Family holiday drama

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So we are due to go on holiday next year with family. We invited my parents, they booked their own room - they then invited my nephew (who is 17). My brother didn't pay for my nephew or even offer to pay for their place.

I found out I was pregnant recently and can't book the baby's space until they are born. Also there will be no spaces as, the baby is due 4 months before the holiday. Anyone we trust with our child will be on that holiday. We need to take my nephew off the booking and change it to the baby when they are born.

AIBU to take my nephew off the booking (I have spoken to my parents about this and they understand) but I know my brother won't be happy and it will cause drama. Or should just not go and lose thousands 😣

Need an outside perspective pleaseeee

Can you or DH book another room, so remove one of you feom your room and then book another room under that name?

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If you told us how many rooms and how many and who are in each room ti would probably be clearer.

However your baby has gone from being 4 months to 6 months at travel.

You've added a dd to your parents room and now you are saying there's other children in your room.

We would very likely - definitely - be able to empathise and help with actual information to go on.

Ok so you need another room...you and baby in one room and your dh and other kids in another?

I still dont get why your nephew who was not in your room originally is the problem?! Why should he loose out because you now have an extra child.

Not sure why you think your nephew should give his place up just because you took the risk of getting pregnant seemingly knowing your nephew would have to move aside for your child!

You seem rather jealous that your parents paid for him too

So, you have 3 DC already and a 4th on the way? This is like cruise line Tetris! Or that weird game where you have to get a fox, a chicken and some grain across a river …

Room 1: DM, DF, DN
Room 2: You, DC1 and baby
Room 3: DH, DC2 and DC3
Room 4: MIL and FIL

?

I think… baby is DC number 4? OP, DH and two DC are sharing. GP, nephew and DC 3 are sharing?

You can book another cabin and move one of the adults into it (whether that be on paper or in reality is obviously up to you) but you don’t want to because it will cost £££s.

Can you add another room for you or your husband and then add the baby?

Yes you do you can say you in one room and your husband in another, there is no need at all for you to have your nephews room.

You won't lose thousands if you cancel. I cancelled my cruise for December and I only lost my deposit.

How about you bump your own teen instead of your nephew?!

So you've got 4 adults, 3 children and a 17yo nephew. And 2 x 4 berth rooms.

Surely you either fit a crib into your room or you book another cabin. Or you ask to move the booking to another date when they have sufficient capacity.

So you invited your parents cause you needed more adults to have your kids in another room, basically?

And now you want them to have the baby too?

It’s you who has changed the setup by having another baby. You need to book another room for an adult and one of your 4 under 6 kids

Of course you have enough adults to book another room:
Rm 1 - your parents, one of your children and your nephew
Rm 2 - your husband and your other 2 children
Rm3 - you and the baby.

It's not fair to make older children share a room with a baby who will wake for feeds all hours of the night and who'll probably need the room quiet during the day for naps.

All my children are under 6 that's why, I can't leave one at home can I - how silly

Sounds to me like you're pissed off that your parents have paid for your nephew to come on a holiday that you thought would just be for your direct family.

What cruise are you going on with 4 kids under 6? Asking so I don't end up on the same one.

Book another room. One adult per room is fine. You just don't want nephew there.

The whole vibe of your answers 😂

Gave up on this one. Need drawings of each room and ppl in it.

it would of helped adding the ages in your op

Split the adults and add a room. You and your husband don’t need to be in the same room on paper.

Oh I get it,

the op will have 4 kids, they have booked two rooms. You can get four in a room.
so her room is her husband and two kids,
parents room is her parents, another of her kids and nephew.

so four in each, as she will now have a fourth child, she wants to chuck the nephew out and put two of her kids in her parents room and two in her room,

she wants to do this rather than pay for an extra room.

op, you can easily sort this and you know it, you need to book a third room and say one of the adults are in there, be it one of your parents or you or your husband, you just don’t want to as it costs.

Surely you'd just book the other room, pop yourself or DH in that with one of the existing kids, and use the now two extra spaces in your room to allocate to the baby. Especially since that's basically what the cruise company have said - you need another room and an allocated adult.

That would be the obvious route, unless you just wanted to make a dramatic thread for the sake of it.

Are you having twins OP? Otherwise, why are you referring to the baby as 'they' ?

Got it. They’ve booked 3 rooms for 10 people, putting one of their kids in with grandparents and keeping two. They now need to put two of their kids in with grandparents so baby can be in with them, but the nephew is taking up one space.

Question is: why can’t one of the kids go in with the other grandparents?