Sitting in the garden whilst dc in bed

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Do you do it?

Dd has just turned 6 and is going through some anxieties so one of us will lie with her until she falls asleep in our bed, then either fall asleep/go on phone etc or come downstairs to watch tv.
We both sat in the back garden this evening and kept the patio open, front patio locked, she is upstairs in main bedroom

Would you do this? Is it ok?

@JabbaTheBeachHut

@Rachie1973

Sarcasm. The soon going to uni gives it away.

You never know on here...

I was replying to the OP!

I totally got the sarcasm in the other post 🤣

They may be allowed to front face in the car when they go to Uni but it is still to be decided.

Timely reminder to keep a spare key buried somewhere!

I think you might need help for your anxiety too. I don't mean that rudely but you seem very anxious.

Ha!

Blimey, it never occurred to me to not sit out on a nice evening. I even used to have a glass of wine and read my book while I was out there.

My mum used to put my brother to bed and walka round the block or have a cuppa with the neighbour. It wouldn't occur to me not to be in the garden because dd was in bed and she's 2

I have just come in from the garden, I take the monitor out with me just in case (4 year old, pre-verbal, epilepsy, unable to come and get me if help is needed) but without the disabilities I wouldn't bother with a monitor. It's been a lovely evening, I sat watching the moon rise and listening to the owls.

If the children are in the East Wing and I'm in the walled garden, behind the orchard and over from the duck pond then perhaps not, but if I'm sitting on my patio with the doors open of my 3 bed semi then I think it'll be ok.

And why not?

Depends how large the area is

you’ll get people that say not if it’s over 40ft away from your dc

and others that say it’s ok

You can't be intending to just let them go to university on their own? Or do you mean your husband has agreed to go with them?

Of course it's absolutely fine. Do you really need to ask?

We certainly did this. Also, we would have a glass or two of wine or beer outside on a warm evening too, which tends to cause ridiculous pearl clutching on here because you should apparently never drink in charge of children. You should be behaving as though at any moment you will be rushing them to hospital. 🙄

All bollocks.

😂😃😅

Totally agree… my DC is much younger not even school age and I have to go into the garden every night to clean up his toys… water the garden… put away the sandpit etc whilst he’s asleep upstairs in bed.

I don’t understand?! What’s the worst that can happen? They wake up and come downstairs and find you on the patio?

I mean. They won’t vomit really and choke at 6.

i read somewhere that you can’t choke after the age of 5 on vomit and it’s vomited out with force and the only time it happens after the child age is because of drink or drugs.

I’m so ashamed, I gave up supervising my kids when they were 16. I thought this was ok but now I know I should have waited till 18 and uni age. Do you think I’ve scarred them for life?

Of course its fine.

In the prospectus it says that the university has a "listening service"

Of course it's ok. She's six, presumably she could get up and come and find you if she needed you- she's not a baby. As for vomit andchoking- what age can kids be presumed to not be vomiting and choking as soon as parents are out of earshot? Healthy children do not not just vomit and choke in their sleep- never known this happen to anyone.

This is an odd question to me… why wouldn’t it be fine??? I don’t know if you’re suggesting you might not hear her (but she’s 6??!) or are worried about an intruder or something else I’ve not thought of…! What are you worried about???
I mow the lawn when my toddler naps sometimes. I absolutely thing it’s fine to be at home doing something when they’re asleep. (Providing they are safe..)

@JabbaTheBeachHut ?? We don’t stay watching her?