Husband threw cat after scratch

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Tonight while trying to hold her still for a flea treatment, our cat severely scratched DH, drawing blood. DHs immediate kneejerk reaction was to throw the cat to the floor, hard. She missed the corner of a wooden table by about 4 inches.

DH is fuming that my only reaction was to scream at him for throwing her and not caring that he was bleeding. I know he was hurt but to throw her like that???

AIBU? was it just a reaction to being hurt or would other people put the cat down carefully regardless of being hurt? I'm really upset 😡

"Violence towards animals is Never acceptable."

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There are thousands of scenarios where violence towards an animal is entirely acceptable - e.g. stopping an XL Bully that is mauling a child, a farmer shooting a dog that is attacking sheep, defending yourself against a wild animal, etc.

I've had cat scratches. Your natural instinct is to pull your hand away. Throwing the animal is done in rage. Is she normally affectionate with him? He has possibly done this before.

How's the cat?

It seems like he wanted to punish the cat. Which is worrying.

I hope your DH is ok.

Depends if you mean picked the cat up and then launched it or just flung it away
First is not acceptable, second I get but cat shouldn't be doing that either!

Having been scratched by friends cats whilst helping worm them etc, the instinct is to pull your hand away when in pain, not to pick up the animal that hurts you and throw it. That is about lashing out and punishing. If you are in pain, your natural instinct is to recoil away from pain. That is a DH problem and one that speaks volumes to me if I was you.

love the thought of disciplining your cat!!

have you fleaed your cat previously OP? How have you done it before?

I can’t wrap mine in a towel but I get her in the bathroom sink to do it. I might shake my fist and call her a few names after I’ve done it but I know her reaction isn’t her fault

Throwing and dropping are not the same. A dropped cat would likely land on its feet.

Oh I've seen your further comment. Not good could have seriously hurt the cat!

If something is ripping your flesh, it's surely not an unreasonable response to fling it away from you.

I don't think he did anything wrong.

Frightening that so many people think it’s okay to throw an elderly cat to the floor. I have been scratched lids, blood drawn, never lost my temper so bad I hurt an animal.

is the cat okay? Keep an eye - cats really hide pain.

cant abide animal cruelty. No excuses. Our pets rely completely on us - especially when they are older

He didn't 'fling her away', he "threw her to the floor, hard" "forcefully threw her to the ground"

I agree.
I hope the DH is okay. Cat scratches can be awful.

It’s not always though. It’s fight OR flight. Flight is recoiling to get away from the threat, fight is pushing/throwing/whatever to get the threat away from you. Both are instincts, we don’t get to choose which one we do.

of course if he threw her in anger that’s awful but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.

You threw your two year old to the floor in a rage?

I hope you got him medical attention. We’re social services involved. Hope so for the poor kid

So if a child he was holding scratched or otherwise hurt him it would be okay for him to lose control and throw them to the floor in anger?

OP, have you tried wrapping cat tightly in a large, thick towel. If you are on your own (probably wise not to involve cat throwing H) kneel on the floor and wedge cats bum between your knees, or stand with cat on a table and wedge it back between your arm and body.

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No, it's not normal to throw the way you've described.

I keep rodents and been bitten many a time, I've jerked away and probably scared them but I've never thrown any of them.

If I ever murder someone I am pleading innocent die to rage and hoping half the people in this thread are the jury! Apparently it’s okay to completely lose it and throw elderly cats (and a two year old child😮) if you get a painful scratch.

TBF, you'd never drop or throw a baby, or even a puppy, but you can usually let go of a cat in an emergency, fairly confident that they right themselves. Even from standing height.

Are you sure he forcibly dashed it into the floor, and didn't just do an instinctive thing of pushing it away? Cat scratches hurt like buggery.

You know him better than we do.

Why are you wanting OP to tell you, for the 3rd time, that it was a deliberate forcible throw? The DH is now saying he is sorry, he must have now accepted he has something to be sorry about.

It's tempting to think it must be that.

We don't know that OP's current version isn't t coloured by emotion. I'd be terribly unreasonable if anyone dropped one of my animals, I'm afraid. At least until if calmed down a bit.

So can humans....

Really. The mum threw a two year old. A TWO YEAR Old child. Threw him. In the same way this man threw an elderly cat to the floor.

And that’s okay?

this thread is bonkers