chose to have 4 kids, so provide for them. Get an extra room. Or shove one in with the In-laws.

Depends if they can get an extra cabin whether they will be cruising or not 😂

Did you invite your parents so they would have two of your children in with them? And now they messed the plan by inviting your nephew? Can’t the in-laws have on of their grandchildren in with them?

So your parents have paid themselves for a room for 4, and are having one of
your kids and have offered to have your nephew? Seems like they are doing you a big favour having one of your small kids in with them, in the room that they have paid for. It’s a bit cheeky that you want then to kick out their other grandchild to make room for another one of your kids. If all your kids don’t fit into one room, that is your problem to solve, not your parents! If there is no such thing as a family room that sleeps 6, then you are going to have to book 2 rooms for your family. Or share your small children out among the other relatives present - and if they are currently
in 2 person rooms then I guess pay for the upgrade in room size that will
be required.

Don’t encourage her!!

This is easily solved. Either you book an extra room for you and baby or you add baby to PILS room (poor fuckers) on paper but in practice baby is in with you.

How old is the DD who is sharing a bed with a 17 year old boy?

Or maybe she could go and dh can stay at home with his baby.

Sounds like the op is too tight trying to avoid paying for an extra room and what's to bump DN for his holiday instead.

You are ignoring the very obvious suggestion of booking an extra room now for an adult, that baby can be added to once born.

You are the ones who have created the need for the extra space...not your parents or your nephew... Who have all been paid for at no extra cost to you. And also, seemingly doing a favour to you by having one of your children in their room or you would have had this whole room dilemma before you even fell pregnant as you always had too many children for your room.

But won't the baby be in a cot in your room? And also not eating real food yet so not really "count" as a guest?

May not be sharing a bed, the recent cruise we went on the 3rd & 4th beds were bunk beds and the majority of cabins were set up like this.

Can a child go in with the parents-in-law? If not, book another room for you and the baby.

Chucking your nephew off the boat is unpleasant, selfish and unkind.

A lot of cabins with 4 berths have pull down beds rather than double sofa beds for the 3rd and 4th person.

OP if the cruise is fully booked and you can’t book an extra cabin, I suggest you ask the cruise line if they will allow you to transfer your booking to another cruise rather than lose the money. I know cruises are bloody expensive but no way can you ask your nephew not to come.

Just saying: This is the only way. and We will lose thousands of pounds.
does not answer any of the questions people are asking you.

one of the children can share with in laws, much better than kicking dn off, who has been paid for