Wedding guest dress

[Shiningstarr]

Family wedding next year.. seen this dress online that I love....

Would I be unreasonable to think this is ok for a wedding guest? Or is it too bridesmaidy?

ohelloclothing.com/products/phoebe-midaxi-dress-hot-pink

I don't think I'd like your circles...

It's a lovely dress.

I think it's fine but depending on how tall you are- if you're quite short and it ends up being more of a maxi length then get it shortened so it's not too bridesmaidy

Slashed open to the navel? That would mean their vag was on show. I highly doubt anyone thought that was appropriate

@Dotto I would hate to mix in "your circles". Laughing at another's clothing?!? My god, are you and your friends 12?!? How cruel and immature. Do you also throw stones at pigeons?!?

And the debretts (or whatever it is) comment!! Holy lord above!! This isn't a royal wedding (or I'm sure the OP would have said), and it isn't 1940 so give it a rest.

Err, navel is your belly button? Not your vagina!

I don't think it's appropriate for a religious ceremony, ie, church.

I mean, you could probably get away with it, it's not that bad so far as flashing the flesh goes.

But it does look a bit like a cheap knock off of an attention seeking 1980s prom dress.

If someone wore this to a wedding I would instantly think they were trying to upstage the bride

wedding guest attire should be elegant and modest

this dress is neither

Do people actually do this? It would never occur to me to ask the Bride for her 'take' on what I was planning to wear to a wedding. When I got married the last thing on my mind was what other people were wearing, unless OP turns up in a white dress and a veil no reasonable Bride would care.

From the neck down!

This is a rather obtuse reply. Nobody I know would wear this to a wedding in my circles as it would look utterly ridiculous. Different circles obviously.

Well the wedding isn't until next year, so it's not as though she's bothering the bride the day before the wedding.

And depending in who the bride is to the OP (IE a friend or close relative) then I see no issue at all with asking. Although I certainly wouldn't ask the bride or bridesmaids if I didn't know know them well.

Surely it's the best way to know if the dress is suitable or not?

This would be fine for a wedding where I am in Ireland, from reading mumsnet UK wedding guest outfits are a lot more afternoon style/casual/less celebratory/dull whichever phrase you want yourself.

I don't like the colour I'm afraid though it's a matter of taste. Like many other posters Unfortunately I also think the back is too much, especially combined with the colour - the overall effect is shouting LOOK AT MEEEE. If you wear it I think half the guests like half the posters here will be thinking you're trying to compete with the wedding party. Sorry!

I think a lot of people would find it difficult to say that they thought a dress was too revealing.

You already see lots of posts on this thread suggesting that anyone who thinks that is a bitter jealous hag from 1940.

I think you would worry that the asker was going to think the same

I suppose the other question OP is would YOU feel comfortable with your whole back exposed and not wearing a bra? If yes go for it. If you are going to spend the whole day worrying about whether those ties are secure enough or that you are going to have a Janet Jackson style wardrobe malfunction during Come On Eileen, then you will have a miserable time.

The colour and length lovely so if you like that, maybe search out something similar but without the exposed back detail.

I'm sure ops circle isn't one that consists of 10 year olds.

I think its a beautiful dress and wouldn't have had an issue with it being worn at my wedding.

I suppose I'm struggling with the idea that OP, a grown woman, needs the Bride to sign off on her choice of dress. She's not actually in the wedding party, she's a guest, so whether or not the Bride likes her dress is irrelevant.

With the sleeves, the colour and the back, I do think it's just on the wrong side of an attention dress – if it just had two of any of those three elements, then I think fine, but all three is a bit much. I say this on what I personally think about when choosing wedding outfits. On the other hand if someone had worn this at my wedding I wouldn't have thought anything negative whatsoever, so I'm not sure it really matters!

Such a lovely amount of judgement on here
"Not demure"
"Showing off"
"Look at me"
"Too much flesh"
"Attention seeking"
"Too revealing"

It's gross

I feel like the back of the dress is just weird generally, somehow doesn't match how elegant it otherwise looks.

But you still said your social circle, including you, would actively laugh at someone in that dress.

Why? Do you honestly think you are a better person than the person wearing that dress?

It says more about you than the person wearing it.

It must be awfully insecure to be you that you have actively degrade other women and their clothing choices.

Slashed from the neck to navel and you think that includes the vagina?!

Sweet jesus.