I don't care what issues your kid has you still need to parent them

[Differentstarts]

I'm fuming just had a massive argument with my now ex friend because she won't parent her kid. I don't care if your kid is ND, NT or identifies as a tablecloth you still need to parent them. I was at my friends this afternoon with my kids 7 and 4 and her kids 9 and 5. Our eldest kids where sat together nicely watching a film and youngest 2 where playing. Her 5 year old suddenly decides she wants to watch telly and picks the remote control up and changes the channel. My friends response was to the eldest 2 just let her otherwise she will kick off you can watch the rest later. Her eldest just accepted this he's clearly use to it. However I'm not accepting that so I took the remote and put the film back on so with that screaming and tears
Her eldest was agreeing with his mum and saying it's OK I don't mind Which was also annoying me. Then my friend started having a go at me how iv upset her daughter and how the kids didn't even mind watching it later. I struggle with anger issues so at this point I'm losing my shit at her (I know I shouldn't have) and I got my kids and left. I'm still fuming. I know I should of just left straight away but come on what is wrong with people

Yabu. If the eldest 2 where happy to watch it later you should of gone along with it
Yanbu she needs to discipline her daughter

You are literally wrong - go back and read all the gentle parents who said they would have used violence on the OP if they had been the other mum.

So the threats were indirect and that’s ok with you?

Not one person kind enough to point out the cruelty in Bumblebeestiltsmum’s comment…

Why not remove your hand from your face and read the angry comments.

I think you are asking more than one question here.

Is it OK that a 5 year old changed the channel when someone else was watching something? (No)

Is it OK that your friend didn't intervene and say "you can have your choice later, there's X minutes of this left so they are going to finish watching this first"? (No)

Is it OK that you "lost your shit" in front of 4, 5, 7 and 9 year old children? (No)

You were all unreasonable and you need to calm down and should probably apologise to your friend. And to her children.

On the basis of this post, I agree with you, @Differentstarts, that your friend needs to parent her dd better, and stop favouring her over her son. From what I have read on here, in Golden Child/Black Sheep situations (which this sounds like), neither child benefits. The black sheep knows their parent doesn’t love them the way they love the sibling, and that is bound to cause childhood trauma (far, far more than mum’s friend getting angry), and the Golden child doesn’t learn the skills to survive and thrive in a world that doesn’t centre them all the time.

The op said its typical of her outbursts... I'd 100% escort somebody out who was threatening me no excuses needed this is my home nobody can come In here trying to intimate me in it under any circumstances

They are simply saying what they would do in that situation.
If someone was invited to my house, with my children present, and they started losing their temper with a 5 year old child, over something small yes, I'd want them out my house too!
IMO it was taken way out of proportion. Both sides may of acted wrong, but to resort to losing your temper is someone else's home over the way they choose to parent at that moment in time, isn't great is it?
Pick your battles moment.

And I couldn't be around someone so childish to blow something so trivial out of proportion.

Cool story bro 😎