To be annoyed with DP over cancelled holiday

[libertybonds]

This has been a horrible year.

We can't have a normal summer holiday for various reasons, but DP and I agreed to take a special long weekend abroad in September. I got it all booked up a few days ago after a lengthy discussion over several weeks.

Today he told me that he forgot he had an immovable work commitment on the Thursday so we have to cancel??? He wants to rebook in the UK due to the shorter travel times.

He says he is sorry and disappointed, but he has form for calendar incompetence.

I'm extremely angry.

YABU: Give him a break and suck it up, travel in the UK

YANBU: What a knob

I would go without him!!

book something somewhere nice and go on your own?

He is a knob. I’m sorry, that sucks. Take a friend instead?

Sounds like he's making an excuse not to go, to be honest. If it's not already cancelled I'd go alone or take a friend.

Change the name on the booking and go with a friend

Take someone else.

Go without him

Take someone else.

Can you go ahead and he can follow? Spend your first day doing something you'd like to do.

He definitely just fucked up and failed to check his schedule.

Go without him.

I'd go without him.

You are not being at all unreasonable to be angry and disappointed with him.

You would not be at all unreasonable to leave him behind and go on the holiday on your own or with a friend.

Clearly he is not to be relied on and it sounds like he might have form for this sort of thing (calendar incompetence).

I'd rethink the relationship if he really can't get his act together. These sorts of things matter.

I'd go without him too. Ffs, what a nightmare.

Tbh we have talked about having a child together. I'm really reconsidering given the seriousness of this mistake.

I won't break up with him as he is extremely sweet and kind and has many good qualities, but this is such a disappointment.

I am considering doing this. Thank you for the suggestion.

He's choosing work over you. Kick to kerb.

Just go anyway? Why make yourself miserable? He is telling you with his behaviour loud and clear that he couldn't give less of a shit about going away. He doesn't want to. So just go yourself, you want to! And while there reflect on how you're with a man who doesn't give a shit about making you happy. Wouldn't be having DC with that

Why would it have to be rearranged for the UK? If you don't end up going, why can't you book another weekend abroad if he has plenty of notice?

He doesn't care that you would miss out so you need to do the same. Go alone or take a friend. Show him only one person loses out when he fucks up - him!!

Probably the best option.

Do not reward incompetence by cancelling and arranging a UK break. Lots of work for you.

I don't want his career to be impacted.

He really does care about my happiness, he's just fucking incompetent with planning his time.

He's really hopeless with practical matters and I kind of have to organise everything/remind him of stuff.

I think he's always been like this.

Nobody is indispensable. What's the immovable work thing? Can't he just miss it?

@AnOldCynic it's an important team building exercise and if he wants to progress his career (and if I want him to) then he really needs to attend

This is true. I would definitely be planning it.