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JKR being uncharacteristically quiet

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Jdugsgsgwyd · 17/08/2024 14:42

Anyone else noticed since the news that JKR is being sued by Imane Khelif she's been very quiet, unless I'm mistaken she's hasn't tweeted at all in about a week.

and hasn't responded at all to the legal action being taken against her. This is very unlike her, I'm thinking she's been advised by her lawyers to keep quiet. Anyone else think she might have put her foot in it this time?

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Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:23

TheKeatingFive · 19/08/2024 12:20

What’s important is that we acknowledge that sometimes people’s sex ( “observed” , “assigned”, registered) at birth does not always match their identity, and/ or their body

Mistakes made in identifying the sex of infants, due to DSDs would need to be corrected, for medical reasons as well as anything else.

Sex not matching 'identity' is not of much relevance outside the individual and their close acquaintances so no need to account for this in any official capacity.

You evidently know nothing about sex variance from either a medical or social perspective

TheKeatingFive · 19/08/2024 12:26

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:23

You evidently know nothing about sex variance from either a medical or social perspective

You misunderstand. I focus on what important and relevant instead of getting caught up in the nonsense that you are continually spouting.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/08/2024 12:27

Tandora · 19/08/2024 11:59

Christ alive I don’t have the time for this.

I’m not particularly attached to the language of sex “assignment”. If you want to use a different word- fine by me. Sex “registered” , sex “observed”, “birth sex” all fine by me. What’s important is that we acknowledge that sometimes people’s sex ( “observed” , “assigned”, registered) at birth does not always match their gender (and/ or their body) - trans and cis , sex diverse, sex variant, is part of the language that enables this understanding.

It’s hilarious (and once again profoundly hypocritical ) that you equate me to a catholic ascribing “sin”. All I want to do is describe things. You are the ideologue who wants to introduce value judgements like “correctly” or “incorrectly” or “corrected” - you want to do this so you can police peoples experiences. In your mind there are “correct” ways of being and “incorrect” ways of being. I don’t subscribe to such religiosity. I’m not interested in judging whether someone’s experience is “correct” or “incorrect”, I’m simply interested in describing it.

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I also don't have time now because I'm working, but given you have made some pretty strong accusations here I will come back and answer properly.

For now I'll just say I refute your accusations utterly and find it comical you are accusing me of "religosity" when I have been scrupulously careful to work with logic and facts, and to highlight differences of belief rather than claim right or wrong. One might almost wonder if I've touched on a trigger point - if so I apologise for inadvertently raising a sensitive topic for you.

To be clarify, if I use "correct" it's nothing more than "does this make a loigically coherent argument".

Your assertion "I’m not interested in judging whether someone’s experience is “correct” or “incorrect”, I’m simply interested in describing it." is deeply hypocritical given that you are placing IK's supposed (as projected by you) "experience" as higher value than the expereince of the women IK fought, and you are asserting the desire of gender variant people to frame their experiences using language like "cis" is more valid than the right of others (who may also be gender variant BTW) to say "this does not describe me".

Anyway, work calls - looking forward to showing the other logical gaps later.

Helleofabore · 19/08/2024 12:27

Michscoll89 · 19/08/2024 11:40

I’m going off the evidence from herself stating she was born with a vagina, and the fact her passport says so. Also the fact that the IOC cleared her to compete under a women’s category. That’s all the evidence I need, what kind of proof do you need and feel you’re entitled to!?

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I don't feel 'entitled' to anything.

Female competitors in that boxing ring though, they are fully entitled to fair and safe sport. Do you agree that they are entitled to have confidence in the IOC rules that have been shown now to be extremely weak in protecting the female sports category?

I have posted the history of the IOC's decisions and linked up what their latest policy is.

The IOC allows male people with differences of sex development to compete in the female sports category if their passport states female. Even if that athlete's birth registration has been found to be incorrect and that they are a male.

The IOC has made this clear.

But if you are interested in the evidence to the contrary of your belief that Khelif is 'female', there are experts who would disagree with you.

We have two tests from independent labs in different countries, and the results have been suppressed by the athletes. We have a Gynecologist making a statement that the boxers both have XY chromosomes and pubertal advantage ie that both of these boxers went through a male puberty.

We have an endocrinologist in Paris stating that ‘despite‘ karyotype and testosterone levels, Khelif is a ‘woman’. Female is not used here. This was reported by one of Khelif's coaches about a separate test done last year after the IBA results were discussed with Khelif.

Female people don't have testosterone levels that don't fit in the 'female range' of testosterone.

From the same coach, we also have the reports that an Algerian doctor has for the past year been monitoring testosterone suppression for Khelif.

Female athletes don’t have any requirements to suppress naturally produced testosterone levels.

Ever.

Only male athletes do this.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 19/08/2024 12:28

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:17

Cis is the word used to describe someone whose sex (assigned, observed, registered) matches their identity. It is part of the framework of language that communicates, describes, illuminates , gives voice to the experiences of gender and sex diverse people
(Because these are people whose bodies and identities do not always match sex as assigned/ observed/ registered at birth)

Are you actually, honestly telling me that you have an identity which "matches" your vagina?

In what sense is your identity like your vagina?

This makes zero sense to me.

And in what way am I similar to a male person who believes their identity looks like a vagina?

TheKeatingFive · 19/08/2024 12:29

Female competitors in that boxing ring though, they are fully entitled to fair and safe sport. Do you agree that they are entitled to have confidence in the IOC rules that have been shown now to be extremely weak in protecting the female sports category?

I think it's important to note that females have not consented to box males in competition. The IOC have a responsibility to ensure this isn't breached.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/08/2024 12:30

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:17

Cis is the word used to describe someone whose sex (assigned, observed, registered) matches their identity. It is part of the framework of language that communicates, describes, illuminates , gives voice to the experiences of gender and sex diverse people
(Because these are people whose bodies and identities do not always match sex as assigned/ observed/ registered at birth)

No. Language only works when everybody understands and accepts what words mean. The vast majority of English speakers feel no need of a word to describe someone whose sex 'matches their identity'. They are perfectly happy with the long-standing meanings of the words woman, man, girl, boy, female and male, all of which refer back to sex. Adding a little known prefix borrowed from chemistry is just confusing. If people who believe they can identify as the opposite sex or as no sex want to invent words to describe themselves, they can obviously go right ahead, but they can't compel the rest of us to use these words too.

viques · 19/08/2024 12:38

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:17

Cis is the word used to describe someone whose sex (assigned, observed, registered) matches their identity. It is part of the framework of language that communicates, describes, illuminates , gives voice to the experiences of gender and sex diverse people
(Because these are people whose bodies and identities do not always match sex as assigned/ observed/ registered at birth)

Well, I am a woman, don’t have any problems or doubts about my identity as a woman so would prefer that people respect my right to give my voice to my experience of being a woman and stop sticking prefixes on the word that describes my sex. If people want to give voice to their own experience then fine, but don’t do it by hijacking and debasing my words.

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:39

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/08/2024 12:27

I also don't have time now because I'm working, but given you have made some pretty strong accusations here I will come back and answer properly.

For now I'll just say I refute your accusations utterly and find it comical you are accusing me of "religosity" when I have been scrupulously careful to work with logic and facts, and to highlight differences of belief rather than claim right or wrong. One might almost wonder if I've touched on a trigger point - if so I apologise for inadvertently raising a sensitive topic for you.

To be clarify, if I use "correct" it's nothing more than "does this make a loigically coherent argument".

Your assertion "I’m not interested in judging whether someone’s experience is “correct” or “incorrect”, I’m simply interested in describing it." is deeply hypocritical given that you are placing IK's supposed (as projected by you) "experience" as higher value than the expereince of the women IK fought, and you are asserting the desire of gender variant people to frame their experiences using language like "cis" is more valid than the right of others (who may also be gender variant BTW) to say "this does not describe me".

Anyway, work calls - looking forward to showing the other logical gaps later.

To be clarify, if I use "correct" it's nothing more than "does this make a loigically coherent argument".

you used it to describe someone’s sex (observation or assignment).

I personally prefer the terminology of “sex registered at birth”. As this refers to a factual event- the recording of someone’s sex, and avoids any assumptions about whether sex in that instance was “correctly” or “incorrectly” assigned/ observed and how it was assigned/ observed. It is important to avoid making these assumptions as - in your words (which I would not choose)- it is possible for sex to be “incorrectly observed” at birth.

So if we stick to sex registered at birth. Cis refers to a person whose sex registered at birth (female or male) matches their identity. IK is a cis woman since she identifies as female and was registered female at birth. There’s nothing nefarious about it. Just simple description of the facts.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 19/08/2024 12:44

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:39

To be clarify, if I use "correct" it's nothing more than "does this make a loigically coherent argument".

you used it to describe someone’s sex (observation or assignment).

I personally prefer the terminology of “sex registered at birth”. As this refers to a factual event- the recording of someone’s sex, and avoids any assumptions about whether sex in that instance was “correctly” or “incorrectly” assigned/ observed and how it was assigned/ observed. It is important to avoid making these assumptions as - in your words (which I would not choose)- it is possible for sex to be “incorrectly observed” at birth.

So if we stick to sex registered at birth. Cis refers to a person whose sex registered at birth (female or male) matches their identity. IK is a cis woman since she identifies as female and was registered female at birth. There’s nothing nefarious about it. Just simple description of the facts.

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Does anyone's sex registered at birth match their identity though? Seriously?

The only people I know who believe they have an identity which either matches or doesn't match their genitalia are trans people.

What does an identity which matches having a vagina even look like?

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:46

viques · 19/08/2024 12:38

Well, I am a woman, don’t have any problems or doubts about my identity as a woman so would prefer that people respect my right to give my voice to my experience of being a woman and stop sticking prefixes on the word that describes my sex. If people want to give voice to their own experience then fine, but don’t do it by hijacking and debasing my words.

Yeh you just want your experience to remain the “default “ as it’s always been. Like a white person denying they have an ethnicity. Or a straight person denying they have a sexuality. See how that works?

Helleofabore · 19/08/2024 12:47

TheKeatingFive · 19/08/2024 12:29

Female competitors in that boxing ring though, they are fully entitled to fair and safe sport. Do you agree that they are entitled to have confidence in the IOC rules that have been shown now to be extremely weak in protecting the female sports category?

I think it's important to note that females have not consented to box males in competition. The IOC have a responsibility to ensure this isn't breached.

I agree, as you know.

We have discussed this on how many threads now?

Funny though, isn't it? When we ask a question about consent and whether these female boxers had the right to know exactly which sex athlete they are boxing, no one who supports Khelif being included in the female category answers the question.

I have decided that the reason is because those people really haven't got an answer that they want to declare on a public forum. Because could be for different reasons, but I suspect that in large part it shows their complete lack of care for female people, or it shows the inconsistency in their position.

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 12:49

Tandora · 19/08/2024 10:40

Again, cis is nothing more than a descriptive term that enables trans and sex variant experiences to be acknowledged/ captured/ expressed through language. You wish to disappear their experiences and their participation in public life by eliminating that language.

The term "cis" in this case is the forced labelling of women and men that do not require a label. Mainly done by those that complain that others mislabel them.

The descriptive term for a woman is a woman
The descriptive term for a man is a man
The descriptive term for a trans woman is a transwoman.
non binary is non binary etc.

To put it another way a woman is not a sub group of woman.

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:49

cis is just a useful piece of shorthand for somebody whose sex at birth and gender identity match.

Obviously if you deny the existence of gender as something which can be incongruent with your birth sex it's meaningless but I cannot see why it's use is offensive.

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 12:53

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:49

cis is just a useful piece of shorthand for somebody whose sex at birth and gender identity match.

Obviously if you deny the existence of gender as something which can be incongruent with your birth sex it's meaningless but I cannot see why it's use is offensive.

It is offensive because it is a belief that is being forced on people.

BeyondOlympicLevelProcrastinator · 19/08/2024 12:54

I have a question, it's been randomly floating around my head so I'm intrigued to hear opinions...

Iirc 50% of individuals with 5ARD - AFAB, for clarity - decide to live as men once they hit puberty.
Should they be allowed to compete in female sports, if they meet the criteria of still having a female passport? Would you view them as the same as 'trans men', who are fine in the female category?

CasperGutman · 19/08/2024 12:54

NAndJIsLockingDown · 17/08/2024 14:45

Well whenever she speaks she receives rape and death threats from the left, so you can't blame her for taking a bit of time out.

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"The left" is a bit of a sweeping generalisation. I'm on the left, and certainly haven't sent JKR any death threats. I think she has a point, and that carefully considered words she's written on the subject of gender identity and the need to protect women-only spaces have been caricatured and over-simplified to demonise her. There are right-wing trans rights activists, and left-wing gender critical feminists. This isn't really an issue where a tribal left-right split is helpful (if it ever is!).

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:55

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 12:53

It is offensive because it is a belief that is being forced on people.

How is it forced?

Helleofabore · 19/08/2024 12:56

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:49

cis is just a useful piece of shorthand for somebody whose sex at birth and gender identity match.

Obviously if you deny the existence of gender as something which can be incongruent with your birth sex it's meaningless but I cannot see why it's use is offensive.

Have you missed the point that Khelif is being described as a 'cis woman' to both shame posters who point out that Khelif has been tested and shown to be a male athlete with male pubertal advantage, and to leverage Khelif's inclusion into the protected female category for boxing?

The use of 'cis' in this instance shows the term to be meaningless to enable female people to describe their needs that are unique to any male person, particularly those who have a difference of sex development that includes the virilisation of their body.

It is offensive because its use has been shown now to be harmful to female people. And because there are large groups of female people who don't believe in the philosophical beliefs that have led to the creation of such a term. Why should anyone accept a term, let alone feel coerced to, that is derived from someone else's philosophical belief? Particularly now that it is shown to be meaningless for describing female people collectively.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 19/08/2024 12:56

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:49

cis is just a useful piece of shorthand for somebody whose sex at birth and gender identity match.

Obviously if you deny the existence of gender as something which can be incongruent with your birth sex it's meaningless but I cannot see why it's use is offensive.

What. Does. This. Mean?

What does an identity which matches having a vagina look like?

And what does an identity which matches having a penis look like?

Somebody for the love of God please explain.

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:56

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 12:53

It is offensive because it is a belief that is being forced on people.

It’s simply a factual descriptor as I explained clearly above. You are the one forcing your beliefs on people by trying to censor language used to describe things (/people) you don’t like.

Helleofabore · 19/08/2024 12:56

Bromptotoo · 19/08/2024 12:55

How is it forced?

Shaming, messaging in some organisations force the use. That is just two ways.

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 12:57

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:46

Yeh you just want your experience to remain the “default “ as it’s always been. Like a white person denying they have an ethnicity. Or a straight person denying they have a sexuality. See how that works?

Can you define gender, or explain what it is?
Or will you comeback with non descript feelings?

Some of us have been trying to get rid of gender stereotypes and see that the gendered ideology is a step backwards for everyone.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 19/08/2024 12:59

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:56

It’s simply a factual descriptor as I explained clearly above. You are the one forcing your beliefs on people by trying to censor language used to describe things (/people) you don’t like.

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It's not a factual descriptor.

There is no such thing as a gender identity which matches any particular type of genitalia.

FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 13:00

Tandora · 19/08/2024 12:56

It’s simply a factual descriptor as I explained clearly above. You are the one forcing your beliefs on people by trying to censor language used to describe things (/people) you don’t like.

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Except that it is not a factual descriptor.
It would appear that I am not the only one trying to force my beliefs on other people.
As for censoring language by describing what things mean.
You are having a laugh. Without having a definition your points are ultimately meaningless.

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