I don't care what issues your kid has you still need to parent them

[Differentstarts]

I'm fuming just had a massive argument with my now ex friend because she won't parent her kid. I don't care if your kid is ND, NT or identifies as a tablecloth you still need to parent them. I was at my friends this afternoon with my kids 7 and 4 and her kids 9 and 5. Our eldest kids where sat together nicely watching a film and youngest 2 where playing. Her 5 year old suddenly decides she wants to watch telly and picks the remote control up and changes the channel. My friends response was to the eldest 2 just let her otherwise she will kick off you can watch the rest later. Her eldest just accepted this he's clearly use to it. However I'm not accepting that so I took the remote and put the film back on so with that screaming and tears
Her eldest was agreeing with his mum and saying it's OK I don't mind Which was also annoying me. Then my friend started having a go at me how iv upset her daughter and how the kids didn't even mind watching it later. I struggle with anger issues so at this point I'm losing my shit at her (I know I shouldn't have) and I got my kids and left. I'm still fuming. I know I should of just left straight away but come on what is wrong with people

Yabu. If the eldest 2 where happy to watch it later you should of gone along with it
Yanbu she needs to discipline her daughter

They they aren’t your friends and this is the right outcome. You clearly think she’s shit and she’s clearly not keen on you. Friendship done.

WOW!. you are really horrible. Why create a scene in her house. Why not just LEAVE!. You need to work on your "anger issues "

To an extent I agree with you but you were a guest in her house, you don't do that!

This thread will not go well @Differentstarts

I never said it was ok for me to lose my shit

Pot , kettle ,black.

You behaved like a right dick, but ohhh you have table issues , sorry anger issues. So that's ok.

You behaved worse than any person f the children. Should we blame your parenting too?

Didn't anyone teach you that when you go to someone's house you respect their rules? That what you think and want isn't the most important thing?

No idea if the youngest is a spoilt brat or not, but you definitely are.

Major apology from me to everyone on here for quoting the OP. Didn't mean to sorry!

Ooops!

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YABU.
You were in someone else's home. You don't undermine her in her own house.

You can disagree with her parenting and distance yourself from the friendship in general due to it... but in this particular instance you are in the wrong and handled it badly.

Because its not your house or child.

YABU.

If you can’t even control your temper as a grown adult with a child, you’re a hypocrite of the highest order to expect a 5 year old to control theirs with potential ND.

Also if you were kicking off with me in my own house over my parenting choices, I’d have quite physically kicked you straight out the door. What an arsehole.

You don't lose ya shit in other people's home I'm afraid. What you should of done is said alright kids let's go!

Her eldest wasn't getting treated like shit, they will grow up to be compassionate to those with disabilities unlike yourself. When you have disabled dc you pick you battles and watching the rest of a movie later really isn't a big deal.

It was her house and you were a guest. You had no right to kick off like that.

Your ex friend knew that her kid would kick off and clearly just wanted to keep it low conflict rather than a scene in front of everyone. You wanted her to do some sort of performance discipline, and created conflict yourself.
You are incredibly rude. How dare you!

Yes I should of but it still doesn't mean what she did was ok

You are right OP. If parents dont teach their children appropriate social behaviour and how to control their emotions and use manners, they grow up into adults just like you.

Maybe your mum parented you badly?

You lost any high ground by acting like the 5 year old yourself.

Not performance discipline actual discipline

Your children heard the whole thing, played out in a friend's home. You've some apologising to do I'd say.

It's abit of tele ultimately... personally if you have lost ya shit in somebody else's home and with their kids you've absolutely lost any highground you're lucky you wasn't assaulted tbh.

Arrogance of it.

You're right that she should have intervened. It's not ok for the younger child to dictate and strop. But it's much worse that you reacted how you did. What does that teach your children, given that it's proven children model their behaviour and relationships on what they see from their parents. Yours was the more damaging behaviour.

It teaches them not to be walk overs and to stand up for others why should the oldest kids have their film ruined

@Differentstarts is she's such a crappy parent how come she raised her eldest into such a decent child ?

He/she was even trying to manage you during your little display ffs.

I never said she's a crappy parent but she's always been hard on him and the poor kid never does anything wrong. But little princess can do no wrong or ever told no or be upset