Is this appropriate? As I would never do that.

[nocarbsandsugareveragain]

Ok we all know each other from kids school(myself and partner and the other couple - couple B)

I have gone out the other lady and some other mother a few times. She is like a school mum friend to me (not close)

Our kids are in the same class and are friends

Go to same clubs etc DS just started the football club in the last few weeks so DH is now on what's app group of the football club and I am not. This is how she (of couple B) is got DH's number.

DH does not talk much at all and only know the couple on a hello hi bases

DH just told me she's privately messaged him asking him if he can take their son to football next week because they are going to a funeral and of course he's said yes. I don't have an issue but I am thinking I would never do that in a million years, message someone else's husband or partner privately asking for anything. I would have messaged the lady asking her to ask her DH if he can help get their child the club. Or is it because she knows I don't ever got to the club?
Or am being unreasonable and that's the way things are done here? Sorry I am from a different background and culture

Whaaaat? Are you from the 1950s? How pathetic that you’re unwilling to message someone just because they have a penis. Weird as hell

Dear God it gets worse 😂

It's normal!!! DP 's DC are both in lots of clubs and he's not got a car at the minute so if it's raining etc he will as a mum or dad of one of their friends if they'd mind giving a lift

Completely inappropriate. Your husband and this woman are 99% likely to be having an affair.

Surely good manners would be to be involved with the group if you want people to contact you, regarding the subject matter of the group.

Op, I would never text the husband and would go through the wife. It’s only proper manners.

I would think it’s good manners to ask the person of whom you were actually requesting the favour; in this case, as the DH is the “football parent”, it would be him. As she knows both of you, I think she did the polite thing here, actually.

Completely appropriate. In fact there’s a whole movement against making every communication child related ‘mother’s work’ so she’s done the right and good thing. Football is clearly his thing and therefore he is managing it.

It's totally fine and you sound like hard work

Why is it good manners? I'd find it quite rude if someone asked my DP to ask me for a favour on their behalf - asking me themself is much more polite and respectful

I'm very pleasant thanks. And I tend to trust my dh, aswell as be willing to do other people a favour, especially for a funeral. You are obviously also hard work 😁

She did say she’s from an another culture.

Is @Niessechalk more on my wave length 🤔 or perhaps the husband is most definitely having an affair... due to a request of help

YNBU I will safely bet as soon as they are at football your DH will make an excuse to take the dog for a walk OP. Take heed OP, take heed…

Nothing wrong with this at all. YABU.

Yes OP, it's perfectly normal and appropriate. Your DH is the one who takes your DC to football and he is on the footie WhatsApp .

Question then is where is the OW from, if you want to turn it into that sort of conversation.

Sounds fine, your DH sorts football and she knows him and has his number, why not? Refreshing for someone to message a dad about something childcare related tbh instead of always the mum!