FFS why don't you drive ??

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So annoying to read threads on here that start with .. I don't drive .. my dp/DH does ..

Why why this is even a thing ? Does benefit of penis somehow render them more able to? Does their testosterone somehow benefit their abilities.. or is it simply something men regard as an essential in life ?

Before you all pile on .. yes there are certain disabilities that count you out . Severely visually impaired.. uncontrolled epilepsy.. but when one of my best mates who has spina bifida managed it with a hand controlled car via motability.. I think perhaps it's just not trying hard enough and happy for the man to do the driving .. even my autistic step son (severe - (special school until 21) got his license..

There is only one reason I can think not to bother - and that is because you are city dwellers with excellent public transportation .. but the rest of you .. why ? It just seems so 'weedy' .

we have a car ( small cheapest ) by choice. We used to have a big one for a season because I wanted to be driven in a car with space LOL. I am absolutely happy with the small car now. As long as it goes. I don't drive because I don't live rurally.

The biggest pleasure for me is to take my daughter , catch the bus and have a good breeze out in the bus to the next town, do visits, coffee shops, clothes shopping and all that and my husband to come and fetch us. I am sorry for you to be jealous of me, I just have a caring man.

There is that to be considered of course.. although I still think that 'benefit of penis' seems to be the biggest winner.

I drive but I never had so little to do that I felt angry at people who don't drive. There could be so many reasons lack of money, a bad experience with an instructor, undiagnosed dyspraxia, or just plain not wanting to. You need to take a chill pill OP.

I know more men that don't drive than women. Maybe I know a lot of feckless men but it's them that have coasted along letting others drive for them. We are city people too so not had a car in 20+ years even though I drive.

I can drive and would if I had to. I don't enjoy it though, mainly because everyone is so angry and aggressive on the roads. I used to love it and drove everywhere for about twenty years.

It probably is a bit weedy. I'm anxious about a lot of things I didn't used to let phase me and driving is one of them. Luckily I don't need to drive anywhere really, I get public transport to work in London and we live in the middle of town.

I have never relied on a man for money or anything else and never will, I have a full time and well paid job! I just don't like driving much.

I choose not to drive so I ‘don’t’ drive. If I was trying to learn and couldn’t do it, I’d say I ‘can’t ‘.

I live in London and so never felt the need to pass. Couldn’t drive to work even if I wanted to. I’m thinking about learning but it would be prohibitively expensive to right now and not a priority.

I'm one of these weeds that bother you. I live rurally with two kids and having the ability to drive would be life changing but I simply can't afford the lessons and don't have childcare for the three hours it would take me per week to get a bus to the town, have a lesson, and come back.

I always worry that people think I'm not a proper adult and that I'm needy and pathetic for not learning this essential life skill and this thread has made me feel completely shit.

Interesting thead.

post saying your male partner doesn’t drive and you’d be inundated with responses about how unattractive it is. However you’ve had a lot of (non driving) presumably women saying it’s fine.

i think it’s a pretty basic life skill and whilst I understand people finding it hard, I’d you physically can then you probably should

Exactly who are we none driving women hurting ? I don't rely on anyone, I walk a hell everywhere and I'm probably much fitter than you op for that.

Nobody I know has a child who left school at 16. Any child I missed who might have left school by 16 almost certainly grew up on a farm and could probably drive quite competently off road by the time they were 14. And operate a tractor.

I know quite a few people who don't drive, both male and female. Some of them have never been able to afford to learn, some have never been interested in learning, some can't be arsed. They're all perfectly happy to cycle, use public transport and/or taxis.

A couple of them have bike licences and ride bikes instead. One friend only learned to drive after an awful accident when someone pulled out in front of her motorbike when she was doing 40mph. Amazingly, her only injuries were broken thumbs, but it rather put her off, and the money she got in compensation more than paid for the lessons.

It really doesn't bother me if people don't drive, it means fewer cars on the roads than if they all learned.

If OP is this 'fummin' over non drivers who have no bearing on her actual life then fucking hell, she will be a menace on the roads no doubt.

I might be wet but least I'm not .. well you fill in the expletive.

The number of 6th formers picked up in driving school cars each days is enormous, not all leave at 16.

Why "should" we?

Why do you think you have a right to tell people what they should do with their lives?

I do get what you mean.
I can and do drive, DH and I have our own cars because we both need them for work. But usually when we go anywhere as a family together he will drive, this is because he quite enjoys a nice drive and doesn't find it stressful whereas I do and don't really enjoy it. I do regularly drive around with the DC though it's just family days out here he will drive. We usually also go in his car which I find quite big to drive.

I have a friend who never drives though and I can't really understand it, her DH drives her everywhere and has to do all the driving, or she gets the train. They do all supermarket shops together. It would "drive" me mad not to have the independence to go places myself! We live rurally so not driving here is really limiting.

Huge generalisations here. I was much younger learning to drive than my husband. However he does most of the driving socially as I drive for work and he has a better sense of direction so doesn't need to rely on sat nav or map reading.

I know several couples where the woman can drive and the man can not. I can't think of any couples where it is the other way round. I know a few single people who never learnt but nobody in a long term relationship where the woman is a non-driver.

It's against the law to drink and drive and i prefer to drink......

I can drive, but I'm awful at it so I stick to simple routes which I know well. My spacial awareness and reaction times are really bad and I'm not good at multi tasking.
Honestly doubt I would be safe at all driving in a city or at speed even with practice. I've been driving for about 10 years and don't exceed about 50mph and stay within about a 10 mile radius of roads which I know well.

6th form isn't school.

Even though we have a car (that DH drives, gasp) I’ve roughly totted up the cost of learning to drive, which will take bloody ages because I know I’ll be shit at it, coordinated stuff isn’t my strong suit, and adding me to the insurance, and it’s still more than me taking taxis and Ubers if I need to.

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Statistically 81% of uk men have a license and 71% of women do. Obviously havi g a license and actually driving are different things. But I guess the 29% of women are over represented in the threads you read.

I’m learning now aged 33.

As an adult I’ve only ever lived in global cities with metro systems so never really needed it.

And there was nobody to fork out for lessons and a car for me at 17/18, as some people are lucky enough to have.

For some people (myself included, although I did have a licence once) driving is as big a task as flying a jet. Imagine pilots deriding and laughing at people because they couldn’t fly a plane or were anxious sitting in the pilot seat. Instead of being smug and self righteous why not understand that everyone is different. For some driving is easy, for others negotiating all the different aspects of driving is like a dyslexic trying to read War & Peace.

I have dyspraxia and I crash really, really well.