SS visited today

[sotiredandconfused]

I recently had a HV come round. She appeared a little rigid and looked like she was attending a wedding but she seemed chatty and reflected back lots of positive things she was seeing. Today I had a SW unexpectantly visit and after she read out everything that the HV had raised, to say I was shocked is an understatement. Both my DH were there and the HV literally fabricated and misrepresented things she saw. The SW was lovely and stated she had no concerns and let me know I could make a complaint (I have).

So WTF! I'm still in shock. The HV asked me at the time whether I wanted another visit and I said no, and then SS turn up!

@Mielbee 🌸

We had one good one. The other was a disgrace. And I had severe on depression- which she never picked up on and which subsequently went undiagnosed for five years.

More info here please op. It’s a bit of a drip feed.

Maybe you SHOULD read more posts, you seem to be hard of understanding?

And you missed the posts where you accused OP of ‘offering her child on a plate’ because the father co-sleeps.

are you drunk?

Dh has shared a bed with dd and ds on holidays and the like. I can assure you if there was even a whisper of abuse, my kids wouldn't be in the same city as him let alone the same bed. Anyway, I snore and he doesn't so the kids pick him every time. It's a sad world when a dad can't share a bed with his young kids.

Hallelujah! We’re not alone on this thread. If only I had known 13 years ago, when everyone was charmed by my DD1 pretending to be a cat 24/7, that this was a signifier of autism, then my family would probably have not been put through the mill, my DD1’s mental health would not be trashed, we would not be involved with SS and we would not have pissed about for years with seeking help. @sotiredandconfused use your HV concern and your SS visit to try to expedite an neurodivergent assessment for your DD.

If the Social Worker is requesting lateral checks then the case hasn't been NFAd.

They're literally going to cross check you and your interactions with other agencies, OP.

I'm with the others - co-sleeping and a just turned 4 year old pretending to be a dog wouldn't trigger a safeguarding visit from SS or lateral checks.

There is more unsaid than said here.

@WhompingWillows interesting advice, hadn't thought of this- will do

And yet here we are.

I had a health visitor report me to SS because my son was "failure to thrive". Luckily , my mother in law used to be a midwife, and she was with me for the meeting, and pointed out the tongue tie that the health visitor had missed. The social worker was not impressed at all . Her theory was that because my DS was still being fed by ng tube when he came home, and was being seen by the SCBU midwife as well as the regular midwife and the health visitor, everybody assumed that somebody else had checked.

It is a dog, right? I mean I know other posters have been derailing the thread going on and on about cats, but they aren't generally kept in cages.

So I presume you mean a dog crate? It is actually a safety issue to allow a child to enter a dog crate because it's the dog's safe space and leaves the child at risk of being attacked by the dog protecting it's territory.

Was that one of the concerns raised?

Another one hard of understanding.
The issues are really very simple.

I think some people just want the details to start some juicy gossip.....

Yes, here you are, with further investigations underway.

I liaise with social services daily as part of my role. Thresholds are so high nowadays, you don't get a home visit from a social worker without there being significant concerns for a child's welfare. Nothing the OP has described so far would be deemed sufficiently serious to trigger a home visit. There is definitely more to this.

The referral on paper reads horribly. Of course she has to corroborate my story and what she saw. I consented for her to do this today. She acknowledged that oddity of the situation and that given the understandable stress caused she would expedite her report (but this is contingent on gp getting back to her). She is aiming to get it done by next week and stayed she will come around again (planned visit) so I could have sight of the form and then we go through it. I co pletely respect that she jas her job to donow BUT the referral should not have been made in the first place.

Why though? Does it work the same for a 4 year old boy sleeping with mum?

Sigh. Yet here we are. This is exactly why I have been left confused and angry.

No

Do you have a dog? If so what breed?

Why??
You can't grasp that OP probably means OTT smartly or prettily dressed?

Are you a teenager?

Retired HV here. We had to seek consent to refer (though if we had safeguarding concerns we we would have to say we were referring anyway if consent was denied). No surprise SS referrals/visits.

Sausage dog

My HV was in a nurses uniform?!

I'm in England and had a home visit at 12 months and was just offered one at 2.5 years.

So yes I guess it varies.

Because there's nothing remotely shocking about being smartly or prettily dressed at work.

So the OP's shock is inexplicable.

Are you a teenager?