Wedding guest dress

[Shiningstarr]

Family wedding next year.. seen this dress online that I love....

Would I be unreasonable to think this is ok for a wedding guest? Or is it too bridesmaidy?

ohelloclothing.com/products/phoebe-midaxi-dress-hot-pink

I cannot believe the comments on here

it’s lovely. I think it’s absolutely fine!! If you can’t dress up for a wedding when can you?

sounds like most people will have you in a bin bag on here!!

These are my opinions and mine alone. No, I'm not a pearl clutching old bag. Just a dressmaker.

It's a dress that is trying to be pretty but failing.
It's too much.
It's cheap looking.
It's also made of cheap fabric. Zoom in.

I've had a look through the wedding guest dress category on that website.

You need to be very careful. The cut of their dresses is a bit off in general.
They don't even flatter the models for the most part. You run the risk of opening the box to find you are very disappointed.

You suspect the bride probably won't like you showing up in that or you wouldn't be asking. It depends how well you like her, if you're willing to risk upsetting her on her wedding day and possibly losing the friendship.

You can ask here but none of us know her and won't be there to back you up if she goes Tonto on you.

We all fall in love with an item of clothing, occasionally, that we convince ourselves is ideal just because we love the idea of it so much but it ends up more trouble than it's worth.

You just have to weigh up if your feelings matter more than the potential feelings of the bride.

Me, I wouldn't risk upsetting a friend over a dress. I would dress a bit frumpy to please a friend getting married, if that would make her happy.

If it makes your friend happy for you to dress frumpy at her wedding, she's a shitty friend.

I don't think it's attention seeking. It's a gorgeous dress. Go for it.

Wow, saying the dress looks “slutty” or that you’d have to “be thin to wear it”. Or dressing “frumpy” to “please the bride”!

I don’t know what planet all those posters are from, but I glad I don’t live there.

That’s not really how wedding etiquette works though - although I appreciate where you are coming from.

I would dress a bit frumpy to please a friend getting married, if that would make her happy

hahaha! This is the biggest load of garbage.

I have seen all sorts of fabulous/daring/sexy dresses at wedding- both high end designer and high street, I've been to obscenely expensive lavish expensive weddings and informal beach ones. They were all splendid happy occasions. Not once have I ever heard or seen anyone dress "frumpy" on purpose.

Nor have I ever heard of a bride so cripplingly insecure that she specifically asked her friends to dress like the late queen mother.

Yes the criss cross does look uncomfortable and makes me think of those cuts of trussed meat that are bound with meat netting/twine for a pot roast.

For me the dress has too much going on to look elegant. I think off the shoulder can look nice, backless can look nice, short can be elegant, slits are fine, ruffles can be ok. Never sure about midriff cut-outs if I’m honest. But I think when you start throwing several ( or sometimes even just more than one) of these at a dress it’s over-complicated. What is it about weddings that seem to make women lose their fashion compass ?

No but I think there’s a sweet spot that isn’t frumpy but is still elegant.

Completely inappropriate especially if it's a church wedding as there's too much flesh on display. Even if it's a civil wedding, there's still too much flesh on display for a wedding.

Gorgeous dress which was linked on another thread

Yes the criss cross does look uncomfortable and makes me think of those cuts of trussed meat that are bound with meat netting/twine for a pot roast.

Uncomfortable and just not very practical for something you’ll be wearing all day. What if the strap ends get caught on something or someone as you brush past or work themselves loose as you dance the night away. Also,the model is 5ft 10 and a size 8 and has no bust. It’s not going to look the same on someone who is 5ft 6,a size 10 and with bigger boobs.

It's one of my bugbears that manufacturers use online only to get away with cheap fabric.

Dye, especially bold colour dye, sits differently on polyester and tends to look a bit cheap. Just the addition of some natural fibre in the fabric would help that deep fuschia pink look a lot nicer - which it deserves as it is a lovely colour.

If you need to ask you know the answer.

lovely colour but to me its a bit too partyish be perhaps ok if you were just going to the evening do but for church or office sit down meal no bit too fancy

I'm getting married next year and It wouldn't bother me if a guest wore that dress but I'm not very bridzillary. I think the back of the dress is pretty but personally I think the front looks like a piece of old material wrapped round to look like a dress

I think it looks great. It definitely wouldn't look out of place at any wedding I've been to. As a bride, I honestly couldn't tell you what any of my guests wore other than it wasn't a white gown and veil. I say go for it if you like it!

If I had a wedding I'd tell the guests the dress code was "wear your absolute favourite thing". Could be a beautiful dress ... could be your comfiest PJs ... the t-shirt you were wearing when your partner proposed ... that out-of-style frock you never wore enough even though you wanted to ... the ratty old jumper your late, beloved grandma knitted for you ... the executive suit that makes you feel like a boss at work ... your own wedding dress ... literally anything.

It's a fun dress OP, go for it!

Wow that’s a gorgeous dress I love it! OP, get it - you’re going to look beautiful.

I love it. I always consider the type of wedding before choosing my outfit - the type of couple, the time of year, colour scheme (if you can find out or tell from the invitation), the location (beach / farm / field / church / city) and choose my outfit accordingly. You will know these details OP, if you feel it works (and it doesn't match the colour of the bridesmaids) then go for it!

Christ. Talk about seizing on one bit of a post.

I said,
ME, I wouldn't risk upsetting a friend over a dress. I would dress a BIT frumpy to please a friend getting married, IF that would make her happy.

I was saying what I would be willing to do to make a friend happy. At no point did I say everybody has to nor that every bride would want that.

It was just a way to say I'd put a friend's feelings before my own IF I KNEW my look would likely upset her.

Me, I, bit, if.

This is why I stayed away from this place for three years. Hall full of people who take other people's opinion as a personal affront. Nitpicking word choice, one sentence, spelling or phrases. Constantly spoiling for a fight. Too many people who freak out if not everyone holds the exact same view as them. It's exhausting. I regret returning now. It never changes. I take that back, it's gotten worse.

I understood what you meant @JuicyBlueberry, I still think it's bonkers though.

Gosh I wasn't expecting that when I clicked on the link!

Looks like a nightie that's caught in her pants at the front!! 😂

Anyone talking about dressing frumpy to please the bride needs to give their head a good wobble.

I dress for myself, nobody else.

You can say that about all clothes.
Of course they look different on the model.
It doesn't mean it will look bad!