To be annoyed with DP over cancelled holiday

[libertybonds]

This has been a horrible year.

We can't have a normal summer holiday for various reasons, but DP and I agreed to take a special long weekend abroad in September. I got it all booked up a few days ago after a lengthy discussion over several weeks.

Today he told me that he forgot he had an immovable work commitment on the Thursday so we have to cancel??? He wants to rebook in the UK due to the shorter travel times.

He says he is sorry and disappointed, but he has form for calendar incompetence.

I'm extremely angry.

YABU: Give him a break and suck it up, travel in the UK

YANBU: What a knob

Not taking advantage of you and not being a bad person is pretty much the bare minimum. Please don't use that incredibly low bar to base your decision on having children with him on.

Exactly that.

I cry myself to sleep the three or four times a year I need to do it 😂

Well, it's based on the words that you say actually.

And you know the husband how?

I really doubt his promotion or reputation hinges on one team-building exercise.

But none of us have said what we’d say if he was female, you’re using your imagination to make that guess. It’s like if I said you’re sexist because you wouldn’t pander to him if he was female, even though I have no basis for that, I don’t know you, you don’t know the posters on this thread, but felt the need to insult us, it’s very rude.

He’d be abusive for wanting to go by himself or showing the slightest annoyance at you…

I would go with someone else.
Then if he wants to away with you, let him book it.

Is he paying out od pocket for the mistake from his own finances? Thats a must.

If he really cared about your happiness he would not be like this, he would make an effort to change.

You know he won’t change, just be prepared for a lifetime of reworking everything around him, and if you do have children together, going to every school thing alone, making apologies for him when he inevitably forgets their birthday or things that are importance to the rest of the family and essentially being a single parent with a forgetful lodger.

A lot of businesses would not be happy to have a wife or partner call up to check the employees diary! Unless he is self employed and is the boss! 😁

Men are incompetent with calendars full stop, I wonder how my husband would survive without me tbh.

Go with a friend or family member if he can't go and tell him to book a UK one when he is available to go and let you know the details.