Sitting in the garden whilst dc in bed

[Wherearethestarsthen]

Do you do it?

Dd has just turned 6 and is going through some anxieties so one of us will lie with her until she falls asleep in our bed, then either fall asleep/go on phone etc or come downstairs to watch tv.
We both sat in the back garden this evening and kept the patio open, front patio locked, she is upstairs in main bedroom

Would you do this? Is it ok?

😂

Timely reminder to keep a spare key buried somewhere!

I got one of those after DD locked me out at 2.5 when I was putting the laundry out to dry. Fucking terrifying. No phone or anything on me either to just ring OH to come home.

She did it again at 4/5 because she was pissed off at me but I had the spare. She wasn't laughing when I got back in.

"Uh oh!" And ran. 😂😂

Make sure you close the back door in case a rat slips through, climbs up the stairs and nibbles her toes.

@Wherearethestarsthen just read your other posts here. Seriously - it’s more than fine. I mean this kindly but you seem really anxious.. I never even had a baby monitor 😅😂 I just relied on me checking him and him crying. Natures way.. of course everyone worries but keep it in perspective. I don’t think you need to worry even half as much as you are. I don’t mean to be unkind but your stress levels must be through the roof if you think about everything in life to this degree. Don’t listen to other people spreading their anxiety onto you. Just listen to doctors, everyone else is mostly bollocks!! You most definitely can sit in your garden and be out of sight and earshot of a child of 6 for some time.

Not only do I sit out in the garden

I go in our spa 🙀🙀

All while mini blondes 7 is asleep in the house

But what if she chokes?

I'm just pointing out that your friend is being ridiculous and you letting her worry you is also ridiculous.

Do you have an absolutely massive garden she’d have to walk for 20 minutes to find you in if she wakes up?

When you read about nutters who take their kids into the petrol station to pay for petrol rather than leaving them in the car, I can see why you may ask this @Wherearethestarsthen

But please don't join their nutty ways. Your kid will be fine

Of course it's OK to go sit in your garden with your kids in bed. What an odd question.

I wonder if I’ve stepped into a parallel dimension? We’ve been doing this since they were old enough to go into their own room. When babies we had the monitor outside with us, but now a toddler we don’t bother. But, we live in central London so no risk of a garden too big not to hear any cries!

If you and/or your friend seriously think you can't sit in your garden when your child is fast asleep, then both you and your friend need to get yourselves to the doctors because that is absurd.

Of course it's ok - she's six, if she's awake and needs you she could come and find you.

Unless you're sat in the room with a child, looking at them the whole time (not at your phone, not falling asleep yourself)...

You cannot know if they've choked or not. Choking can be completely silent.

It is also highly unlikely.

It could also happen to anyone of any age... how long is reasonable to gaze at someone to check they're not choking... 25? 40 years?

@stichguru She’d def be upset we weren’t there though

Won't one of you be going with? You can't be too careful

OP, I wonder if your friend is my old neighbour, who told my DH we were neglecting our DC as she had seen us sat in our garden in the evening whilst DC was in bed. Our house and garden were tiny. She was utterly batshit!!

I despair sometimes. Hardly surprising no one wants to have kids if this is the bar.

No, I've never done it but my dcs have loads of energy and go to bed late, so it's dark by the time they're in bed and I've dealt with all the chores, and sitting out in the dark doesn't appral to me.

That's because you lie with her until she falls asleep in your bed.

At six, she'll have to learn eventually that you and her dad have a life of your own.

Get her a monitor and if she needs you she can call you.

So she sits next to her child all day every day to make sure she doesn't vomit/choke?

This is a joke, right?

Who will watch for vomit when they’re at university?

Just when you thought you’d heard every possible thing people obsess about….

Of course it’s fine to sit in the garden when they are asleep. Maybe treat yourself to a glass of wine while you’re at it and relax

@JabbaTheBeachHut Four out of five of my mum friends also have to do this, I don’t think it’s that unusual

Why wouldn't you do it?

She’s 6 not 6 months